Monthly Archives: September, 2013

Three Hundred Post and Ten Thousand Views:

That’s a lot of Mojo. That is a lot of determination. It takes time and at it takes persistence. I would like to say thank you to those who have stuck with me through all of this posting in my on-line diary. I would like to say thank you to anyone who is reading this post. Thank you for reading my blog.

I have tired different things, pasting links on Facebook, LinkedIn, Google+ and even had a link in a local news paper for a little while. All in all the most people have found me through Search Engines; the little engines that could. Yes, I should go back and update all my links to social media, but the bottom line is that 30 or so WordPress readers have kept me on their short lists. To each of you I say thank you.

Thank you for looking past the typos and the grammar errors and the “you know what I meant to type(s).” Thank you for not being bothered by the fact that my style is more of a conversation with you than an editorial at you. Thank you for listening to me while I am talking at and through my inner self. Thank you for bothering to read along and trying to understand.

For all of the nudging along that I have tried to do, it is still the random searches that are making the most connections. So to connect I only have to be true to myself and keep typing, keep posting and keep trying. The concept of chasing your dreams and learning by doing is the bottom line of this blog anyway. So I guess I am living proof that maybe it doesn’t happen over night or maybe it doesn’t happen at all, but you still try. You still set your sights on the big dream and the big goal and you chase the dream. You keep your eye on the big picture but you still have to take it one step at a time. 300 posts later and I am still taking it one post at a time. 10,000 views later and I am still taking it one post at a time.

Thank you again for bothering to find me. Thank you again for sticking with me. No I do not have editors and proofreaders, it is just me and the tools that come with the software, and still it is a thrill when I post one update that makes it through with no suggestions or corrections. I am still learning by doing, and chasing the big dream. Thank you for sticking with me, 300 posts and 10,000 views later.

Deliver Big:

Big Dreams, Big Visions, Big Plans are all great things, but for any of those things to matter people need to Deliver Big also.  Welcome to 60 Seconds Of Motivational Mojo where I try to inspire people to chase their dreams.  See I am trying to chase my dreams.  The thing I have found out this far is if you want to catch the Big Dream you have to Deliver Big.

What do I mean by Deliver Big?  Have you every watched a Car Race?  It really doesn’t matter if it is Drag Racing, NASCAR or Indy Car, have you ever seen a Car running way out in front and then all of a sudden Smoke and Fire start shooting out of the Car?  Race car fans know what I am talking about, the driver blows the engine before they cross the finish line?  A lot of preparation went into that car before the race, they did almost everything right, they were out in front of the race, but they did not finish first.  They did not deliver big.

Yes, you must have a Big Dream, A Big Vision and a Big Plan; and yes you must put a lot of time and energy into chasing the Big Dream, but when the time comes you must Deliver Big.  Lots of times when ever my wife and I try to plan a fundraiser, I go to the planning meetings with the Big Dream.  I lay out the Big Plan and then I step back and listen to what people say.  I listen and I watch.  You see there are different kinds of people who will step forward.  The ones who have the Big Dream and Big Plan and are really excited up front, but then they do not understand that Big Dreams take time, they rush in and the minute things do not go their way; they fade fast.  There are also the people who say they are willing to help, but they just don’t have any time.  They can not stick to any kind of schedule, they show up once or twice; but not a consistent basis when you need them the most.  Some people work very hard but say very little and they rarely take the lead.  Then there are people who break things down to goals and timelines and make sure they are consistently ahead of schedule on 9 out of 10 things they sign up to do.   These are the people who will more than likely deliver big when the time comes.

How to deliver big:  Every dream needs to be broken down into steps.  Every series of steps needs a goal and a deadline.  Every set of goals and deadlines needs a champion to make sure the steps are getting completed and the goal is reached on time.  Delivering Big means reaching the goal ahead of schedule, Delivering Big means saving time and money and still reaching the goal.  Delivering Big is winning the race by mile instead of an inch.

Now there are a lot of people who talk big.  Now big talk is OK as long as you can back it up.  There are people who want to walk big, but they really don’t know how.  Being able to identify who wants to walk big is a good thing, try to mentor them.  If they will accept you as a mentor, you will both learn from the experience.  If they will not accept you as a mentor you will still learn from the experience.  Good mentors teach people what to do before things go wrong.  Good mentors look out for the people they are teaching but still allow them room to grow.  Good mentors also teach people how to deliver on their promises.

