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There is no Lesson without Loss.

There is no Lesson without Loss.

Life is full of Winners and Losers.  Life is full of wins and losses.  Nobody wins all the time.  Nobody losses all the time.  Winners learn to lose less often.  Winners learn from each loss.  Winners learn from losing in practice until they can win more often during game time when it matters most.  Winners learn from losses.  The only real loss in life is losing the lesson.  There is no lesson without loss.

Imagine for a minute that life handed you everything you ever asked for.  Imagine if no one ever told you “No!”  What would you learn?  What kind of person would you turn into?  Maybe the most important lesson in life is learning to lose, and then learn and then try again.

Think for a minute about the greatest athletes and the greatest teams of all time.  Did they win every match, every game, every point, every time all the time?  No, win streaks are rare at the match and game levels.  Great coaches and great players break matches and games down to halves and quarters and points and plays.  Do great teams and great athletes win every point and ever play?  No, they win each point and each play, more often than they lose.  This adds up to more games and matches won.  Great teams can string together wins more often, sometimes winning 3, 4 or 5 times in a row.  Great teams can put together win streaks of even 10 games or more.  Streaks at this level become more and more rare.  Rarely do teams go undefeated for an entire season.  The more games you play in a year, the harder this becomes.  Becoming great does not mean you never lose.  Becoming great means you lose less often.

Great coaches and great teams break down matches and games down to plays.  They practice learning to win.  The may fail in practice over and over until they learn to succeed.  Great teams learn to string success one play at a time until it turns into a win.  Coaches study player’s strengths and weakness; and how they match up against other players to figure out a way to win.  Games are won one point at a time.  Success is created one day at a time.

If you are not making mistakes, you are not learning.  Learning to lose and try again is very important to continued success.  How often have you heard a great coach say their team handled adversity well?  Adversity is loss, adversity is a tough time; handling adversity is learning to win.

No one wins all the time.  They learn to lose, adjust and succeed in practice so they can win more often when in counts.  Does it matter if it is a game, or a meeting or a day at work?  If you had a big presentation at work next week, would you practice and run it by a few people before you present it to the boss or even the boss’s boss?  If you were a new hire or a trainee wouldn’t you practice and learn your new job in a safe environment before being turned loose in the so-called real world?  In each case, wouldn’t you break things down into simple steps or plays and practice them until you got them perfect.  And then, when everything was on the line, would be able to recover from slip-ups or expect everything to go perfectly all the time?

Winners don’t win all the time.  They learn from defeat and break things down to string together more wins than losses step by step, play by play.  The only real loss is not learning from the loss.  There is no lesson if you win all the time.  The lesson is in the preparation.  The lesson is from learning from the loss.  You cannot spell lesson without loss.  There is no lesson without loss.

Learn C.H.E.S.S. for success!

Welcome to 60 seconds of Motivational Mojo.  I do not expect you to learn the game of chess to be successful.  This is the acronym C.H.E.S.S. – Challenge, Help, Excite, Scare and Sustain; do something that challenges, helps, excites, scares and sustains you.

The game of chess is a classic game of strategy and skill.  Learning to play chess can help you think many moves ahead.  You will learn how to use each piece in different situations.  The acronym C.H.E.S.S. is something different.  Do something that “Challenges” you.   Do something that “Helps” you.   Do something that “Excites” you.   Do something that “Scares” you.  Do something that “Sustains” you.

Do you want to be successful?  The first step in success is to step out of your comfort zone and find a challenge.  Find something that challenges you to get better than where you are now.  Find something that will demand that you become better than you are today.  When you learn the game of chess, you do not become a Master overnight.  IT takes years of study.  Do not be afraid of something that just requires you to put in extra time to learn and grow.  Take it one day at a time and keep getting better.  This is the first step in success.  Step up to a new challenge!

