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Deal with reality.

Welcome to 60 Seconds of Motivational Mojo. Give me please just a minute of your time to try to brighten your day. I know that life is not always the way we want it to be. Life is not fair, so we are left to deal with reality. You can do it. I can do it; in the end we have to do it. In the end we have to deal with reality.

Let’s say there are three versions of the life we lead. There is the life we want, the life we believe we can have and the life lead day in and day out. So what drives us? We all have a dream don’t we? More than hitting the lottery, if you could write you own life story, what would you write? The live you wish you had is what motivates you to chase your dreams. The life you believe you can have is where you think you will more than likely end up. Then there is the reality of your day to day life. The closer you can get those three visions to line up, the happier you will be. That is what I believe.

So, I ask you again. What is your dream life? If you could write it down on paper, what would you write? Now, I ask you this question. Do you think that the life you wish you have is possible? If the answer is yes, you are more than likely doing something every day to get closer to that life. If the answer is no, no you do not believe your dream life is possible; then you are still doing something, you are doing something to get you close to the life you believe you can have. If you truly believe you will hit the lottery you will buy lottery tickets; if you do not believe you will hit the lottery, you won’t buy lottery tickets. It is that simple. In the end you will do the things you believe you can get done, not the things you wish you can get done. Do you see where I am heading? Finding balance between your wishes, your beliefs and your reality are very important.

Why do people give up? Why do people seem to self-destruct?  I believe it is when people feel like they do not deserve anything better or more than what they already have. What they wish for is so far out of sight and what they believe is less than what they can really accomplish. This is a total loss of hope. Again, this is why I believe there is a need for balance in what you are wishing for, what you believe and your reality. Yes it all sounds so simple, and really it is just that simple.

It is easy to want the best in life. Advertisement agencies develop campaigns every day that you deserve the best. It doesn’t matter if it is fast food or luxury cars. You deserve the best. The only question is do you believe it? I am not talking about the angry customer who wants something for nothing. I am talking about the person who is happy with their life and their choices. Are you happy with your choices? Do you believe that you deserve the best? If so, it will be easier for you to deal with your reality.

We all have to deal with reality, but that does not mean we cannot change our reality. If it is possible then it is possible for us to be a part of it. If it is probable, then it is more than likely that we will try, at least once. So there is your possibility which might not happen; your probability, which will more than likely happen and your reality which is happening now. Things change because you apply your energy to change them. Either you change things or things will change you. If you do nothing, than slowly but surely life will pass you by and time will rob you not only of your dreams, but also of the things that you could have had. Time will rob you of your possibilities and your probabilities if you let it.

Now, people can also rob you of your dreams. People can be very negative and take away not only what is possible for you, but also take away what is probable for you. Let’s say you want to be a Singer but you are working at a deli. So maybe you are in line for a promotion at the deli, and maybe there is a tryout for a talent show. Negative people will convince not to try for either. They will tell you that you are dreaming and you need to know your place. Negative people have lost hope of their dream so they do not want to see you reach your dream. So not only will they kill your dream, that talent show tryout; they will kill your promotion at the deli also. You are the one who in the end will have to deal with the reality, either you tried or you let someone else talk you out of trying.

Deal with your reality. Believe in your dreams. Make sure the life you want and the life you believe you can have line up with your reality. Do not let negative people crush your dreams to the point where you no longer want to even try for the life you want. Make sure the life you believe you can have is better than the life you are already living. Bad things happen when you feel like you do not deserve the best in life.

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A.C.E.S.

Aces are plain and simple the highest card in the deck of cards.  Put Four Aces together and you have the highest hand in Poker.  So are those the aces I am talking about in this post?  No, I am talking about a different kind of A.C.E.S. – Appreciate, Commit, Excel and Sacrifice.  Welcome to 60 Seconds of Motivational Mojo where I will challenge you to be great.  You see I am challenging myself to be great and I am putting my thoughts here in cyberspace for all to see.

Come with me for 60 Seconds and see if you can relate.  Aces are people who are known to be great at the things they do.  But how did they get there?  I believe in a very simple formula.  A.C.E.S. – Appreciate, Commit, Excel and Sacrifice.  Those are the four steps it takes to be great.  That and a little patience, but we will get to that.  The first step is Appreciate.

