Monthly Archives: November, 2011

There is no such thing as perfect, and there is no such thing as good enough either.

There is no such thing as perfect, and there is no such thing as good enough either.

            Everyone will agree that no one is perfect.  Some may even agree that nothing is perfect, except for God in heaven.  (Side note – we can’t even agree on God!)  That being said, we are sometimes all too ready to say “Good enough” and pat ourselves on the back at the end of the day.  But is “Good Enough” really Good Enough?  Yes here comes another cliché, “Aren’t we supposed to constantly strive to get better?

            I have been up on stage and in front of crowds a lot of times, and no matter how well I did, I never felt like I couldn’t do better.  As time passes, the Great Performances fade and the Mistakes stay with me, all the while I want that next shot at it.  I want that next chance to nail it.  Maybe this is a personality flaw, maybe I should give myself a break and start saying I did my best, it was “Good enough” but was it? 

            Executives work long hard hours to take steer companies, but they still rely on the efforts of the rank and file.  Professional Athletes and Famous Entertainers live in a hyper inflated pay scale where being twice as good get you ten times more money than the next guy.  The rest of us, the ones in the middle, we can be twice as long and work twice as hard and at the end of the day not much changes.  We are left to change ourselves, we have to take the bull by the horns so to speak and say “No” to “Go0d enough” and look for “Better” and then “Best.”  We have to put ourselves in the best position for ourselves and our families. 

           This is not meant to be negative; no I mean to be very positive when I say this… Settling for “Good enough” is a trap.  The real answer is to always strive for Better!  Better performance from yourself first and then better will start to rub off on those around you.  You will begin to look for the best position you can put yourself in, and the best way you can help those around you to make things better for everyone involved.

            There is no such thing as perfect, and there is no such thing as good enough either.

Change now!

It’s that time of year again, where we give thanks, give presents, reflect and then vow to change.  Yes, it’s time to start thinking about New Year’s Resolutions.  So my question is why wait to New Year, why not change now?  Let face it, most people make and then break their resolutions, recent research shows that while 52% of participants in a resolution study were confident of success with their goals, only 12% actually achieved their goals.

 Again, why wait until New Years Eve or Day?  If you need to make a change; make it now, and learn to stick to it.  Write it down, post it in a place you will see it everyday.  Keep it simple and track your results.  Keep in mind that it takes three weeks to form a habit and a lifetime to break a habit.  Seek out and surround yourself with people who have similar goals, and create a support network.  If you fall, don’t stay down, get back up and get back on track.  Set milestones, mini goals within the big goal and celebrate your results in a positive way.

 So I will continue to ask, why wait until New Year’s?  Change now!  Change as soon as you realize you need to make a change.  So many self help shows on TV and we only believe what we want to hear.  So I ask, why lie to yourself?  Are you making a Resolution because it is the thing to do or are you really going to change?  And how can you change if you fall back into the same routine, with the same information and the same people?  Find out as much as you can about what you want to change, find people who have had success in that area and get involved in new activities to change your routine.  Why can that only happen on New Years Eve or Day?  Why can’t it happen in spring, or summer of fall or in the time leading up to New Years?  Why can’t it happen today?

Top 10 New Year’s Resolutions

Lose weight

Manage debt/save money

Get a better job

Spend more time with family

Quit smoking

Eat right/Get fit

Get a better education

Reduce stress

Going greener

Volunteer to help others

This ain’t my first rodeo.

This ain’t my first rodeo.

 As the cowboys would say, “This ain’t my first rodeo.”  No this blog has been a long time coming.  As they would say in the city, “I have been around the block” 

Before “Facebook” was all the rage, I was collecting friends and creating groups on “Myspace.”  I was promoting club nights and also trying to promote for some artist friends of mine.  I have built some teams and watched them fall apart, and I have helped out with charity events and fundraisers, some more successful than others.

I started a video log on “Youtube” about two years ago with the goal of uploading a positive message clip a day for a year; much easier said than done.  Yeah, I still upload a clip every now and then, but I have switched jobs a couple of times and find it harder and harder to shoot video from the hip without sounding the same after 100 or so videos.

I have been connecting with lots of people on “Linkedin” recruiters and classmates and colleagues.  I have been trying to create a network where I can help other people find a new job.  I believe that karma or the search for nirvana has been the reason that I have been able to land on my feet even though I am sometimes on shaky ground.

And so I keep on, trying to build a community where I can spread a message of hope for a brighter tomorrow.  One blog at time, one link at a time, one friend at a time, one clip at a time; I do believe one day it will all come together.  One day we will all be able to come together and co-promote each other in a positive way, where we can all be better off and make the world better off. 

No this ain’t my first rodeo and it won’t be my last rodeo.  I can recite the parade of clichés.  Keep Swinging, Keep Swimming, Keep Running, Keep Fighting, Keep Trying, Stay Positive, Stay in the Hunt, Fight the Good Fight, Do not go quietly into that good night, Keep Shooting, Keep Reaching; Yes, Yes, Yes, I will!