The game winning shot.  The gaming winning play, that clutch moment when everything is on the line and you deliver big.  Winners want those moments so they prepare for them.  Good coaches learn to identify who is working a little harder and a little smarter and put their team in a position to win.  You can not plan for everything, but you can make sure you are not stretched so thin that you can not deliver when the time comes.  Racing out in front is great until that engine blows up and you can not finish the race.  A good coach a good mentor and a good leader knows when the team is being stretched thin.  A good leader knows when to prepare and when to let up a little to make sure the team can finish strong.  Delivering Big means Finishing Strong.

So you have the Big Dream, You have the Big Plan, now you need people you can plug-in and count on to deliver.  Some people are not going to be interested in your dreams and plans, don’t let that stop you.  Some people are going to talk a Big game in the beginning, now you must watch closely.  Who is able to not only talk big, but break things down into what needs to get done?  Challenge them to give you a goal and a deadline that they can reach.  Do not let people push things off on others, will they run with their idea?  If they give you a time-table, check back with them half way through and see if there is any progress.  Some people talk big, people who deliver ahead of schedule deliver big when the time comes.  Break things down to small steps to make sure things are still on track.

Now some people will remain quite, encourage them.  Some will step forward and others will not, again; don’t let that stop you.  Do your best to mentor those who step forward and encourage those who have not, but do not wait for anyone.  Keep moving forward. You see coaching and training are based on group settings; mentoring is more a one on one setting.  Learn the difference between coaching, training and mentoring.  The coach and trainer can not do everything.  They need the team to deliver on the field.  Delivering Big means you can count on the whole team to step up when their time to shine comes.  A good coach, a good trainer and god mentor gets people ready before their time comes.  Delivering big does not happen by accident, it happens because you take the time to think things through and prepare ahead of schedule.

Winning everything all the time is the dream season of every coach.  The reality is to be successful you want to win most of the games most of the time.  This is what Delivering Big is all about.  Honestly assess where you are and how you can continue to improve in the areas you are weak and even improve the areas you are strong when time permits.  Learn to recruit, train, coach and mentor in all areas and all phases.  Learn to supply a vision big enough to reach the dream, and then break that vision down into steps, goals and deadlines.  Have people in place for each task and train them to work ahead of schedule.  Track people’s progress and help them if they start to fall behind, but you can not be everywhere all the time for everybody.  People need to be able to consistently show up and deliver along the way.  Delivering Big means you get off to a good start and you stay in the game so you are in place to Win Big at the end.  Don’t get out in front only to blow-up the engine before the finish.  Be able to get near the front and finish strong in the end. Deliver Big!

Give yourself a chance to be great.

I want to be good at the things I do.  I want to be great at the things I love to do.  I have learned the most important lesson in life is to keep learning and do what you love.  I have to give myself a chance to be great at doing the things I love.  You have to do the same thing.  Welcome back to 60 Seconds of Motivational Mojo.  Today’s topic; Give yourself a chance to be great.

Think about something that comes naturally to you.  Think about something you were great at for as long as you can remember.  Now ask yourself a very basic question.  Could you make a living doing what comes naturally to you and be able to quit your day job?  For most of us the answer is No.  We need to work to pay the bills.  For some of us the answer is Yes.  If you are one of the people who can truly answer this question Yes, I would beg of you to get started, and come back and tell us your results.  For those of you who have answered the question No, stick around a while and see if I can motivate you to at least give yourself a chance to be great.

Most of us have a hobby we like to do or are good at doing.  I am taking a gamble on my hobbies.  I am betting on my self and the people who have chosen to travel in the same direction I have chosen.  I am betting that if I continue to pay things forward one day I will be rewarded.  I have read a few books here and there on success and leadership and a constant theme is following your bliss or your passion.  There is also a belief that leaders need a dream and a vision and need to break down that vision into steps, goals and deadlines.  I have bought into that belief.  I believe that if you can find common ground and a common vision among the people who are working with you, that your team can be successful.  The one sticking point a lot of people come up against is wanting too much too soon without giving themselves a chance to grow into the vision.

