Be careful whose advice you follow.
Welcome to 60 Seconds of Motivational Mojo. I hope this post finds you well. I basically try to pay forward good news and the best advice I can find. There is a topic that has been weighing on my brain. Everyone takes advice. Trust me on this one. You will find your results in life are directly in correlation to those whom you surround yourself. Your family and friends and co-workers have a tremendous impact on your future. This is why I say, be very careful whose advice you follow.
Maybe my biggest failure in life has been taking advice from people who were not looking for the same results that I am looking for in my life. I let others determine my future, which means I had to learn that hard way that your family and friends may not have the same plans for you as you have for yourself. Be very careful whose advice you follow.
Let’s say you fall in love. Are your friends and family happy for you? Do they know anything about you and the person you love and your plans for each other? If they are not happy in their life and their life choices; they will not be happy for you. I have seen people make many choices between family, friends, career, faith and hobbies. Are you doing what you want to do or are you doing what others want you to do?
You see I try to look at people circumstances before I take their advice. Say you are looking for advice on marriage. The advice you get from single people will be different than the advice you get from newlyweds. The advice you get from people who have been married for a long time will be different than the advice you get from people who have been divorced. The advice you choose to follow will have a big impact on your marriage. Are people happy for you? Are they jealous of you? Are they trying to come between you and your spouse or are they trying to help you work together? The advice you follow will have a big impact on your future.
If you want to be a Doctor; then you should take the advice of Doctors. If you want to be a Lawyer; then you should take the advice of Lawyers. This does not mean that every Doctor or Lawyer you meet will have the same Moral Compass that you have, again; be careful of the advice you take. It seems everyone had advice for me for all of my life’s choices, but few people really wanted to follow the same path I was trying to follow for myself. When I wanted to follow a career in entertainment, I should have taken the advice of people who made a living in entertainment; when I did I was more successful than when I did not. When I was in college, I was more successful when I took the advice of those who were focused on the same classes I was taking; when I followed the advice of people who not focused on a college degree, I was easily led astray. We all have to live with our choices; I am trying to learn from mine. Take the advice of those who are further down the road than you are that have set an example that you can emulate. You have to live with yourself when it is all said and done.
Be careful who you take advice from. Hopefully you will surround yourself with people who are not trying to take advantage of you or distract you from your goals. The best way is to find common ground, common goals and the same moral compass. Be careful whose advice you follow.
Success is a Five Story Building.
Maybe I make things overly simple. Maybe I should try to make this more complicated, but it is just not my nature. Welcome to 60 Seconds Of Motivational Mojo where I see the same things in new and simple ways. I think Success is a Five Story Building. Stay around and let me explain.
I see success as having five levels or layers or like a Five Story Building. I wish I could say Five Steps, but I think each level or layer or story has simple steps, but I don’t want to make it complicated. I want to make this simple. Success has Five Layers, now how many steps each one takes is up to you.
Here are my Proposed Five Stories or Floors of Success. 1st Floor – Do what you love. 2nd Floor – Learn to make money at it. 3rd Floor – Save the money you make. 4th Floor – Teach others how to make money doing what you love. 5th Floor – Grow your Business. Now let me say it again, each Level, or layer, or Story or Floor of this Success Building may have many steps, or there may be just a few simple steps. Why make it more complicated than it needs to be? Let’s look at each Story of Building your success and keep it as simple as possible.
1st Floor – Do what you love. Everyone says this, but really how many of us are doing what we love to do? Most of the time we love our hobbies, but we have this job that takes up a lot of our time. We work the job to pay our bills and with the time and money left over we try to cram in our family, friends and hobbies. So imagine if we could spend more time on our hobbies? Now if you love doing something, hopefully you will get good at it, or at least decent at it; or at the very least, you love doing it. So do what you love, that is the 1st Story or the 1st Floor in building your success.
2nd Floor – Learn to make money doing what you love. If you love playing the guitar, can you make money performing or teaching the guitar? Can you make money selling guitars or hosting guitar clinics with other guitar players? If you can find a way to make money doing what you love it will make a transition from being your hobby to possibly being a business you can build. Now, I hesitate to call it a job, because for whatever reason people do not like to hear job and hobby in the same sentence. This seems to be a major stumbling point for many people. To be able to build a business out of a hobby but not call it a job? So let me say it again, learn to make money doing what you love. It may mean you have to get better at what you do, or you may have to study other people who are making money doing what you love to do; but it can be as simple or as complicated as you make it.
