Learn from everything but focus on the good.
The world is full of good and bad. Learn from everything but focus on the good. The world is full of darkness and light, learn from everything but spread light. The world is full of choices, good news and bad news. Choose to spread good news.
It is simple really, change your focus. It will not change the world over night, but it will change what you are learning. What you are learning can change what you are doing. What you are doing can change your circumstances. What you are doing and what you are teaching others can lead to success or failure. If you are successful you may not change the whole world, but it can change your world.
It starts with leaning and where your focus lies. What you focus on affects what you will learn, what you will say, what you hear, what you do. Learn from everything but focus on the good. Spread good news, spread truth, spread light and teach others from what you have learned. Focus on success and not failure. Be the person you want others to be like. Be like the person you want to be. You are not your circumstance, you are what you learn and what you do and what you teach others. Learn from everything but focus on the good.
Spread good news. Spread truth. Spread light. Focus on the good and teach others from what you have learned.
54 Weeks from now.
Happy New Year. Happy Holidays. Merry Christmas. All of those things. As I sit here on New Year’s Day, I am reminded of my state of mind for the last few weeks. As much as people like to celebrate where they have been and start a new, I find myself thinking 54 weeks ahead. When Christmas and New Years roll around I as much as I am grateful for all that I have been through in the past year, I am also looking ahead to where I want to be next Christmas and Next New Years.
I am very thankful for all the oppourtunites I have been given and all the people I have met. I am thnkful that I am able to keep learning and growing and pushing myself to get better at the things I enjoy doing. I am more enthused and more optimistic than ever. I wake up everyday knowing that the sky is the limit. Thank God for good news, so I choose to spread good news.
Where do I want to be next year? I want to keep moving forward. I want to have produced 4 motivational workshops that are also fundraisers and volunteer drives for local charities. I also hope to help others encourge and motivate and reach as many people as possible together. I think that if we can learn to work together we can move mountains. But it will be one brick at a time, so I reach out to people one at a time to spread good news and help others through coaching and mentoring.
Every Christmas and New Years I want to be one step closer to my goals, but I also find myself thinking 54 weeks ahead to the next Christmas and the next New Years. Where do you want to be next year? What goals have you set for yourself. Dream big!
Don’t let a Little Resistance keep you from being great.
Do you remember the game Flappy Bird? No not Angry Birds, I am posting about the game Flappy Bird: A game created by Dong Nguyen that took the Mobil App market by storm for a short time. Nguyen was making $50,000 a day in ads off of the game and pulled the game during the height of its popularity.
As much of a story that someone would cancel a top selling game and other people would sell the phones for over a thousand dollars just because the game was loaded on their phone. As interesting as all of this is, the most interesting thing to me was that the game started out very slowly in the app market. The game was not an over-night success. Most people claimed they loved it and hated it at the same time.
As more people played the game it started to be tweeted 500,000 times a day. The app was one of the Top Ten Downloads and By Feb. 1, Flappy Bird was the number-one free game in 53 countries in the App Store. So would you pull one of the most popular apps in the world off the market? Remember Nguyen did not pull the app while it was moving slowly and almost looked like it would die on the vine. No during this time he was updating the game. The game did not become popular until Nguyen was met with resistance, people were actually hating the game as much as they were liking it. Nguyen did not let a little resistance keep him from creating one of the most popular apps at the beginning of 2014. He more than likely just wanted to make a game that was fun, not something offensive or just for the attention.
So I ask you, will you let a few bumps in the road stop you from reaching your goals. Will you keep on chasing your dreams even if not a lot of people jump on your bandwagon or even if people stand in your way? If you are not causing harm to others and not just trying to steal the spotlight from someone else, will you let a little backlash keep you from your dreams?
Dong Nguyen is not like most of us. A lot of us would have given up before reaching our goals. And for those of us who would have stuck around and made it, few of us would have pulled one of the Top Downloaded Free Apps while it is at the height of its popularity and bringing in thousands of dollars each hour of the day in ad revenue. He wasn’t being sued but did he use a little smoke and mirrors to make the game a success?