This post is not about goal setting, this post is about growing into greatness.  I am a firm believer in seed-time and harvest.  I think that if you plant a crop, and water and nurture that crop that weather permitting you will reap a harvest.  I can not control the weather, but I can control if I am planting seeds and watering and nurturing those seeds.  I believe that by tending to the crops of the seeds I have planted that I am learning how to become better at the things I have chosen to do.  I believe I am growing into the dreams and visions I have for myself and those who have chosen to team with me.  I believe I am giving myself a chance to be great.  I believe that you should do the same.  I believe that you should give yourself a chance to be great.

If everything comes easy, everyone will be great and great will become the new average.  Greatness comes in a combination of talent, practice, disciple, coaching, mentoring and reflection.  I think greatness comes to those who can resist celebrating good times in lieu of creating truly great times.  I think greatness takes time.  Just as you must plant seed, you must water and nurture the seed; and if you have sown into good ground and experience good weather you can expect a good harvest.  You have to put your time in to experience a good harvest.  The first step in becoming great is to realize you must continue to learn and grow into your vision and dream.  The seconds step is to realize you will need help along the way.  I can not control the weather, neither can you, but you can control the choices your make and the way that you build and serve the team that is working with you.  As a team you have to give yourself a chance to be great.

A great harvest will need a big field and a big field will require a lot of hands to work the field before, during and after the harvest.  The land must be prepared before you plant the seed.  The seeds must be watered and protected and the harvest must be collected.  The land then should be prepared for the winter months to get the most out of the next planting cycle.

Great big dreams also need many hands to accomplish.  Great dreams require great teams, and teams have to give them selves a chance to be great.  Great teams focus on common goals, they find out what their strengths and weaknesses are, they play to their strengths and improve on their weaknesses.  Great leaders know their strengths and weaknesses and improve them to better serve their team.  Great leaders learn that to better serve others is to better serve yourself and the dream you are chasing.  Leaders learn to grow into setting the best possible example and being a selfless servant leader.  Great leaders understand the areas they need to be mentored to improve and they mentor others in the areas they are strong.  Great leaders give their team a chance to be great.  The leader is not defined by their strengths, but the strength of the team.  The best way to strengthen a team is for the leader to put the success of the team ahead of their personal success.

Call me a crazy and call me a dreamer, but I believe may teams and leaders fail because they do not give themselves a chance to grow into greatness.  Some fall into temptation and greed and take shortcuts or become selfish.  In my mind greatness is attained by improving a sustainable system one season, one harvest at a time.  The leader can not control the weather, there may be lean years because of drought or flood, but over time good ground will yield a good harvest.  Knowing how to prepare for feast or famine is the mark of a wise leader.  Knowing to save the best of the harvest for planting the next season, and knowing never to bet it all on one season is something that great leaders learn.

The tides will rise and the tides will fall, but the best leaders know how to navigate in all kinds of weather.  This takes time to learn, it is easier to learn if you can draw on the experience of the leaders who have come before you.  It is easier to learn if you will see the vision through the eyes of the members of your team.  It is easier to learn if you give others a chance to be great.  If you want to give yourself a chance to be great, if you want to give your team a chance to be great, give others a chance to be great.

Not every shot take hits its mark; most of the time it is the team that is the most consistent across the board that wins.  Good coaches and good leaders give their team a chance to win.  Share your dream, your vision and your goals.  Listen to the wisdom of those who came before you.  Learn to help others improve on their weakness and in turn learn how to improve in areas where you are weak.  Give yourself and your team a chance to be great.

Secrets for Success from Santa Claus

“You better watch out, you better not cry, you better not pout, I’m telling you why.”  Welcome to 60 Seconds of Motivational Mojo.  Let me let you in on a little secret of mine.  I would love to be Santa Claus in real life.  So, I present to you my Secrets of Success from Santa Claus.

I hope you know the words to the children’s song Santa Claus is coming to town.  It is the basis for my post.  So let’s start at the beginning.  Santa Claus is so successful he gives away toys every year to children around the world.  Please I do not want to get into any religious or secular debates.  Yes, I know Christmas has been overly commercialized. You are missing my point.  Santa Claus warns us that crying and pouting will not be rewarded.  Maybe we need to go back and teach this to people all over again.  No crying and no pouting because “Santa Claus is coming to town.”  The take away lesson number one; do not reward bad behavior.

“He’s making a list and checking it twice.  Going to find out who’s naughty and nice.”  Plain and simple make a list and check it twice.  If you want to be successful you need to stay on track and find out who is getting things done and who is not.  “Santa Claus is coming to town.”  Take away lesson number two; make sure people do what they say they are going to do, double-check everything.

