There is no Lesson without Loss.
Life is full of Winners and Losers. Life is full of wins and losses. Nobody wins all the time. Nobody losses all the time. Winners learn to lose less often. Winners learn from each loss. Winners learn from losing in practice until they can win more often during game time when it matters most. Winners learn from losses. The only real loss in life is losing the lesson. There is no lesson without loss.
Imagine for a minute that life handed you everything you ever asked for. Imagine if no one ever told you “No!” What would you learn? What kind of person would you turn into? Maybe the most important lesson in life is learning to lose, and then learn and then try again.
Think for a minute about the greatest athletes and the greatest teams of all time. Did they win every match, every game, every point, every time all the time? No, win streaks are rare at the match and game levels. Great coaches and great players break matches and games down to halves and quarters and points and plays. Do great teams and great athletes win every point and ever play? No, they win each point and each play, more often than they lose. This adds up to more games and matches won. Great teams can string together wins more often, sometimes winning 3, 4 or 5 times in a row. Great teams can put together win streaks of even 10 games or more. Streaks at this level become more and more rare. Rarely do teams go undefeated for an entire season. The more games you play in a year, the harder this becomes. Becoming great does not mean you never lose. Becoming great means you lose less often.
Great coaches and great teams break down matches and games down to plays. They practice learning to win. The may fail in practice over and over until they learn to succeed. Great teams learn to string success one play at a time until it turns into a win. Coaches study player’s strengths and weakness; and how they match up against other players to figure out a way to win. Games are won one point at a time. Success is created one day at a time.
If you are not making mistakes, you are not learning. Learning to lose and try again is very important to continued success. How often have you heard a great coach say their team handled adversity well? Adversity is loss, adversity is a tough time; handling adversity is learning to win.
No one wins all the time. They learn to lose, adjust and succeed in practice so they can win more often when in counts. Does it matter if it is a game, or a meeting or a day at work? If you had a big presentation at work next week, would you practice and run it by a few people before you present it to the boss or even the boss’s boss? If you were a new hire or a trainee wouldn’t you practice and learn your new job in a safe environment before being turned loose in the so-called real world? In each case, wouldn’t you break things down into simple steps or plays and practice them until you got them perfect. And then, when everything was on the line, would be able to recover from slip-ups or expect everything to go perfectly all the time?
Winners don’t win all the time. They learn from defeat and break things down to string together more wins than losses step by step, play by play. The only real loss is not learning from the loss. There is no lesson if you win all the time. The lesson is in the preparation. The lesson is from learning from the loss. You cannot spell lesson without loss. There is no lesson without loss.