Whatever the verdict, was it his own hype? Did the game just take off? Either way, it was not an over-night success. Dong Nguyen found the formula by sticking with it until it worked. Why he pulled the plug, we may never know the truth.
Don’t let a little resistance keep you from make your dreams come true.
From Loner to Leader:
Can you really make the jump from a Loner to a Leader? Yes, you can; but not in one quick step. I have been a loner in the middle of a crowd my whole life. I have study, reflected on and challenged myself to become a better leader. I think anyone can make the transition; you may have to ask yourself a few questions and overcome a few hurdles; but let me say it again. You can go from Loner to Leader.
So I totally understand why people become and consider themselves “Loners.” Maybe you feel misunderstood? Maybe you feel like to do things right you need to do them yourself. Maybe you feel frustrated by everyone talking and no one acting so you are tired of waiting around and you go it alone. Either path can lead to becoming a loner. So “Why” you may ask; “Why then become a Leader?” The answer is simple. Teams get more done and birds of a feather flock together. Sooner or later if you are doing anything worthwhile, you will get noticed. If you want to increase your chance of success, increase your leadership skills.
Let me say this again; this does not happen in one quick step. Here are the steps I have discovered along the way. The first Step is to believe that you are doing something worthwhile. What you think matters. What you are doing matters. If you are not thinking or doing anything then even that matters. If you are not thinking; start. If you are not doing; start. Think and act upon the things that you believe are worthwhile. You may feel all alone in the beginning; this is OK, we all don’t think alike. Just get started and believe in what you are doing regardless if anyone helps you at this stage. I beg of you, do something positive. Don’t let life pass you by and all you are left with is sour grapes.
Step Two is to learn more about what you are doing. Search out information from experts. Scour the internet, go to the library, read a book, watch a “How to Program;” do what it takes to increase your knowledge of what you are doing! This is a very important step. You need to know when someone is snowing you, you need to know when someone is scamming you or promising you things they cannot deliver. This may have been one of the reasons you became a loner in the first place. Don’t be the person who talks without knowing; know what you are doing and what you are talking about.
Step Three is to get around people who are doing the things you are aspiring to do also. Learn from them and talk to them face to face. This is why Step One and Two are so important. You have to know that you are bringing your unique skill and style to the table and that you deserve a place at the table. You will become known for what you know and what you do. Do you better than anyone else can.
Step Four is to practice, practice and practice some more; both in a group and by yourself. Practice with the intention of continually getting better at what you do. Again, you must believe that what you are doing is worthwhile, and that you are good at what you do. You do not have to be perfect, you just have to be good and have your own style and your own ideas.
Step Five is to accept the fact that you need a mentor. This must be someone you can trust, and the best way to trust them is to know what you are doing and where you are going and to get around enough people so you know who is serious and who is just faking it. Find a mentor who is the real deal. Find someone you look up to and is not trying to feed you a line. This will help you grow even faster.
Step Six is to in turn mentor others. This is where you will really see why being a leader matters. You will get more done and you will learn more. Being a loner means it is harder to find new information and you have to learn by trial and error. Trial and error is an ok place to start in a safe environment, but you really want to excel, a strong team environment is the best place to learn and grow. Being a Leader inside of the group means you can help shape the vision and direction of the group and you can also help protect the group from people who are there to take advantage of others or to waste time.
Be the Real Deal. Know that what you are doing is worthwhile. Sometimes it seems like being a loner is the faster and easier way. It may seem like it at the start, but in the end; team work wins out. A strong team can carry a heavy load, can cover more ground and in the end will thrive. You can go from Loner to Leader; just follow the steps!
You can go from Loner to Leader!
Step One is to believe that you are doing something worthwhile.
Step Two is to learn more about what you are doing.
Step Three is to get around people who are doing the things you are aspiring to do also.
Step Four is to practice, practice and practice some more; both in a group and by yourself.
Step Five is to accept the fact that you need a mentor.
Step Six is to in turn mentor others.
From Loner to Leader:
Have you heard it said before? Someone in their feeble attempt to defend their bad behavior will say something to the effect of “Well at least I am not a bad as so and so.” Or “What about so and so, they are even worse.” Explain to me how being better than the worst example makes you good? I am trying to be funny and serious at the same time. I am trying to deal with something that is very negative without going negative myself.