“He sees you when you’re sleeping.  He knows when you’re awake.”  I don’t want to get dragged into any privacy issues here.  Let’s just say that Santa Claus has a very good surveillance system in place.  I would imagine if you have a workshop and warehouse full of toys you may not want anyone stealing them.  Maybe that is why his tucked away at the North Pole.  Again, I do not want to take up to much time on this topic.

“He knows if you’ve been bad or good.  So be good for goodness sake”  Ok, Santa Claus double checks everything and does not reward bad behavior, so he must have a point system in place to see who is doing a good job and who is not.  Now, I would like to believe Santa Claus is telling us to “Be good for the sake of goodness.”  I think that deep down inside of each of us we know when we are being bad and we know when we are being good.  So, why not strive for good?  “Santa Claus is coming to town.”  Follow your moral compass.

So, there you have it my Secrets for Success from Santa Claus:  1) Do not reward bad behavior.  2) Double check everything.  3) Follow your moral compass.  Lastly, Be Good for Goodness Sake!

Punch Drunk Life:

Don’t you want to live the best life you can?  Don’t you want the most for your thoughts and efforts?  The only thing I have found equal about this life is that life will try to beat you up.  Life will try to beat you down.  We are all like boxers, like pugilist.  We have to face life head on and do the best we can.  Life is not fair, so we have to make up our minds that we can win at the game of life and do it fairly.  Don’t give into a Punch Drunk Life.

Boxers, Fighters and Athletes in Contact Sports can suffer from Concussions.  You can see the daze that happens to a fighter before they are knocked out.  If a fighter gets knocked out enough times it can cause permanent brain damage.  This is not a pretty sight, to see a once strong and proud champion barely able to speak or collect their thoughts.  The punches life throws are not always physical.  Sometimes we do have to endure physical hardships, but most of the time life beats us down with a barrage of bad news.  Gossip spreads like wild-fire; bad news is the first thing that people talk about most of the time.  Don’t be like most people most of the time.  Fight back by spreading good news.

Life can beat you down if you let it.  You must keep hitting back.  Don’t fight fire with fire.  Don’t combat bad news with bad news, spread good news.  The more you accept bad news, the more you surround yourself with people who spread gossip, the more your chances of getting punch drunk by life.  Spread good news, spread facts and become drunk on the new wine of the spirit.  Now I am not saying get drunk on alcohol or get high on drugs.  I am saying get high on life.

Life is a boxing match and a chess match all rolled into one.  Do not let bad news beat you up.  Beat down bad news by spreading good news and facts and search for the truth.  Again, don’t get punch drunk by life, get fired up in the spirit and fight back.  Good boxers know when to defend, to block and dodge getting hit.  Be like that with bad news.  If someone is gossiping, check the facts.  If someone is spreading bad news, counter punch with good news.  If someone brings a problem, help them find a solution.

You see fighters do not wait around to get knocked out.  They train themselves to know when to attack and when to defend.  Listen, you have your whole life to figure this out; don’t’ wait until you have been knocked out by life one time too many.  Pick and choose your battles wisely and know it is better to avoid a fight than to get knocked out one more time.  Work your way up from the small battles to the big battles.  Pick a sparring partner and practice.  Challenge your self and your circle of friends to find facts, spread good news, make plans and find answers.  You will find out that life is better when you find common ground and common direction.

Play to win at life by putting out the fires of gossip, lies and bad news; with facts, truth and good news.  Fire can not fight water.  Fire can not spread without oxygen.  Stop letting bad news beat you down, plant seeds of good news and hope everywhere you go.  Do not live a punch drunk life.  Get drunk in the spirit of good news.

There are Three Americas:

Welcome to 60 Seconds of Motivational Mojo.  I recently took a bus trip from Metro Detroit to Greater Milwaukee.  I was meeting with some friends to plan a Motivational and Empowerment Conference.  I took the bus to save a little money on trip.  It was on this bus ride that I discovered there is not one or two but there are at least Three Americas if not more.  There are Three Americas.

I have heard it said as a Political Catch Phrase there are Two Americas.  That is not true; there are at least Three Americas.  There is a basic Class System in the United States.  The Upper, Middle and Lower Class, you see lately there has been so much talk of the Top One Percent, and the Rich and the Poor, the “Haves” and the “Have Nots;” but I think this is all a smoke screen.  There are Three Americas.