Do you want to be successful?  The second step is to make sure you are doing something that will help you.  If you cannot clearly see how you will benefit from this new challenge, you run the risk of losing your drive and giving up.  Set a clear goal that will illustrate how learning a new skill or becoming better at what you do will help in the long run.  Set a goal and keep an eye on it.  It will help you through those frustrating times when nothing seems to be going right.

You want to be successful, correct?  Do something that excites you.  Learning something new and challenging will take some time.  This new endeavor may not bring immediate returns.  Part of learning is that learning is its own reward.  Imagine if you want to learn to play guitar.  Before you will get paid to play the guitar, you will have to learn how to play and perform.  The thrill learning to play new songs will keep you going while you learn to play the guitar.  The same can be said for many skills that you will learn to become a success.  Do something that excites you, helps you and challenges you.

Do you want to be successful?  Do something that scares you.  Winston Churchill said, the only thing we have to fear is fear itself.  For many of us, fear holds us back from doing what we always wanted to do.  Sometimes we find things are easier than we thought they would be to learn.  If knowing is half the battle, getting started may well be the other half. You never know until you try.  Do not let fear keep you from trying.

Do you want to be successful?  The final step is to do something that sustains you.  Do something that will benefit you long term.  Many successful people have stated, anything worth doing is worth doing for money.  Another great quote is that if you a good at something never work for free.  Maybe you agree with these statements, maybe you do not.  I have discussed possible projects with very talented people who I respected and they said they loved what they were doing and did not want to turn it into work.  They did not want it to feel like a job.  So I asked them, do they love their job?  Why not do what you love?  Why do something you do not love for money so you can have the money to do what you love?  What is the value of all of your time?  Do something that sustains you!

If you have never played chess, I would suggest you learn.  You do not have to become great overnight.  Good things take time.   My formula for success is C.H.E.S.S. do something that challenges you, helps you, excites you, scares you and sustains you.  Then teach that to someone else!

Are you waiting for everyone to love your ideas?

Are you waiting for everyone to love your ideas?

Welcome to 60 Seconds of Motivational Mojo.  Do you have an idea or a dream that you really want to chase, but you are waiting for something, anything?  Are you waiting for a sign or the approval of others?  Are you waiting for everyone to love your ideas?

Don’t wait, get to work.

Think about this for a minute.  The President of the United States is one of the most loved and most hated people on the planet.  Trump, Obama, Bush, Clinton; they have all been President.  Do you love them all?  Do you hate them all?  Do you love half and hate the other half?  Which side of the fence you are on makes no difference, each of these 4 men has reached the highest elected office in the United States and plenty of people did not like them.

So what are you waiting for?  Are you waiting for everyone to love your ideas?  No matter what you try to do, not everyone will love your idea.  Some people may hate it, some may love it – but that does not mean they will help you.  Others may love your idea so much they will try to steal it from you.  Some people will be jealous of you and some may be your friend.  Then there are those who will get close to you so they can stab you in the back.

Don’t wait, get to work.

Think about this for a moment.  Elvis Presley, Frank Sinatra, Michael Jackson, Justin Timberlake.  Some of the most popular American singers of all time.  Do you love them all, do you love all their songs?  Everyone has different tastes.  Your taste may not appeal to everyone.  Are you waiting for everyone to love your ideas?  If you sell 30 Million copies of a song in the US, that means over 300 Million people did not buy your music.  So think about it, you can be one of the most popular singers in the world with a less than 10% buy-in from the general public.  Do not let the 90% who may not like you stop you from reaching the 10% who do.

Don’t wait, get to work.

The only thing I hope and pray you will consider is to not do harm to others to get where you want to go.  Don’t sell fear or hate to reach your dreams.  Walk in hope and love for others.  Are you waiting for everyone to love your ideas?

Don’t wait, get to work.

Just do it.

Start today.

One small step at a time.

Just do it.

Start today.  One small step at a time.  Take five minutes and double check the facts.

Just do it.

Take 15 minutes to practice or meditate or pray on it.

Start today.

Take five minutes to double check the facts.  Look at both sides of the story.

Just do it.

Set aside 15 minutes a day or an hour a week, but stick to it.

