Monthly Archives: May, 2013

I live to blog and one day I will blog to live.

I live to blog and one day I will blog to live.

 

I have blogged about Leadership:  The Five E-s of Leadership:

I have blogged about making a stand:  Standing up for what you believe in is the right thing to do.

I have blogged about finding a new job:  How to find your dream job?

 

I live to blog and one day I will blog to live.  I believe you should be chasing you dreams, and this blog is part of me chasing my dream.  I keep trying to get better.  What are you trying to get better at doing?

 

I have blogged about Life:  Life is like a rollercoaster. The question is which hill do we tackle first?

I have blogged about putting others first:  The Selfless Leader:

I have blogged about working as a team:  Why Teamwork sometimes doesn’t work.

 

I live to blog and one day I will blog to live.  I have to keep on digging, keep on pushing, keep on swimming; I have to keep on keeping on and so do you.  So I blog and hope that one day it will connect.

 

I have blogged about struggles:  F.A.C.E. adversity:

I have blogged about fitness:  Maximum Muscle Madness

I have even blogged about why it is O.K. to be called crazy:  If no one has called you crazy, you are not trying hard enough.

 

I live to blog and one day I will blog to live.  So what is there to fear.  I type what I think, I speak what I think, I try to live what I think and learn from doing.  So by doing, I am learning and learning fuels more blogging.  It is all one big circle.  Maintaining an online diary of my thoughts and I invite you along for the ride.

 

I guess this is my point:  Do what you love.

 

I live to blog and one day I will blog to live.

Why the easy way out is the hardest and worse option.

Don’t take the easy way out.  If your life is hard you must change.  Do not give in to the “stay the same” game.  Every time when confronted with the easy way out, you will find it is the worse option and it is the hardest way in the end.  WordPress readers, lend me your eyes and your imagination for a moment.   The easy way out is a trap.  I will attempt to show why the easy way out is the hardest and worse option.

Imagine for a moment you are confronted with a situation.  You can either take one of two choices, the easy way or the hard way out.  Whenever possible do not pick the easy way out.  Before you choose, stop for a moment and realize there are actually three choices; the easy way, the hard way and the smart way.  See who ever is giving you the choice is saving the best option for them self.  Don’t be fooled.  Look at all the facts and ask a few more questions.  The best way is not always the most apparent choice.

The easy way out is a trap.  You can’t learn and grow by doing things the easy way.  You have to learn what the value of a hard days work is… you also have to learn how to work smart.  Most people will try to take the easy way, and nothing will ever change for them.  No things will slowly get worse.  The easy way out is a crowded road with no reward.  You will sink deeper and deeper into debt.  Quick and easy never leads to quick or easy.  In the end, the easy way out is the worse option.

The hard road is a road less traveled   You will learn much more about your self and what you are made of when you travel the hard road, the road less traveled.  Now that being said; don’t be fool hardy.  Stay on a safe path.

The best option is the smart option. You see, if given a choice between the easy way and the hard way, the easy way is a trap.  The hard way is a challenge, and the smart way is invisible.  Maybe you should ask a few more questions and check the facts before you make your choice.

Why do people want things to stay the same?  Listen, time changes all things.  So you better get used to change.  Things and people come and go.  Jobs, bosses, opportunities are always coming and going.  Times are changing.  Technology is evolving and you have to be able to ask the right questions.  The smart way is the best way, but the hard way proves to be better than the easy way.  If you take the easy way, you learn nothing, you do not change and you get left behind.  If you take the hard way, you will learn, you will be rewarded and you will be able to catch up.  But if you wait, and ask the right questions and learn the right lessons, you can learn that knowledge and truth will become apparent in time.  You will then know when to work hard and when to work smart and when to wait.  You will learn and grow and you can make the changes it takes to be successful.

The easy way is the worse way.  Have you ever noticed how people how complain the most, never seem to want to do the work.  They want things to stay the same, and they want someone else to do the work.  Listen, things are going to change over time, everything does.  You have to work hard enough to just keep up with the times.  Don’t you want to get ahead?  Well, you may have to work a little harder, and learn a few things along the way.  The easy way, the hard way and the smart way; the hard way can lead to the smart way, the easy way never does.