No this ain’t my first rodeo, I will continue to get back in the saddle.

When you wish upon a star!

“Star light, star bright, first star I see tonight.”

How much we remember, and how much we forget.  We learn these songs as kids, little lullabies sung to us by our parents, or coming from the TV or Movie screen.  We learn them in music class in school, yes we learn how to sing these songs, but as we grow older the meaning is lost.

“When you wish upon a star, makes no difference who you are”

Wishing upon a star becomes, wishing for a day off or wishing for the lottery to finally land on my “Lucky” numbers.  Or wishing for that long lost rich relative to deem me the only heir to their fortune.  The wish for chasing our dreams becomes the wish for a better life through very improbable circumstances.  We believe our lives would be changed by some great big miracle and we fail to change our lives by paying closer attention to the little miracles that surround us.

“Twinkle, twinkle little star.”

Why not spend a little more time on that hobby and a little less time at the same old routine that has you feeling like you are going nowhere?  Why not develop a new skill that may lead to a raise or promotion or a new business venture?  Why not take a class or volunteer, or coach or mentor in an area that you wish you could spend more time doing?

“You may be my lucky star”

We never really forget about wishing on stars, but we sometimes forget to stop and take a look at the midnight sky.  We get so busy getting up early and working late that we forget to look up at the vast wonder of the night sky that had us dreaming as children.  Now we are so busy running back and forward that we do not want to be reminded of the dreams we let slip away.  Will it really hurt you that much to wish upon a star again?

“Shooting Stars never stop, even when they reach the top.”

Maybe make a list of the things you used to want to do when you were a kid.  Then make a list of things you can do as an adult, or as a parent, or as a brother or sister, as an aunt or uncle or cousin to help someone’s Wish upon a star come true.  You may be amazed that as you help others reach their dreams; you get one step closer to reaching your own.

Create a place for yourself and control your music choices.

Does the music you listen to affect your mood.

Of course it does, we listen to happy music when we are happy; and we listen to sad music when we are sad.  We condition ourselves with the music and the music conditions us.  We listen to certain styles of music when we are young, and discover what we think is New music as we age, and when we get older we realize it all been done before, it has just been given a shiny new coat of paint.

Uplifting music is written in Major Keys with Ascending Progressions, Depressing Music is written in Minor Keys with Descending Progressions.  Can it affect your moods, sure it can.  To what effect, that depends on strength of the mind of the listener.  When we want to reminisce about the past, we put on the Good Old Time Records.  When we are up for the weekend, maybe we want to hear something fun and new.  Music is used in Movies, TV, Advertising and Radio to get us to get up and buy or buy in to things. 

So what we listen to can condition us without our knowledge; or if we are strong minded, when can use this conditioning to our advantage.  When I have a lot of work to get done, I have certain playlists I listen to at work.  Because I work in a Technical Field, I like to listen to Techno Movie Soundtrack type stuff that makes me feel like I can control the Matrix.  When I workout, I like to listen to up tempo music that sets the pace and the mood.

So when you want to relax or reflect, listen to the music that will let you do so, but don’t let it trap you in… Don’t listen to depressing music and stay depressed.  Listen to it to get over your depression and then get back into the positive, motivational kind of stuff that sends a “Can Do” message into your brain.  We could spend all day talking about the subconscious effect music can have on you, and how skillful musicians and producers use certain techniques to convey certain feelings; or I can just say, be smart about your music choices and use them to your advantage.

Like what you like because you like it, and do not let the tastes of your friends lead you down a path you don’t want to go.  If you get the most done while listening to something only you like, load it on your favorite electronic gizmo and put on your headphones and have at it.  Control your choices, control your moods and control your outcomes.  Don’t let the world control your thinking, create a place for yourself and control your music choices.

So who am I to be giving Motivational Tips?

So who am I to be giving Motivational Tips?

I am not famous. I am not rich. I am not born of royalty. I have not won any elected offices or been appointed to nay powerful posts. I am not a Chairmen or a CEO (Yet) of any major company. I am just some guy who has never stooped dreaming, and dreaming big I might add.

Depending on who you talk to you will hear I am a great guy, or I am a jerk. I am a loud mouthed know it all, or I am a guy who studies hard and asks lots of questions. Did I always study hard? “No!” I spent way too much time waiting for things to happen; when I found out you have to make things happen. The world does not wait for us. So I stopped waiting around; but I never stopped dreaming and dreaming big I might add.

So I started to read more books on Leadership, and read more about the Bible, and looked at myself, and stopped waiting around. I got more involved with volunteering and finished my degree, and went to church more. All those things being said, I still made plenty of mistakes. I screwed up every relationship I was in, and I could have been a better leader in many cases. All in all though, I never stopped dreaming, and dreaming big I may add.