“Well at least it not as bad as…” this is almost always the beginning of a lame excuse. Maybe people have suffered for so long they just want to not seem like they have given up, even though they have basically given up. “It could always be worse…” Isn’t that another one? I only have one question that begs and honest answer; “Did you do your best?” If the answer is “Yes” then there is no need for an excuse. If the answer is “No” then I guess any excuse will do.
Think about Automobile Racing. It is ok for the new team that can barely put together enough a budget to qualify for a race to come in last and learn as much as possible from the experience. But, what about the team that has a wealth of experience and even more financing? If they make all the wrong choices and come in next to last, are they ok with saying “At least were not last?” Do we say these things to lessen the sting of the blow so we can sleep better at night?
So another great excuse; “We had the most fun!” Ok, I can go with you on this one, under certain circumstances. If you know you are out matched and you just want to have a good time I can understand, as long as you are doing your best. I know a bunch of amateur Hockey Players who love to play in tournaments together. They put together a team and played in a tournament that was way out of their league. The other teams where younger, faster and played at higher levels than this friendly bunch of amateurs who knew each other from their day jobs. They played to win and had fun losing. I guess I get that, to a point. It is OK to make the best of a bad situation.
I am also saying that this can be a slippery slope for those of us who can do better, but we just don’t try hard enough. I know that I cannot do some things I did when I was younger. A Forty Something aged person cannot take the same risks as a Thirty Something. A Forty Something cannot bounce back as fast as a Twenty Something. But you can still play it smart and do your best. You can still be successful with having adjusted goals. I am still getting over how bad Brazil was overwhelmed on their own soil during the 2014 World Cup. How do you explain it to their fans? Was one player really that important to what they were doing? They did not respond by saying, “We were not as bad as so and so…” They responded by saying the result was un-acceptable, we should have prepared better. At the highest levels you must always be learning and striving to get better.
So why is Ok for those in the middle to think it is OK to not be as bad as those behind them? I try not to be envious of others. I don’t know enough about what they have been through or how they got where they are now. I can only keep track of what I did to get to where I am, and what I can learn to do better the next time. This is why I say, “Not as Bad as…” is a trap. Don’t fall in it. The key take away from every situation is “We did our best and this is what we learned.” Win, lose or draw; fun or no fun, do your best and learn from the situation. Not as bad as so and so, just does not work for me.
Don’t let your mistakes define your future.
It is pretty simple. A lot of us are victims of our own past. We are victims of our past mistakes. But that is not the way we should be looking at our future. We need a new perspective. We need a new take on our lives. We need to understand that our past mistakes are lessons to learn from, not prisons for us to find shelter in. We need to challenge ourselves to not let our mistakes define our future. So; don’t let your mistakes define your future.
Here is a simple little way to start on your new path, if you are ready to accept this challenge. If you are ready to accept this challenge then memorize this verse. “If you mess up then ‘fess up. If you make a mistake then fix what you break.”
Can you remember that? It is simple but that does not make it easy. It is simple to say but hard to accomplish. It starts with “If you mess up then ‘fess up.” Or if you want proper English, “Confess your mistakes.” If you mess up than confess your mistake. It may sound simple, but a lot of people are afraid to face their mistakes. Lots of people would rather blame their problems on others and live in denial. The problem with this is you will never learn how to avoid making the same mistakes over and over. It is something you have to practice. Just like getting good at a sport or a musical instrument or a new software package. Practice makes you better. You must learn to face your mistakes and confess what you did wrong. That is the first step in learning to get better at anything you want to accomplish in life.
“If you make a mistake then fix what you break.” I wish I would have learned this early in life. I wish I would have, could have and probably should have listened better when I was growing up. If you break something, do what you can to fix it. Have you ever been in a store with a “You break it, you buy it” policy? I have. Well we live in a world where people who break things seem to be able to cover them up and blame someone else. Let me ask you a question? How does that make any of us better at what we do? How does letting other people fix your problems teach you how to not make the same mistakes over and over again. If you break something, it is best if you are part of the process that fixes what you have broken. That may seem like a very complicated explanation, but it is that easy. It is that simple, “If you make a mistake then fix what you break.”