Learn to work hard, and then learn to work smart.  Working smart is knowing how to face your fears, it is learning from those who have put their time in and mastered what you are chasing.  Chase your dreams, they don’t chase you.  People who work smart seem lucky, but it is because they learned the hard lessons first.  People who take the easy way out, never learn anything; then when times change, they get left behind.  Don’t get left behind.  Learn to ask the right questions.  Ask the extra questions before you make your choice.

If the only choices you have is the easy way out, or the hard way; say, I am waiting for a better way.  If there is a third option you will find out soon enough.  See it all for what it is worth. If you can’t ask an extra question or two, can you really trust the person giving you the options?

Maybe this all seemed better in my head before I started typing this, or maybe my intended meaning is coming through.  Learn that you have more than one or two options before you make your choice.  When presented with the easy way and the hard way; look for third option, the best way.  Ask extra questions.  Get extra answers.  Take a minute to find out the truth.  If everyone seems to be going one way, ask yourself; is that the way you want to go.  Are you just going with the flow?  It may seem hard to blaze your own trail, but that might be the best thing for you.

Leadership is like Dodge ball: You can throw it, catch it or dodge it!

Vince Vaughn

Welcome to 60 Seconds of Motivational Mojo, where I find Leadership in the strangest places.  So you may be wondering how Dodge ball teaches leadership; that is my task for today.  To convince you that Leadership is like Dodge ball: You can throw it, catch it or dodge it.

So I assume you know the movie, but if not here is a link  Dodgeball: A True Underdog Story:  So I am not trying to be a disciple of the Vince Vaughn Leadership School.  No my Dodge ball observation goes a lot deeper.  So you have to read the Dodge Ball Rules:

Flying Throw

So in Dodge ball, you have to be good at Throwing, Catching and Dodging, just like in Life and just like in Leadership you have to know when to throw, when to catch and when to dodge.  Now most of the time, Leadership is not about dodging, it is about catching.  So ok, here we go.  Life will throw lots of things at you.  Can you throw it back?  Can you roll with the punches?  Now before you can throw, you have to catch, you have to track down what life is throwing at you and throw it back.  Now I am not talking about how much junk life throws at you.  I am talking about adding value to the things life throws at you.  Work, School, Hobbies all the balancing acts in life.  Can you catch everything that life is throwing at you and can you give back your best?

300px-Dodgeball

There is only so much you can catch.  Now if you have to dodge, don’t dodge the important things. Your values and your family have to come first.  Then you work, work is important to pay the bills.  Leaders can not afford to dodge the important things.  You have to catch the important things and throw them back at life.  Keep rolling with the punches.  Now the things that are not important, the things that do not add in value to your life or your work, dodge those.  Know when to not try to catch everything.

When I was growing up we played Dodge ball on Basket ball courts, we used a different set of rules:  “A variation if the dodge ball game is played on a basketball court is that if a player throws the ball and it goes into the opposing basket, the whole team gets resurrected.”  That was the game I got used to playing.  I was the player who could throw ok, I could catch ok, I was really good a dodging, but I could hit that half-court shot.  I was the guy how tried to get my whole team back in the game.  That is the kind of leader I want to be.  I want to be the Leader who helps get his whole team into the game.

Team

Now some people on your team are going to be great throwers, some will be great catchers, and some will be great dodgers and some will hit that half-court shot.  Know how to get the most out of your team and out of your life.  Know what is important to catch and what to dodge.  Know how to get the most out of every throw.  Learn how to keep your team fully engaged and in the game.  Hit that half-court shot and improve your odds dramatically.  Leadership is like Dodge ball: You can throw it, catch it or dodge it!

Love and Truth go hand in hand.

I got 60 Seconds to convince you of this fact.  Love and Truth go hand in hand.  Now 60 Seconds may not be enough time to work this level of Motivational Mojo, but I will give it a try.  People have been lied to about Love and Truth.  Love and Truth go hand in hand.  They have to, they must.  To have one you must have the other.

Define Love:  I am not talking about lust.  I am talking about true and unconditional love.  Now Define Truth:  No wishy-washy conditional truth, I am talking about absolute absence of all doubt truth!

Now search out God is Love:  Then search out God is Truth:  So how can God be only Love or only Truth when God is both Love and Truth.  So how can you have Love without Truth and how can you have Truth without Love?  You see I only have 60 Seconds to convince you of something you may battle in your mind with for the rest of your life, or you can realize there is no battle.