Start today.  One step at a time and then build on it.

Just do it.

Start today.

One small step at a time.

Take five minutes and double check the facts, look at both sides of the story.

Build on it, 15 minutes a day and then add a little at a time.

Just do it

Start today

 

It is OK to want to be great.

It is OK to want to be great.

Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.  No one made it to the top by accident.  Sometimes people are born on top and if they are not careful, it can all be taken away.  For the rest of us, we will need to figure out how far we want to get in this life and a strategy to get there.  It is ok to want to be great.

Will you work for it?  Again, getting to the top is not an accident.  Will you do things the right way or will you look for short cuts.  Remember, it can all be taken away.  It takes an attitude, it takes focus, disciple and energy.  There a lot’s of ways to get to the top, not all good and not all bad.  Wanting to be great is not enough.  Are you ready to keep getting better until everyone else says you are great?

You can tell yourself how great you are the livelong day but that does not make you great.  Effort, disciple, focus, practice, coaching are elements that go into being great at anything.  It is OK to want to be great, if you are willing to put in the time and keep getting better.  Then when enough people say you are great; you won’t have to say how great you are, you can just say “Thank you.”

It is OK to want to be great.

Will you allow yourself to be coached?

Do you have something that you love to do and what to get better at it? Will you admit to yourself that you have something missing that you need to learn?  Will you take active steps to find a mentor?

Many years ago, I set out to become a better DJ. I was a freelance DJ doing parties and a few wedding here and there.  I was not able to grow my freelance business through word of mouth.  I did not chase gigs.  I figured if I were good, word would get out.  I was stuck in a never-ending cycle of low paying and low quality gigs.  Keeping up all the equipment was not cheap and decent paying gigs were few and far between.  I swallowed my pride after reading a few books on leadership and looked for a booking agent.

I called a bunch of DJ services and one got back to me in 24 hours; this was the place I wanted to join. The other guys, if you can’t be bothered to call me back in a timely manner, even if it is just to leave a message, well you won’t be my first choice.  After two interviews and an audition gig, I was told to upgrade my equipment.  After spending thousands of dollars on new equipment and doing a second audition gig I was handed a full calendar of bookings after my second week with the company.  Did I have to swallow my pride?  Yes!  Did I have to take notes after each gig?  Yes and that was the reason I was giving a full slate of bookings.  The owner told me pointblank; you did everything I asked you to do.

I had to learn to take coaching input and get better because of it.

Now many years later I have been getting out and doing some public speaking. Trying to motivate others and help people find jobs by volunteering and paying it forward to others.  Would I like to be a full time public speaker one day?  Well I would like the option.  Now because I have helped others find jobs, I have been very fortunate to keep my career moving forward.  Now I am in a position where I am expected to give presentations as part of my job function.  In prepping for presentations, I have been coached and mentored by others in the company.  I have had to swallow my pride yet again, and it has made me better because of it.

Sometimes being coached and mentored is not an easy process. The goal is to get better, so you may have to admit where you are weak.

Now read these lines very carefully. Do not compromise your morals, principals or ethics to be coached.  Sometimes people are put into comprising situations because of money, power or fame.  Do not be one of them.  In each case where I was being coached it was a win / win situation for both parties.  I got a better job, extra money or a better career path and not by selling myself or getting taken advantage of in the process.  Never get caught up in the hype or promise by shady characters.

Coaching and mentoring should be an open and honest process not something that is conducted in the shadows or behind closed doors. Allow yourself to be coached, allow yourself to be mentored; but do not become a target and be baited into a bad situation.

So listen to the inner voice. Allow yourself to become better at what you do.

Learn from everything but focus on the good.

Learn from everything but focus on the good.

The world is full of good and bad.  Learn from everything but focus on the good.  The world is full of darkness and light, learn from everything but spread light.  The world is full of choices, good news and bad news.  Choose to spread good news.