All of us have been given a gift, a talent.  We did not earn it, it has always been there.  Step one in using this gift is to appreciate the fact that you have been given a gift you did not earn.  Appreciate your talent enough to practice it, hone it, study it and learn from those who have been at it for longer than you.  Don’t be afraid; find a way to be thankful for who you are and what is already inside of you.  Appreciate your talents and find yourself.

A.C.E.S. – Appreciate, Commit, Excel and Sacrifice.  If Appreciate is Step One, than Commit is Step Two.  Commit to you gift, commit to your talent.  Now it is time to set a time-table and stick to a schedule.  If you want to be a great musician, set a practice schedule.  If you want to be a great Athlete, Chef, Artist or Business Person; set a practice schedule.  If you will not commit, you will always be out done by those who have a gift similar to yours and will use their time to increase their talent level.  A.C.E.S. Commit!

Excel; Step three is Excel.  If you truly appreciate your gift, and you have made the commitment to your talent, it is natural that you will Excel.  Expect it, anticipate it, respect it and do not let it go to your head.  Remember, your talent is a gift.  If you truly appreciate it, you will understand that when you excel, it is still beyond anything you could earn on your own.  You can and will excel.  Remember don’t be afraid, embrace the fact that you have put your time in and be thankful for your gift.  Appreciate your gift, Commit to your talent and Excel.

A.C.E.S. – Appreciate, Commit, Excel and Sacrifice.  You can measure your level of commitment by what you are willing to sacrifice.  The more time that you spend respecting your talent, the harder you work to retain your new-found level of excellence, you will have to make choices.  You will have to sacrifice at times.  There will be times when you will have to miss one thing to tend to another.  These choices, the times you may have to choose working over playing is part of the price you will pay to excel.  Life is full of barriers, but once you get over them, things can get easier.  Trust the fact that you might have to sacrifice to reach your goals.  A.C.E.S. are willing to make these Sacrifices.  Are you willing to sacrifice for a gift you did not earn?  Are you willing to look at your schedule twice and make the choices that will keep you on track?  Once your reach a certain level of excellence, you must commit to maintain that level, and you must appreciate your talents and your gifts.  It does not mean you will sacrifice everyday, but it does mean you will have to make choices from time to time.

A.C.E.S. – Appreciate, Commit, Excel and Sacrifice.

Why the easy way out is the hardest and worse option.

Don’t take the easy way out.  If your life is hard you must change.  Do not give in to the “stay the same” game.  Every time when confronted with the easy way out, you will find it is the worse option and it is the hardest way in the end.  WordPress readers, lend me your eyes and your imagination for a moment.   The easy way out is a trap.  I will attempt to show why the easy way out is the hardest and worse option.

Imagine for a moment you are confronted with a situation.  You can either take one of two choices, the easy way or the hard way out.  Whenever possible do not pick the easy way out.  Before you choose, stop for a moment and realize there are actually three choices; the easy way, the hard way and the smart way.  See who ever is giving you the choice is saving the best option for them self.  Don’t be fooled.  Look at all the facts and ask a few more questions.  The best way is not always the most apparent choice.

The easy way out is a trap.  You can’t learn and grow by doing things the easy way.  You have to learn what the value of a hard days work is… you also have to learn how to work smart.  Most people will try to take the easy way, and nothing will ever change for them.  No things will slowly get worse.  The easy way out is a crowded road with no reward.  You will sink deeper and deeper into debt.  Quick and easy never leads to quick or easy.  In the end, the easy way out is the worse option.

The hard road is a road less traveled   You will learn much more about your self and what you are made of when you travel the hard road, the road less traveled.  Now that being said; don’t be fool hardy.  Stay on a safe path.

The best option is the smart option. You see, if given a choice between the easy way and the hard way, the easy way is a trap.  The hard way is a challenge, and the smart way is invisible.  Maybe you should ask a few more questions and check the facts before you make your choice.