“If you mess up then ‘fess up. If you make a mistake then fix what you break.”
We all need a new way of looking at a very old problem. We let our egos get in our way of learning. Sometimes people are too afraid to admit they don’t know how to do something. Other times people are convinced they can never learn and worry too much. Making mistakes is part of learning. Making mistakes is part of life. If you are able to admit that you have more to learn, then maybe you will not be afraid of making a mistake here and there. Now if you are willing to admit you have things you need to learn, maybe you can learn from people how know what you want to learn. Maybe you can learn from people who can safely teach you how to avoid mistakes. Maybe you can learn from people who can help you fix the mistakes you make.
Don’t let your mistakes define your future. Your future is not been written yet. I believe there are still a lot of days for us to learn and grow before our time here is over. Let’s learn and grow together. The mistakes you made yesterday are the lessons you cannot lose today if you want to change your future. You must take an active part in learning from your mistakes and fixing what you break. This is how you can learn and grow and then maybe help those who come after you.
“If you mess up then ‘fess up. If you make a mistake then fix what you break.”
“You better watch out, you better not cry, you better not pout, I’m telling you why.” Welcome to 60 Seconds of Motivational Mojo. Let me let you in on a little secret of mine. I would love to be Santa Claus in real life. So, I present to you my Secrets of Success from Santa Claus.
I hope you know the words to the children’s song Santa Claus is coming to town. It is the basis for my post. So let’s start at the beginning. Santa Claus is so successful he gives away toys every year to children around the world. Please I do not want to get into any religious or secular debates. Yes, I know Christmas has been overly commercialized. You are missing my point. Santa Claus warns us that crying and pouting will not be rewarded. Maybe we need to go back and teach this to people all over again. No crying and no pouting because “Santa Claus is coming to town.” The take away lesson number one; do not reward bad behavior.
“He’s making a list and checking it twice. Going to find out who’s naughty and nice.” Plain and simple make a list and check it twice. If you want to be successful you need to stay on track and find out who is getting things done and who is not. “Santa Claus is coming to town.” Take away lesson number two; make sure people do what they say they are going to do, double-check everything.
“He sees you when you’re sleeping. He knows when you’re awake.” I don’t want to get dragged into any privacy issues here. Let’s just say that Santa Claus has a very good surveillance system in place. I would imagine if you have a workshop and warehouse full of toys you may not want anyone stealing them. Maybe that is why his tucked away at the North Pole. Again, I do not want to take up to much time on this topic.
“He knows if you’ve been bad or good. So be good for goodness sake” Ok, Santa Claus double checks everything and does not reward bad behavior, so he must have a point system in place to see who is doing a good job and who is not. Now, I would like to believe Santa Claus is telling us to “Be good for the sake of goodness.” I think that deep down inside of each of us we know when we are being bad and we know when we are being good. So, why not strive for good? “Santa Claus is coming to town.” Follow your moral compass.
So, there you have it my Secrets for Success from Santa Claus: 1) Do not reward bad behavior. 2) Double check everything. 3) Follow your moral compass. Lastly, Be Good for Goodness Sake!
How to go from Toddler to Titan!
We have all been there, but we all haven’t got there. We all have an Inner Titan inside of us. I think we were all destined for greatness, but some of us have lost sight of it. Here at 60 Seconds of Motivational Mojo, it is my job to get you back on track. Don’t be afraid, you can do it. Forget about the people who have told you to give up on your dreams. Follow with me on this one.
From Toddler to Titan: Crawl, Walk, Run, Fly!
Remember when you first learned how to walk? I don’t, I was pretty young at the time. But I have watched little babies. I have seen them when they are just a day old, and they are just getting used to moving and stretching and eating and sleeping. After a while they learn to roll over and use those arms and legs to crawl around. It gets them where they want to go. It doesn’t take them long to figure it out. Give a newborn six months and they will be crawling everywhere. Well we forget when we learn something new we have to learn how to crawl first. We don’t take the first six months to learn; we just want to run, before we learn to walk or even crawl. When learning something new, take a few months and get steady with it before you think you are ready to conquer the world. It is OK to have a coach or mentor guide you in the beginning; just make sure it is someone you can trust.