Love on the most honest and innocent level can be seen in the way a mother loves a newborn baby.  Truth on the most absolute level is without waiver, doubt or malice intent.  If you truly love someone you will tell the truth.  And to tell the truth you must know true love.  Now you can leave me 100 replies on why you disagree with my, but you can not change my mind.  I am stubborn that way.

So let’s go to the other side of the fence, let me try my best to argue against the fact that Love and Truth must go hand in hand.  Can you Love a Lie?  Let me ask you, if you gave everything you have to someone because you love them, and you found out that they were lying to you at every turn, would you be happy?  Would you?  Can you truly Love a Lie?  Stop playing the Unconditional, Forgive and Forget Love Card.  Can you Love someone with all your might if you know they are lying to you?

Let’s try this:  Can you tell the Absolute Truth, without any doubt or malice intent without having Love?  What if I told you I knew the secret to a long happy life free from sickness and you could spend eternity in paradise?  Could I tell you this secret if I did not truly believe it?  Could I tell you this secret with no malice intent and not love you without condition?  None of us deserve that level of truth or love, none of us have earned it; that is why it has to be freely shared.  It can not be hoarded, it can not be fenced in, and it can be stopped.  If you believe in Absolute Truth then you must have Love for everyone you share it with; they must go hand in hand.

How do I know this?  Why am I so convinced?  I have been fighting this battle in my own mind my entire life.  Then I figured it out, then it was shown to me; the battle is already won.  There is no battle between darkness and light, light always wins.  So why do we fight these same battles between Love and hate, and between Truth and lies?  Love is not lust, Love never fails.  Once you know the Truth, why would you spread rumors or lies?  Once you know the Truth, you will only give people the best possible advice you can.

Search God is Light:  No you do not have to believe anything that I have posted here?  I chose to believe.  Your beliefs are your choice.  The things I tell you should not be a secret.  The things I post here are what I believe.  It does not mean that I do not have my own battles to get through, it just means I am doing the best I can to spread the best news and best advice I can find.

Love and Truth go hand in hand.  Love and Truth are the Light and the Way.  God is Love and God is Truth.  If you Love someone you will tell them the Truth, and if you know the Truth you will do all you can to walk in Love.  You can not love a lie, and you can not live in fear and doubt.  Love and Truth must go hand in hand.

F.A.C.E. adversity:

Welcome to 60 Seconds of Motivational Mojo.  I try to observe and learn from my life experiences, from the books I have read, the movies I have watched and the things I have heard others say.  So today, I add a new acronym to the list.  How to F.A.C.E. adversity:  Faith, Action, Commitment and Endurance.  F.A.C.E. adversity:

Adversity: an unfortunate event or incident

If you try to do anything substantial in life you will face adversity.  Even if you do not do anything you can still face adversity.  The difference is those who try to do something substantial will have to face adversity and rise above it, those who choose to do nothing will do nothing.  They will just take what ever life gives them.  I challenge you to rise above adversity; F.A.C.E. adversity with Faith, Action, Commitment and Endurance.

Faith: Confident belief in the truth, value, or trustworthiness of a person, idea, or thing.

Action: The state or process of acting or doing

Commitment:  The state of being bound emotionally or intellectually to a course of action

Endurance:  The act, quality, or power of withstanding hardship or stress

Do I need to say anything else?  Sometimes these things are just that plain and simple.  I will continue if that is what you need.  If you are convinced, than be convinced; if you are convinced that I am crazy, I would love to hear why.  I will continue to explain my position.

Adversity:  A state of hardship or affliction; misfortune.  See how misfortune is part of the definition of adversity.  Bad luck is part of life.  Now if you just want to complain about your luck or the hand that life has dealt you, than I can not help you.  But if you want to try to make a difference in your own life and the life of others around you; keep listening.  The first step to F.A.C.E. adversity is Faith.  You must have a confident belief in something that will change your circumstances.  Notice, truth and value and trustworthiness are parts of the definition of faith.  Don’t fall for lies and scams.  Do your homework, check the facts; but please, for God’s sake have faith in something bigger than yourself.