1st Floor – Do what you love; 2nd Floor – Learn to make money doing what you love:
3rd Floor – Save the money you make. I have been pretty good at doing what I love and I have been pretty good at learning to make money from what I love. Now I could be farther along the success ladder if I would have saved more of the money I made. You see, if you want to grow your business, it is better to do it without going into debt. You will see that business comes in waves and if you are saving the extra money during the busy times, it will help you get through the lean times. Save the money you make doing what you love. This way, when you want to expand your business, you can do it without going into debt.
4th Floor – Teach others how to make money doing what you love. This may seem crazy. Why would you teach others to make money doing the things you love to do? Teaching others will help you learn how to grow your business. And if you love doing something, and if you found a way to make money from your hobby and turn it into a business; don’t you think there will be others who want to learn to make money from their hobby also. Especially people who have the same hobby you have; they would want to learn how to make money doing what they love. This is a simple and easy step that a lot of people get backwards. They learn to grow their business before they learn to teach others at doing what they love to do. Learn to teach others as soon as you learn to save you money. 1st Floor – Do what you love. 2nd Floor – Learn to make money doing what you love. 3rd Floor – Save the money you make. 4th Floor – Teach others how to make money doing what they love, which just so happens to be what you love to do also.
5th Floor – Grow your business: There is an old saying that good help is hard to find. Do you know why? It is because people have a way they want things done. People who find success want things done a certain way, their way. Now this is why it is important to teach others before you expand your business. I have worked many jobs where they needed as much help as they could find, but the training systems they had in place were good on paper at best. Good Training, mentoring and coaching is an art and a skill that needs to be learned and developed. You can learn by doing, but you will learn even more by training others. This will help you find more ways to grow your business, because you will continue to learn as you go and learn as you grow. It is easier to grow your business if you have a pool of talent you can draw from that is already trained.
Now I will be the first to admit, each of these Floors, or Stories, or Layers or Levels of Success may have many steps. You can make them simple or complicated. I choose to keep them simple. Do what you love. Learn to make money at it. Save the money you make. Learn to teach others how to make money doing what you both love to do. Then grow your business. You see I believe in this system because I have lived both sides of this system. The people who I have seen and worked with who do what they love and then train others seem to be the most successful.
Success is a Five Story Building. 1st Floor – Do what you love. 2nd Floor – Learn to make money at it. 3rd Floor – Save the money you make. 4th Floor – Teach others how to make money doing what you love. 5th Floor – Grow your Business.
Intentionally Communicate Expectations. Dictionary Dot Com defines the words the following way.
an act or instance of determining mentally upon some action or result.
the imparting or interchange of thoughts, opinions, or information by speech, writing, or signs.
the act or state of looking forward or anticipating.
Intention, Communication and Expectations; these are almost always the keys to success in almost any business relationship. So why not just put them together into on key that forms a snazzy acronym. What are you Intentions? What are your expectations? How do you communicate each of these things? I am amazed at how bad it seems that I communicate my intentions and expectations to others. The reason I say that I am amazed at how bad I am at communicating is because I see how people react. I want the best for people. I want to challenge people to want the best for themselves. So why would people get mad at me for wanting the win – win for everyone. The only reason I can find is that I am not communicating my intentions and expectations in an effective way for others to receive them.
You see we all have different backgrounds and different experiences. We have different personalities and different ways of learning. So the people who are successful are the ones who can communicate the most efficiently and effectively with the most people. People who are successful clearly state their intentions and expectations. So to be more successful, learn to communicate clearly to the most people possible.
You see, not everyone is going to agree with you. Not everyone is going to agree with me. That is why there are so many options at the Movies, On Television and on the Radio. That is why there are so many entertainment options because not everyone wants to do the same thing the same way at the same time. So, if you want to get things done it is to your benefit to clearly communicate your intentions and your expectations to as many people as possible. I.C.E. Success.
I have spent a lot of my life communicating static. I have made a lot of noise that really did do much more than get laughs or make people mad at me. I have come to realize what was the point I was trying to make? I have come to realize that we need to make a point that is worth making in the first place. I have come to realize that making noise for the sake or making noise is not much of a reason to make noise. I have come to realize we should be communicating something worthwhile, or we should get out of the way so the people who have something worth saying can be heard. So now I try to motivate others to want the very best out of this life we have been given.
So if you want to be successful as yourself, how effectively are you communicating your intentions and your expectations? I am learning by doing. I am learning by trying. I believe we should all try, learn and try again. Efficiency and Effectiveness are keys to measuring how well we are doing and what we are learning. I.C.E. Success! Intentionally Communicate Expectations.