Crawl, Walk, Run, Fly! How to go from Toddler to Titan!
Learning to walk. OK, I told you I was pretty young when I learned how to walk, but I do remember learning to ride a bike for the first time. I had training wheels. And I got the whole bike thing down pretty quick; then my parents took the training wheels off. I fell a bunch of times, and had a few bumps and bruises, but I wanted to learn how to ride that bike. Well the same thing happens to those toddlers that I watched when they learn to walk. They hold on to someone’s hand, and then they learn to stand and take a few steps. They fall and they get back up. What happens to us when we get older? We lose the ability to get back up when we fall down. Does our ego keep us from admitting we are learning something new, and we just need to get back up? When you are learning something new, give your self a chance to learn how to crawl, and then learn how to walk. You may fall down a couple of times, but get back up and get back at it. Learn to walk, before you run!
How to go from Toddler to Titan! Crawl, Walk, Run, Fly!
It does not take a newborn baby long before they are running back and forward. Most babies are running before their second birthday. Now most of us, when we learn something new, some of us want to run before we learn how to walk even crawl. Some of us give up because we fall down a few times. And some of us, some of us take the time to learn how to run. Running is a great thing, if we take the time to learn how do it properly. For the longest time, running was the fastest way for humans to travel; then we learned how to ride horses and ride bikes and use all kinds of marvelous machines to transport us around. Still, running is still one of the easiest and cheapest forms of exercise, and every now and then; it is the only best option to get us where we need to go. Learn to run properly. Build up your endurance, don’t try to do too much too soon and then give up because you haven’t conquered the world in your first six months.
Crawl, Walk, Run, Fly! From Toddler to Titan:
OK, you have been at it for a couple of years now. Well you did not get your driver’s license until you were sixteen years old. Just because you can’t drive the car, doesn’t mean you can’t ride in it, and learn as much about it as possible though. If you want to be a race car driver, you should learn from race car drivers. Same thing goes with flying an Airplane or a Rocket ship. Learn from the people who know what they are doing. It may be hard to fly a plane or travel to the moon if you are afraid of heights. The day will come when you will have to face your fears. You want to be a Titan? You want to conquer the world? Do you think the world is going to make it easy for you? When toddlers want something they are determined. They struggle and the cry out, and they learn to point and talk and communicate what they want; but bottom line they are determined to get what they want. This is why parents have to watch their children closely. When we get older, we give up on what we want. What happened? OK, you can whine and cry, but you will only get the crumbs that way. To be a Titan, you have to face your fears and still be determined to breakthrough. You have to be determined to learn how to fly.
How to go from Toddler to Titan! Crawl, Walk, Run, Fly!
I have made plenty of mistakes in my life, everyone has. I am not proud of the things I do wrong, I am proud of the fact that I try to fix my mistakes. Seems like a lot of people brag about their failures. I am not sure how it happened; when people make mistakes we started telling everyone it is Ok. Everything is going to be alright. Somewhere along the way, people starting bragging about their failures. People became proud of the things they were doing wrong. We forgot to tell people, we have to fix our mistakes. We forgot to tell people that it is OK to fail, as long as you get up and try again. We lost the message somehow. I am not proud of my failure, I am proud of the fact that I try to keep getting better.
If you look at the bad points in my past, you would say; man that guy is a jerk. I am sure if you only looked at people at their worst, it would be true for a lot of us. It would be true for all of us. All of us have done wrong, and all of us have made mistakes. So somewhere along the way, we see successful people as just people and say they are no better than anyone else. Then people who are just plain evil can say, “I’m only human, only God can judge me!” Stand back and listen, and you will hear people brag about their failures. Criminals have been caught because they filmed their crimes, and some of the people even post their failures online and brag about it.