F.A.C.E. adversity: Add Action to your Faith.  Action – The state or process of acting or doing.  Do something!  Can I make it any simpler?  If your answer to adversity is to sit around and complain; then I can not help you, yet again.  You must act on your faith, or how much faith do you really have?

F.A.C.E. adversity:  Commitment – The state of being bound emotionally or intellectually to a course of action.  If you have and you are acting on your faith, you have to be bound to this course of action.  Again, have you done your homework?  Do you know the truth?  Do you value what you are doing?  Do others value what you are doing?  Life is going to throw hardship and affliction at you, because that is just the way of the world.  Are you ready to deal with the fact that no matter what you do, no matter how many good things you do, no matter how many good times you create; there will be bad times, bad luck and hard times?  Are you bound emotionally and intellectually to your course of action?  Have you thought this through, and are you tough enough to deal with the roadblocks that people will put in your way?  Commit to your faith and commit to your actions: F.A.C.E. adversity!

Endurance:  The act, quality, or power of withstanding hardship or stress.  This one should be a give me.  This one should be very easy to understand if you have been paying attention.  F.A.C.E. adversity equals withstanding hardship or stress.  If you have faith, you have put your faith into action and you have committed to that action on an emotional and intellectual level, then you should be able to endure what ever life throws at you.  Endurance is power, endurance is a quality, know this and you will be able to F.A.C.E. adversity!

F.A.C.E. adversity:  Have confident belief in the truth and value the state or process of acting or doing. Become bound emotionally or intellectually to a course of action and have the power to withstand hardship or stress!  F.A.C.E. adversity with Faith, Action, Commitment and Endurance:

Do what you love.

I had a choice to make.  I had this topic running through my mind.  To love what you do, you have to do what you love.  I have been thinking about it for a day or two.  The trouble is, I already did a post with that title.  So it created a choice.  I could abandon the ideas that are rolling around in my head.  Or I could re-read my original post, and the maybe update it.  Or I could just type out another post with the same basic topic.

So my choice has been made.  Good ideas should stick with you.  So, I am not going to re-read the old post until I am done with this post.  I have heard a hundred times if I have heard once that people should do what they love to do.  I have heard this is a key in being and feeling successful in your life.  People should do what they love to do.  Unless of course it hurts other people, then they should get help.

Kids love to play, and as we grow older we develop hobbies.  Most of us, then are told while we are in school that we must get a job one day.  We never consider our hobby as a potential job.  We just do what we have been told time and time again.  We work a job to make the money to pay our bills and with the time and money we have left over, we can take a vacation and hopeful have a few dollars for your hobby.

A job is basically us trading our time and a skill that we have for money.  A hobby is where we develop our talent.  Our hobby is more than likely closer to what we love than our job.  Now some people truly love their job.  They are the kind of people who tell you that they don’t have time for a hobby.  If you love your job then I am happy for you and you do not have to keep reading.  Now if you like your job, but would rather be doing something else, you might want to keep reading.

A lot of us are often faced with a choice between working extra hours for extra money, or even taking a second job to help pay the bills or get ahead.  I challenge you to think of a way you can make money from your hobby instead of putting in extra time at a job you might only like and not love.  Have you every heard the term, “We vote with our pocket-book?”  When ever you spend your money you are casting a vote for something you like.  What house did you buy, what car did you drive, what restaurant is your favorite?  These are all choices, all votes.   Your hobby is something you choose to do when you have spare time and money.  This is the myth we have been convinced of over time.  We believe that we have to do something that someone else wants us to do to make the money to do the things we want to do, instead of getting paid to do the thing we love to do.

Now what if you could do the things you love to do?  It is said that to be successful, you have to give it your all.  You have to commit 100% to your job, or you business.  Now doesn’t it make sense that you will be able to give it your all if you love what you are doing?  Work is stressful, working long hours dealing with people who would rather be doing something else.  Does it not make sense that if everyone is doing what they love, they will be happier than if everyone feels like they are sacrificing their time and talents to help someone else build their vision?

Now I am very careful not trying to tell you what you want to do, because for all of us it will be different.  But if you could find a way to make a profit, no matter how small; from your hobby, it is better than paying to do it.  It is always better to save money doing what you love, how much better is it to make money doing what you love?  Now I am not talking about breaking any laws or changing lowering your moral code.  I am talking about looking in to starting you own business part-time, or working part-time doing something you love doing.  If you can’t find work, start by volunteering with someone who gets paid to do what you love to do.