It is simple really, change your focus.  It will not change the world over night, but it will change what you are learning.  What you are learning can change what you are doing.  What you are doing can change your circumstances.  What you are doing and what you are teaching others can lead to success or failure.  If you are successful you may not change the whole world, but it can change your world.

It starts with leaning and where your focus lies.  What you focus on affects what you will learn, what you will say, what you hear, what you do.  Learn from everything but focus on the good.  Spread good news, spread truth, spread light and teach others from what you have learned.  Focus on success and not failure.  Be the person you want others to be like.  Be like the person you want to be.  You are not your circumstance, you are what you learn and what you do and what you teach others.  Learn from everything but focus on the good.

Spread good news.  Spread truth.  Spread light.  Focus on the good and teach others from what you have learned.

54 Weeks from now

54 Weeks from now.

Happy New Year.  Happy Holidays.  Merry Christmas.  All of those things.  As I sit here on New Year’s Day, I am reminded of my state of mind for the last few weeks.  As much as people like to celebrate where they have been and start a new, I find myself thinking 54 weeks ahead.  When Christmas and New Years roll around I as much as I am grateful for all that I have been through in the past year, I am also looking ahead to where I want to be next Christmas and Next New Years.

I am very thankful for all the oppourtunites I have been given and all the people I have met.  I am thnkful that I am able to keep learning and growing and pushing myself to get better at the things I enjoy doing.  I am more enthused and more optimistic than ever.  I wake up everyday knowing that the sky is the limit.  Thank God for good news, so I choose to spread good news.

Where do I want to be next year?  I want to keep moving forward.  I want to have produced 4 motivational workshops that are also fundraisers and volunteer drives for local charities.  I also hope to help others encourge and motivate and reach as many people as possible together.  I think that if we can learn to work together we can move mountains.  But it will be one brick at a time, so I reach out to people one at a time to spread good news and help others through coaching and mentoring.

Every Christmas and New Years I want to be one step closer to my goals, but I also find myself thinking 54 weeks ahead to the next Christmas and the next New Years.  Where do you want to be next year?  What goals have you set for yourself.  Dream big!

Happy New Year

Happy New Year

2017 is a blank page. It is a clear slate.  It is a New Year, a New Hope, and another New Beginning for those who are willing to let it. Let it be new.  Treat every day as a New Beginning.

Everyday of 2017 I wish for you to have hope. Everyday.  Don’t wait for New Year’s Eve, start today.

Tell someone you love them and mean it. Call someone up and listen to them.  Encourage someone.  Teach a kid something new.  Do no harm.  Be honest and set a good example.

We can all start new in 2017 and we can start new every day. We do not have to wait for the New Year, start now.

David vs Goliath

David vs Goliath

We all have heard the story haven’t we? David and Goliath!  The famous story of how a shepherd boy took on a giant and won.  The story of the underdog winning against all odds.  This story has inspired countless people to face their fears.

Now I do not want to take one ounce away from this story, I would love to see people face their fears; this post is for me as much as for anyone. However, before David defeated Goliath, David had the courage to face a Lion and a Bear on separate occasions.  Before David was brave in battle, David was brave while tending sheep.  Now many of us want to be known as mighty conquerors; but will we put that same faith and bravery in the small jobs?  Before David could protect his fellow citizens, David was protecting his Fathers flock.

Will you be brave in the little things that will prepare you for the big things? How many of us would go out of way to save one sheep from a Lion or a Bear?  How many of us will put our trust in God to train us up for the big job (facing Goliath) while doing the little job that no one wants (tending to sheep?)  How many of us will even acknowledge that we believe in God and need God to show us the way?

Yeah, we all want to be known as giant killers, but will we listen to the inner voice that tries to guide us day in and out to get ready for battle? David said no to the armor and advice of the “Brave” warriors who would not face Goliath.  David relied on the skill and knowledge that God gave him while tending sheep.  Will you be loyal in the small things so you can be ready to face the big things when the times comes?

Will you be ready to face your Goliath? Do not rush it.  Spend your time being brave while tending to the sheep!