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Change Why Me to…

Change “Why Me” and “Why Now” to

Why Not Me and Why Not Now!

It has to start somewhere; it has to start sometime.

Why not start here and now with you?

 

 

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Not Just Another Monday

Hello, today is Monday.  Though you may read this on a Tuesday or a Wednesday.

Today is Monday, but it is not just another Monday.  This Monday is today and today I make up my mind to do something special, no matter what the world throws at me.  Now you can do the same thing today, if you are reading this on a Monday, but if you are reading this on a Tuesady or Wednesday, you can still make up your mind to do something speical today!

The only thing you have to do to do something speical today is be the best you that only you can be.  Even if it is Thursday or Friday.  Seems like everyone want to save the best version of themself for Friday or Saturday or Sunday, but why not be the best you can be on a Monday also.

Today is Monday.  Make it a Super Happy Fun Day.  Make every Monday – Super Happy Funday and the rest of the week is easy.  Don’t make this just another Monday.  Do something great today!

Today is not just another Monday.  Make it something special!  Be the best you that you can be today!

 

Why not today.

Do you have a dream?

Are you chasing it?

Why not start today?

Can you find a way to google your idea, or your idols or find some inspiration?

Why not go to the Library and read a few books?

Why not go to a community center and volunteer?

Why not today?

 

 

 

Not being as bad as the worst is not much of an excuse.

Have you heard it said before? Someone in their feeble attempt to defend their bad behavior will say something to the effect of “Well at least I am not a bad as so and so.” Or “What about so and so, they are even worse.” Explain to me how being better than the worst example makes you good? I am trying to be funny and serious at the same time. I am trying to deal with something that is very negative without going negative myself.

“Well at least it not as bad as…” this is almost always the beginning of a lame excuse. Maybe people have suffered for so long they just want to not seem like they have given up, even though they have basically given up. “It could always be worse…” Isn’t that another one? I only have one question that begs and honest answer; “Did you do your best?” If the answer is “Yes” then there is no need for an excuse. If the answer is “No” then I guess any excuse will do.

Think about Automobile Racing. It is ok for the new team that can barely put together enough a budget to qualify for a race to come in last and learn as much as possible from the experience. But, what about the team that has a wealth of experience and even more financing? If they make all the wrong choices and come in next to last, are they ok with saying “At least were not last?” Do we say these things to lessen the sting of the blow so we can sleep better at night?

So another great excuse; “We had the most fun!” Ok, I can go with you on this one, under certain circumstances. If you know you are out matched and you just want to have a good time I can understand, as long as you are doing your best. I know a bunch of amateur Hockey Players who love to play in tournaments together. They put together a team and played in a tournament that was way out of their league. The other teams where younger, faster and played at higher levels than this friendly bunch of amateurs who knew each other from their day jobs. They played to win and had fun losing. I guess I get that, to a point. It is OK to make the best of a bad situation.

I am also saying that this can be a slippery slope for those of us who can do better, but we just don’t try hard enough. I know that I cannot do some things I did when I was younger. A Forty Something aged person cannot take the same risks as a Thirty Something. A Forty Something cannot bounce back as fast as a Twenty Something. But you can still play it smart and do your best. You can still be successful with having adjusted goals. I am still getting over how bad Brazil was overwhelmed on their own soil during the 2014 World Cup. How do you explain it to their fans? Was one player really that important to what they were doing? They did not respond by saying, “We were not as bad as so and so…” They responded by saying the result was un-acceptable, we should have prepared better. At the highest levels you must always be learning and striving to get better.

So why is Ok for those in the middle to think it is OK to not be as bad as those behind them? I try not to be envious of others. I don’t know enough about what they have been through or how they got where they are now. I can only keep track of what I did to get to where I am, and what I can learn to do better the next time. This is why I say, “Not as Bad as…” is a trap. Don’t fall in it. The key take away from every situation is “We did our best and this is what we learned.” Win, lose or draw; fun or no fun, do your best and learn from the situation. Not as bad as so and so, just does not work for me.

Good enough is never good enough.

I have tried to learn from my mistakes. I have tried to give the kind of advice that works universally no matter who is listening. I try to give the kind of advice that I will follow. That is the only real measure of advice isn’t it? Does it work for everyone, and will you follow the advice you give?

So I have learned from my mistakes and the one thing I have learned is that “Good Enough” is not “Good Enough.” I have learned that “Good Enough” is not “Good” or “Enough.” There have been times in my life where I was the one who said, “We have done good enough.” Pretty much every time I said “Good Enough” it was basically a cop-out. I was either bored or tired or just plain being lazy. Pretty much every time I said “Good Enough” it was to deaden the pain of not really doing my best.