So throughout my life and my career I noticed that the better the leadership around me, the better I seemed to perform. And the more I connected with those around me, the better I seemed to respond. And the more you challenge people, the more you seem to make them mad at you, unless they really want to be challenged, “Which is rare.” So really all you can do is tell the truth, and hope people will listen; and challenge yourself to set a better example for people to follow. Also, never stop dreaming, and dream big I may add.

So who am I to give leadership advice? Who am I to try to motivate the masses? I am the little shot who is going to keep shooting. I am some guy who has failed as much or more than I have triumphed. I am the guy who will read a lot and checks the facts before shooting my mouth off. And I am the guy who never stopped dreaming, and dreaming big I may add.

In short, this is the point of my blog.

Finding something positive to say everyday:

Sounds easy but give it a try.  The world around you seems to be getting more and more negative, but be the person to find one positive thing to say everyday.  Try writing it down.  In short this is the point of my blog, my pursuit of finding something positive to say on a daily basis. 

Yes it sound cliché, if I can help one person get through a bad day, then it is all worth it.  You know what?  It really is worth it.  Misery loves company and I find myself giving misery the company it is looking for from time to time.  Before the conversation is over, try to interject a positive thought, a positive idea.  “Everything will be OK” is a start but it is not enough.  Keep at it, face your fears, learn something new, roll with the punches… trust me, the more you do it, the more you go positive, the easier it becomes.

Then it gets harder, it gets harder not to sound like a walking, talking, superficial uncaring self-help clone.  And if that is what you turn into, the world is better for having you saying something positive instead of telling people there is no hope.  There is always hope, there is always an answer.  It may not be easy or easily apparent, but the answer for pretty much every situation is out there waiting to be found.

So give it a try, every day… find one positive thing to take away from everyday.  Find one positive thing to say everyday.  Then write it down, in a journal, on a calendar, heck open up a note pad program and log it or e-mail it to yourself.  If you are brave, start paying it forward to your friends. 

In short, this is the point of my blog.

It all starts with a dream.

It all starts with a dream.

How many speeches, monologues, songs, movies are based on the dreamer, the dream, the chase of the dream, the struggle, the breakthrough and the realization of the dream? From Sinatra “To Dream the Impossible Dream” to John Lennon “You may say I’m a Dreamer” to Motley Crue “You know I’m a Dreamer” in songs to pretty much every Family film every made it starts with a dream.

Now the funny thing about dreams is they are hard to reach, and most of your family and friends will not support you when you chase your dream. They will tell you to “Wake Up” or “Get a Life” or they will flat out tell you “Your Dreaming!” Isn’t that what reaching for the brass ring is all about? Dreaming and dare I say Dreaming Big.

Now if that Dream was too easy to reach, it really isn’t much of a Dream. Be ready to take the criticism of your family and friends, and then dust yourself off and get around some people who can help you hone your talent and get you in line to chase your dream! You may have to get faster, stronger, smarter or better at a few skills; or you may just have to be flat out lucky. But, last time I checked dreams don’t chase people. Nope, people have to chase dreams.

Find Positive People who will tell you “You can do it”

Find Experienced People who can show you “How to do it!”

Work your fingers to the bone to learn “How to do it over and over again!”

Work you Brain to the verge of a migraine to learn “How to do it better!”

Get yourself in the right places to be seen “Doing it to death!”

But most of all, get up and get started. When it is all said and done, will you be able to look back and say, “I gave it all I had to give” or will you say “I always wanted too…?”

Enjoy the Ride!

Here yea, here yea.
Yes the day has arrived. 60 Seconds of Motivational Mojo has entered into the Blogsphere. I would like to thank WordPress for being the #1 rated Blog site, so it made my choice easy.
So here I am Joseph Luellen typing my first stream of consciousness that will become my first official blog. So late to the game some may say, but for me the time feels right. OK enough, what you ask is 60 Seconds of Motivational Mojo as if the title does not say it all. 60 Seconds, my elevator motivator pitch average time limit.
I truly believe that if I can help one person get off the couch and start chasing their dreams that I will continue to chase my dreams. I will spout and spew all the clichés and hopefully add my own insights to the equation.
It is easy, if you only want the very least that life has to offer, than do nothing. If you want more do more. If you want the best, well do your best. Act, Reflect, Adjust, React, Refocus, Pro-Act and sooner or later things will start coming your way.
So who am I to preach motivation to the masses? In a nutshell I am a guy who has tried to learn from his many mistakes, and not give up. So not giving up is pretty much the key to this whole ball of wax. That and learning from your mistakes… So, don’t give up and learn from your mistakes and maybe challenge yourself to find one positive thing to take away from each day.
Joseph Luellen
60 Seconds of Motivational Mojo
Enjoy the Ride!