If you love what you are doing, giving it your all will come naturally.  I am not really going to quote a bunch of famous people.  I am just relaying what I have heard, what is bouncing around in my head.  Do what you do to do, and you will feel a much bigger sense of accomplishment than doing what you are told to do.

Alpha Optimist Warrior Training:

Welcome to 60 Seconds Of Motivational Mojo.  I am here to motivate you.  I am here today to make you smile.  If you can not have fun with this topic today, don’t worry; I will be back again in a couple of days. Today’s topic is Alpha Optimist Warrior Training:

Alpha Optimist

First you must realize I am the Alpha Optimist:  Now you must smile.  If you can not smile, you can not continue your training.  I will not quit because you do.  I will still be here, next week or next year.  I am the same guy who tried to teach you Maximum Awesomeness:  Did you not listen?

Are you that guy

Yeah, I’m that guy!

That guy

Ok, before we go any further let’s define some terms:  Optimist:  One who usually expects a favorable outcome.  Alpha:  Being the highest ranked or most dominant individual of one’s sex. Used of social animals.  Warrior:  One who is engaged aggressively or energetically in an activity, cause, or conflict:  Pessimist:  a person who habitually sees or anticipates the worst or is disposed to be gloomy.  Realist: A practitioner of artistic or philosophic realism.  The tendency to view or represent things as they really are:

Ok, so let’s put this together:  I am the Alpha Optimist, I called it.  Now you have to smile.  This is part of your Alpha Optimist Warrior Training.  You as a Warrior in Training have to adhere to this philosophy.  To aggressively battle against anything other than a favorable outcome:  The enemy of the Alpha Optimist Warrior is Pessimism and Realism.  We are here to make the world a better place.  That is our fight; that is our struggle.  Are you with me?  I am the Apex Predator of the Optimist Bunch, are you with me or not?  Did you remember to smile?

Alpha Warrior

The first weapon in our arsenal is the truth.  If you can not tell the truth you can not move forward in your training.  Are you smiling?  Do I have to remind you that you must smile when you read this, find the humor in it!  You as an Alpha Optimist Warrior must have love for your fellow mankind.  If you love someone you will tell them the truth.  Always seek to tell the truth.

Now the second weapon of the Alpha Optimist Warrior is humor.  Listen Pessimists and Realist are kind of gloomy people to be around.  I want the best out of life; I want to make things better, not just accept them the way they are, or believe things will get worse.  What better way to make things better than to make people smile.  Now not everyone finds me funny, that is their problem; not mine.  I am amazed by how many people feel the need to hold their doom and gloom close.  I don’t understand it.

Luke Vs Vader

So what makes me think I am the Alpha Optimist?  Well first, I have been to the other side.  I have been a pessimist.  I have been to the proverbial Dark side of the Force.  Remember when Luke had it out with his Dad in Star Wars Five and Six?  How he almost lost it, and then pulled his Father from the Dark Side.  Do you have that kind of Optimism?  I do.

Kobayashi

You see I do not believe in the Kobayashi Maru:  Just like Captain Kirk of Star Trek fame, I do not believe in the No Win Scenario.  There is always a better way, you just have to keep looking.  Ok are you ready to battle doom and gloomers?  Ok what is the first step?  What is the second?  What are your two weapons?  Did you remember?  Are you looking back in this post to find the answer?  If you are then either you have failed me or I have failed you.  Let’s take it from the top.

Peguins

Do you have a smile on your face?  Have you acknowledged that fact that I am the Master and you are the Unworthy Student?  Are you smiling?  Ok, your weapons are Truth and Humor.

Now are you on the bench or on the field of battle.  Do you take the fight to those pessimists and realist who do not think they can make the world a better place or do you sit back and wait for them to come to you?  You see that is why I am the leader of this pack of Alpha Optimist Warriors.  I take the battle to the front lines.  And even I know there is strength in numbers.  So if you are worthy, if you are the real deal you will join me; remember, tell the truth and leave them laughing.

Choose to do good!