Stand back and listen to people, you know I am telling the truth. Some people brag about cheating on their spouses. Some people brag about cheating on their taxes. Some people brag about making money off of scams. Some people spread lie after lie after lie and are never around when the truth comes out. Listen, I get it; all of us make mistakes. I used to be one of those people who would brag about my failures. I had plenty of friends at the time. Yeah, I was the life of the party. Then I started to realize, it was not doing anyone any good, and it certainly wasn’t doing me any good.
I started to change. I went from being negative to positive. I started searching for the truth. I studied more and more about success and leadership. I challenged myself to learn from my mistakes. Am I perfect? No; by the way, who is perfect? Am I on top of the world? No, I am far from it. Have I climbed all the mountains in my dreams and reached the peaks? No, but I am still climbing. Does that make me better than anyone else? Well, I am not the judge of that. But when my judgment day comes, I will be able to say I tried to keep getting better, and I tried to encourage others to do the same.
We all have to stop promoting failure as success. Maybe we got too wrapped up in greed and pride and selfishness. Winning at all cost became more important than honesty and fair play. Listen, it is Ok to fail if you can honestly say you did your best, and you learned from your failures. But to be welled up with pride about failing, or not trying; it does not make sense, does it? Take a step back, see for yourself. Stand back and watch and listen to people. You can’t get caught up in all the bragging and showboating, or you will miss what I am saying. Stand back and listen, and you will hear people who brag about their failures and they do make any attempt to fix them.
I have a long way to go, we all have a long way to go; but an easy start is to stop being proud of failing, and be proud of trying again. Learn from your mistakes and don’t be afraid to start over. It is always better to give your best than to be proud of doing your worst.
There is an old saying in Pro-Wrestling. “To be the man, you got to beat the man.” All bravado aside, what this meant was “To be the Champion, you have to beat the Champion.” Now you may wonder, what does Pro-Wrestling have to do with Motivational Blogging? Well, what I am saying is “To be the best, learn from the best!”
Standing on the shoulders of giants is not a new concept. Open debates in public, became universities, and now thanks’ to technology, you can learn just as fast or faster by sharing ideas on-line in open forums. Learning has no time limit, and truly knows no boundaries. All you need is internet access and direction. But, still “Birds of a Feather Flock together.” What ever it is you want to learn, you have to go where the people who are “in the know” are hanging out.
You don’t have to rush in and bully anyone. No all the Macho Madness of Pro-Wrestling takes a back seat to collaboration. Working together will get you a lot farther in an open society than closed-minded thinking. If you get around the best, you have to work with and learn from the best to truly shine. Anyone can join a message board or discussion group. But to really hone your skills you have to participate. The Princeton Learning Principal states that 70% of Learning is doing, 20 Percent is mentoring & coaching and 10% is through formal education. You have to participate to learn.
You can spend your money going to college, I am not knocking that; the university will take your money, but the university will not force you to learn. You can then become a graduate assistant and maybe get paid to learn even more. If you are not participating at the next level, you will not be getting paid for long. The internet and all it’s vastness is almost free. For the price of a cup of coffee and a doughnut you can have a cyber office in most coffee shops; and internet access is part of the deal. The internet can not force you to contribute though. You have to motivate yourself to get involved.
To be the best, you have to learn from the best. You have to join a flock, and then you have to flap your wings and head in the same direction as the flock you have joined. You have to keep pace. You have to allow yourself to be mentored. You have to allow yourself to be coached. You have to allow yourself to be challenged. Then once you get your wings, help others get their wings. You have to allow yourself to mentor others. You have to allow yourself to relearn things from a new perspective that comes from coaching and mentoring. You have to understand it is a two-way street.
Let’s say you wanted to join a band of musicians. Do you think they would they would let you be in the band if you did not sing, write songs, or play a musical instrument? And if you did any or all of those things, do you think they would let you be in the band if you did not participate? Being the best you can be, and being the best requires getting around the best possible people you can find and then work with them and learn from them. Do you want to make the best music possible or do you just want to make noise? Great bands don’t have weak links. Everyone serves their purpose.
If you hang around the best and participate you will get better. If you hang around the best, learn from the best, work the hardest, and work the smartest, you can be the best. You don’t have to bully anyone. Isn’t that great?