Why do people want things to stay the same?  Listen, time changes all things.  So you better get used to change.  Things and people come and go.  Jobs, bosses, opportunities are always coming and going.  Times are changing.  Technology is evolving and you have to be able to ask the right questions.  The smart way is the best way, but the hard way proves to be better than the easy way.  If you take the easy way, you learn nothing, you do not change and you get left behind.  If you take the hard way, you will learn, you will be rewarded and you will be able to catch up.  But if you wait, and ask the right questions and learn the right lessons, you can learn that knowledge and truth will become apparent in time.  You will then know when to work hard and when to work smart and when to wait.  You will learn and grow and you can make the changes it takes to be successful.

The easy way is the worse way.  Have you ever noticed how people how complain the most, never seem to want to do the work.  They want things to stay the same, and they want someone else to do the work.  Listen, things are going to change over time, everything does.  You have to work hard enough to just keep up with the times.  Don’t you want to get ahead?  Well, you may have to work a little harder, and learn a few things along the way.  The easy way, the hard way and the smart way; the hard way can lead to the smart way, the easy way never does.

Learn to work hard, and then learn to work smart.  Working smart is knowing how to face your fears, it is learning from those who have put their time in and mastered what you are chasing.  Chase your dreams, they don’t chase you.  People who work smart seem lucky, but it is because they learned the hard lessons first.  People who take the easy way out, never learn anything; then when times change, they get left behind.  Don’t get left behind.  Learn to ask the right questions.  Ask the extra questions before you make your choice.

If the only choices you have is the easy way out, or the hard way; say, I am waiting for a better way.  If there is a third option you will find out soon enough.  See it all for what it is worth. If you can’t ask an extra question or two, can you really trust the person giving you the options?

Maybe this all seemed better in my head before I started typing this, or maybe my intended meaning is coming through.  Learn that you have more than one or two options before you make your choice.  When presented with the easy way and the hard way; look for third option, the best way.  Ask extra questions.  Get extra answers.  Take a minute to find out the truth.  If everyone seems to be going one way, ask yourself; is that the way you want to go.  Are you just going with the flow?  It may seem hard to blaze your own trail, but that might be the best thing for you.

Success is not about what you want to own, success is about what you want to do!

Success is not about what you want to own, success is about what you want to do!

I have heard it said that being successful means you have options.  When you wake up in the morning, how many options do you have?  Me, my options are go to work or don’t get paid.  My options are limited to the free time I have after work when I am not on the road for work.  Successful people get up in the morning and are able to pursue their passion.  If they want to take a hike, they take a hike… If they want to fly a kite, they fly a kite.

Success is not about what you want to own, success is about what you want to do!

Funny thing is people sometimes believe that success is about the stuff that you own, but it is not.  To quote a favorite movie of mine, “The things you own end up owning you!”  No I am not telling people that I want to become an anarchist, I am saying chasing possessions, and more importantly going into to debt to own things will end up limiting your options.  The more debt you have, the more time you have to work to pay off the debt, and the less time you have to enjoy the things you went into debt to buy in the first place.  Sounds like a trap, and most of us are caught in this trap.

Success is not about what you want to own, success is about what you want to do!

Success creates options, and people begin to imitate the options of the successful people.  How may people go out and sing Karaoke? Lot’s of people imitate other people for their fleeting five minutes of highly localized fame.  But how many people sing their own song?  Not as many, but they are still out their chasing the dream.  If I were the chairmen of the board of a major company and was making tons of money, and did an interview and said every morning I go fly a kite to clear my head before work; I bet a weeks pay more people would get up in the morning and fly kites to be like me, instead of chasing their own dreams.

Success is not about what you want to own, success is about what you want to do!

When you were a kid, you dreamed of doing things before you understood things like money, work, bills and debt.  Then we were told, time and time again not to chase our dream but to doing something more realistic… and we began to substitute the things we wanted to do with the things we wanted to have to be like the people who we think are successful.  Don’t believe me?  Watch your Television commercials a little more closely, most luxury items are sold under the guise of this is what all the successful people own.  The power suit, the big house, the imported car, the boat, the private club… I say make your own way, and learn how to become a leader and when the time is right you will have the things you want to have, but first learn how to do the things you want to do.

Success is not about what you want to own, success is about what you want to do!