Welcome back to 60 Seconds of Motivational Mojo, where I do my best to try to get you to follow your dreams.  I also try to get you to find out the truth for yourself.  Now today, I say when ever you are faced with a choice, which is everyday; choose to do good.

Choose to do good!  Every situation creates three choices, Do Good, Do Nothing or Do Evil.  My answer is, choose to do good.  Have you heard of the battle between light and darkness?  Why do we believe such lies?  There is no battle between light and darkness.  Light always wins.  There is no magic shadow that can conquer light.  So why do we believe that there is a choice between Doing Good, Doing Nothing and Doing Evil.  I have heard it said, “Evil wins when good people do nothing.”  I would like to challenge that statement.  Good people have to do something to be good.  You have to choose to do good.

How many times have you heard someone say, “I am not as bad as … fill in the blank?”  I say fill in the blank because this is an empty statement.  Doing nothing does not make you better than anyone else.  Doing nothing does not make you good; it means that you choose to do nothing.  That is a pretty easy choice.  I am not saying you have to try to be all things to all people; that is impossible.  I am saying choose to do good!

How many times have you heard that “Might makes right?”  How many times have you heard that the “Ends justify the means?”  Now, let me challenge those statements.  Might does not make right; the truth is what makes things right.  The end also does not justify the means, the means justify themselves.  There should be no illusion of a battle between Good and Evil, but there is; because of the aforementioned statements.  If evil is mighty and well armed and good people are unarmed and afraid, then evil wins.  This is why warlords use might instead of truth to take over a society.

When people know the truth they must choose to act on it.  Does spreading lies make you feel better about yourself?  Does spreading rumors make you feel better about yourself?  It shouldn’t, the only way it does is because you feel some strange sense of power in tearing down others.  Why not stand up for what is right?  Now I have heard people say they did things because it was the right thing to do.  If you really believe that you should have no problem telling the truth.  How can sticking up for rumors and lies be the right thing to do?  Again, every situation creates three choices, Do Good, Do Nothing or Do Evil.  Choose to do good!

Now, you can leave me comments on why doing nothing or do evil is what you believe is the right thing to do.  I ask you one question.  If you just do nothing, or give into status quo, how does anything change?  Do good, bring about positive change.  I have heard it said, what comes around goes around.  I have heard that we reap what we sow.  What do you want your harvest to yield?  What do you want coming around for you?  Choose to do good!

Top Ten for the Week of May 6th to May 12th:

Sometimes I like to look at what people are viewing.  Is it wrong to be self reflecting?

 No 1:  How to find your dream job?  A new post is number one for the week.  It feels good to connect.  I say thank you.

 No 2:  The Five E-s of Leadership:  Another relatively new post comes in second.  Leeeeadership, another way of looking at the word:

No 3:  Standing up for what you believe in is the right thing to do.  This is an oldie but a goody in my mind.  Some post endure:

No 4:  The D.R.I.V.E. to be your best.  Another newer post, Another Acronym, They just seem to come to me.

 No 5:  Maximum Muscle Madness  My All-Time most popular post, it was a fun take on my approach to working out.

 No 6:  Maximum Muscle Madness – The Road Warrior Workout:  A modified approach to my most popular post, is karma telling me, I am not working out enough?

 No 7:  The Selfless Leader:  Another relatively newer post on Leadership: it makes me happy to think I am striking a chord with people.

 No 8:  Maximum Awesomeness!  You can be awesome!  Have fun!

 No 9:  Runners Log – June 14th 2012  This post is almost a year old and it snuck into the Top Ten.  Ok, karma is telling me I need to get moving!

 No 10:  The Alpha Optimist  Another fun motivation post, another new post, I hope it makes you smile!

My smiles are real.

My smiles are real.

I have never learned to fake a smile.  My smiles are real.  When I laugh it is because I mean it.  If I smile it is real.  I have not learned to fake it.  Most of my smiles come from making my family smile.  I wish I could solve all the world’s problems, but I can’t.  So if I can make my wife smile, it makes me happy.

My smiles are real.  I think it is important for you to know if you can trust a smile.  I do not smile in anyone’s face and then stab them in the back.  I do not smile to impress people or sell anything.  I smile because I am happy.  I smile because I find something funny.  My smiles are real.

I have never learned to fake a smile.  My smiles are real.