Why do I make this stand?  I make this stand based on my point of view and my personal experience.  I base this opinion on what I see when I drive to work everyday and when I go to the airport and my experience riding the bus across four states.  When I go the Airport, I see the view from above, I see what is like to fly over city after city and get where you are going traveling though the air.  When I drive to work everyday, I see what is like to get on the freeway and drive and be in control of where I want to go.  And when I took the bus, I saw what people who may not have the option to drive or fly where they are going.  Riding the bus I saw small towns and I saw neighborhoods that were abandoned after the jobs have left for greener pastures.  There are Three Americas.

Sometimes we take things for granted.  When we go the airport we complain about the lines and the time we have to wait, and living out of hotels when we travel.  We complain about being away from home and the people we love.  We forget that we get to travel in a manner that some people will never experience.  Sometimes when we get in our cars and drive to work, we forget about the people who may not be able to afford a car or may not have a job.  We drive our cars to and from home and work and sometimes take for granted that some people may not have a home, or a job or a car.  Sometimes when we take the bus we wish we were in our car or on a plane forgetting that there are people who may not even be able to afford a bus ticket, or may not have been able to afford a hot meal and a place to stay.  There are Three Americas.

There are those of us who can afford to fly and stay in hotels and get paid to travel.  There are those of us who can afford a car and a place to stay but may rarely get a chance to fly.  There are those of us who are lucky to be able to catch the bus and have a quite corner to rest.  There are Three Americas and maybe more.  You see some people can afford to Fly First Class and stay in Five Star Hotels everywhere they go, and there are some people who do not have a home or a job or a car.  There are some people who take for granted how much they have and there are some people who have nothing at all.  There are Three Americas.

Riding the Bus across the Midwest reminded me that we all need hope.  We all need hope of a safe today and a better tomorrow.  Riding the bus taught me to appreciate what I have and still have hope for more.  People need hope and people need help.  Riding the bus and driving past abandoning buildings and seeing people who have no place to go reinforced the belief that I have that we need to help; we need to spread hope everywhere we go.  There are Three Americas.

I am a sheepdog:

I am a sheepdog.  Maybe you have seen the Sheepdog in the Cartoons.  Maybe you fully understand the analogy from that alone.  I truly care for people and I feel I am called to protect them from the wolves.

I am a sheepdog:  is a type of pastoral dog bred for the purpose of protecting livestock from predators.  It is not that I see people as livestock; I am speaking or typing in metaphors.  Please take a minute and go with me on this one.  I try to protect people from predators.

I am a sheepdog:  I could be called a Herding Dog or a Guardian Dog, either way is ok with me as long as you understand the metaphors.  The term “herding dog” is sometimes erroneously used to describe livestock guardian dogs, whose primary function is to guard flocks and herds from predation and theft, and they lack the herding instinct. Although herding dogs may guard flocks their primary purpose is to move them; both herding dogs and livestock guardian dogs may be called “sheep dogs”.

I am a sheepdog.  I want to believe I am doing the work of the Good Sheppard.  I want to believe that I will be one who will provide safe passage for those who are traveling with me.  I want to believe I can be a good example in my community and find common ground with my family and friends.  I want to believe I can help make things better for everyone who is heading in the same direction as I am.  I want to help and inspire others.  I want to help bring hope to communities and empower others to make a difference.

I am a sheepdog.  I hope you understand the metaphor.

What is your game plan?

A lot of us can relate to sports and sporting events.  We love to see our favorite teams win.  We like to imagine what it would be like to be rich and famous and loved by the crowd.  We sometimes forget the countless hours of practice that went into that game being played.  We sometime forget about how much time was spent on training and coaching those athletes.  We also forget about all the planning that goes into this big sporting events.  At many levels people have a game plan that will go a long way in determining their success level.  Then after the event is over we go home to our daily life unchanged.

So today I ask you.  “What is your game plan?”  What are you going to do today to prepare for tomorrow?  What are you going to do to increase your chance of success?  Now listen, just like every sport is different and every sport requires different skill sets and training; we also require different game plans.  Depending on your dreams, your goals, where you are starting from and where you want to finish; we each require a different game plan.  Now there can be similarities in our game plans, but we all need a game plan.  We all need to look at where we are right now, and where we want to be tomorrow; and start making some sort of plan to get there.

Let’s start over.  We all understand that no Athlete just walks out their and becomes a professional without practice.  We understand the teams do not become successful without coaching and training.  We also understand that Stadiums and Arenas where Professional Sports are contested do not fall out of the sky.  Each of these things takes planning.  So again I ask, “What is your game plan?”

What are you doing today to give your self a better chance of winning tomorrow?  What are you practicing?  What books are you reading?  Who’s advice do you take at face value?  I have heard it said many times that failure to plan is planning to fail.  So what is your plan?

Now your plan may not be my plan.  Your plan may not include blogging or writing songs or speaking in public.  Your plan may be to open a restaurant or to start a construction company.  I only hope and pray that you have a plan.  Again, all of our plans will be different depending on our goals, our dreams, where we start and where we want to finish; but are plans can all have common elements.  Let me explain.

The 1st Step is to follow your dreams.  Figure out what makes you happy and try to build on it.  Hopefully your happiness does not cause harm to others.  If it does, maybe you should rethink your dream.  2nd Step is to try.  It is OK to fail at this stage, just try to find out where you fit in to your dream.  Carve out a little bit of time and get active.  3rd Step is to learn as much as you can from people who are successful at what you want to be doing.  This may require reading books, or listening to audio recordings or watching instructional videos.  It is your dream; learn the right way to chase it.  4th Step is to make up your mind to not give up on your dream.  Chip away a little at a time.  The 5th Step, get around people who are heading in the same direction you are heading.  There is strength in numbers.

You see the one thing we all have in common is that we all have to figure it out for ourselves.  No one can hand you your dream on a silver platter.  Yes, some of us can be born rich or born into fame, but for the rest of us; we can either watch others live out our dream or we can find out where we fit into our dream.

What is your game plan?

The hardest thing about breaking free is getting started.

Are you stuck in rut?  Are you caught in a day-to-day grind that never seems to change?  Do you want to break free?  The hardest thing about breaking free is getting started.

Welcome to 60 Seconds of Motivational Mojo, where I challenge myself to motivate you in one minute or less.  So you want to break free?  The hardest thing about breaking free is getting started.  Now that being said, the second hardest thing is realizing when you need to break free.  Some people are stuck in a rut and they do not even realize it.

Do your days, weeks, months and years seem like an endless pattern that just repeats over and over? Do you have questions that go unanswered?  Do you have a dream that seems to go unrealized?  You may be caught in a rut.  Sometimes it is hard to realize we are trying so hard to be happy that we are settling for less than we deserve.  Sometimes we try to be happy living out someone else’s expectations for our lives.  The only way for you to reach your dream is to reach for your dream.  The problem with being stuck in a rut is we find safety in the rut.  Then we find a way to find comfort in the rut.  The thing about staying in the rut is that the rut gets deeper and deeper.  You can not break free from it if you find yourself safe and happy even though you know there is something missing deep inside of you.

You see if you fool yourself into thinking that being stuck in a rut is the safest place for you than you will never want to try anything new to help you break free from the rut.  You will never start.  Now listen, this is not an “All or Nothing” leave everyone behind and hit the road lesson I am teaching.  No, I say reconnect with you dream and slowly find out who in your life will support and encourage you and who will not.  No, I say find 15 minutes a day or an hour here and there to try something that will get you one step closer to your dreams.  I am not here to tell you your dream.  I am here to tell you the hardest thing about breaking free is getting started.

Life is full of peer pressure, the need to feel safe and the need to fit in.  Most people have given up on their dreams.  Listen closely to people when they take.  Do they take about what they need to do or what they want to do?  Do they talk about how they never get the chance to do the things they want to do, or do they plan to do the things they want to do?  Do people ask you what your dream is or do they try to get you to buy into their dream?  Do they take advantage of people or do they really help people.  Listen carefully and then choose very carefully what advice you will take.  Do not get caught up in pity parties and scams.  Start surrounding yourself with people who plan and actually help each other, not people who take advantage of each other.

Getting started is the hardest part.  It may mean you have to make new friends and spend a little less time around family and friends who have never helped you chase your dream.  It may sound harsh, but a lot of us find safety and comfort around people who are not helping us.  If no one is helping you break free, the rut only gets deeper; slowly but surely.

Get started, start small, baby steps; but please start.  The second hardest thing about breaking free is realizing you are caught in a rut.  The hardest thing about breaking free is starting.