So if you set a goal and you fall short is it ok to say “Good Enough?” Well, do you want to be the best? Do you want to have fun? What are your goals? “Good Enough” is usually a way to say, we did not reach our goal but we did good or we did enough. Did you really? Did you do your best? Did you go above and beyond the call of duty? Let me say it again, whenever I said “Good Enough” it was pretty much a cop-out. The times I have failed, really failed is because I did not try. If I did not put out my best effort I pretty much almost always fell short. It is great to say hey we are in this to have fun and do our best. So stop saying “Good Enough!” Start saying, “Do your best!” Start saying “Give it your all!” Start saying “Enjoy the ride!”

“Good Enough” is not “Good” or “Enough”. Did you do good? Did you do enough? Then say it, say “We did our best.” But do not say “We did our best” unless you really did your best!  Say “We gave it our all” only after you gave it your all! Say “We had the most fun” if and only if you set out to have the most fun! I have stopped saying “Good Enough” and have started asking, “What can I do to help?” I have stopped saying “Good Enough” and started asking “What is needed the most that I can do?”  I have stooped saying “Good Enough” and started asking “What is our goal?” What is our target? Have we reached our goal? Are we on target? Are we ahead of schedule? How do we get back on track?

“Good Enough” is neither “Good” or “Enough.” Good is doing your best! Enough is giving it your all! The only person you are fooling by saying “Good Enough” is yourself, your team and everyone who is listening to you. So stop Fooling yourself and for God’s sake don’t fool your team into believing that “Good Enough” is OK when it is based on a second-rate effort. Did you really do your best? Did you really give it your all? Did you really enjoy the ride? The only person you are fooling is yourself.

Always reach for that little extra instead of saying we did “Good Enough.”   A little extra effort, a little smarter approach and a little time to enjoy the ride; that little extra is what makes it “Good!” That little extra is what makes it “Enough!” So learn from my mistake, and try this little piece of advice. If you are going to do something, do your best. If you are going to learn, then learn. If you want to have fun, then have fun.  Give it your all!

Limit your focus, but not your options.

Think about this for a minute. We all need options. We sometimes think we need to widen our view to have more options. Not necessary true, I say we can find more options regardless if we widen or narrow our focus. You can have laser sharp focus and it may allow you to see farther down the road than if you are searching all over the map. Limit your focus, but not your options.

Don’t let anyone limit your options. If you want to be a scientist, would you try to study everything at once? No, you would have to declare your major or your specialty. You can be focused and find out you have even more options. Have you ever heard of a “Jack of All Trades, Master of None?” Wouldn’t you like to be known as a “Master?” Mastering any subject takes focus. Now you may be able to Master more than one subject, but for most of us, we only have so much time and so much energy. For us to explore our options to the fullest, we need to focus our attentions on what is the most important to us. Most of us can not afford to be all over the map. We need to be able to make a short list of the things that matter most and concentrate on those things. Once you do that, you may find out you have more time and more options than you thought.

How do I know this? How am I basing this? I listened to too many people who did not have the same goals as I did. I wasted too much time and energy believing I did not have options. I have also been able to step up when I needed to the most. I have tried to continue to learn from my mistakes, and I have made plenty mistakes. The biggest mistake I have ever made? Lack of focus!

So I say it is not too late for any of us. I say that I can limit my focus but I do not have to limit my options. If I make a schedule, if I schedule my time; I must stay focused in the time it takes to get any given task done. Remember, time and energy and the things that matter most are part of this equation. I have come to a place in my life where I cannot be all over the map. I have to stay focused on those things that matter the most. My list may not match your list. My options may not match your options; that does not mean you do not have options. Never let anyone convince that you options are limited, it just takes focus. Limit your focus to those things that matter the most, and you made find you have more options.

Think of a Flashlight versus a Lantern. With the same amount of power and the same size light bulb a flashlight will focus the brightness in a single direction; a lantern will shine light in all directions. You may be able to see in more directions with a lantern, but you can see farther in any one direction with a flashlight. If you do not know which way to go a lantern may be the best option; but once you have a direction wouldn’t you want a flashlight?

Figure out where you are headed first, what are the most important things to you? Then focus your time and your energy on those things. Once you do that you can explore the options that will help your reach your goals. Limit your focus, but not your options!

Perception versus Reality:

Perception is not Reality. I have heard many Leaders say that Perception is Reality and I understand why they say it. But a Leader cannot afford to teach something that is not true and then fall victim to their own false teachings. So here at 60 Seconds of Motivational Mojo, I am forced to take that other view. I am here to shake up the status quo. Let me state it again. I understand why some Leaders say Perception is Reality, but I am here to say that Perception is False Reality. Stick around and let me explain.

Perception versus Reality:

Perception is what people think they see. It is how something appears to be even if they are not quite what they appear. Perception can be based on someone’s mood, state of mind, and prejudgment. Reality is Reality. Let’s use a Movie as an example. If you do not know a Movie was made that appeared to be a News Report; you may perceive the Movie to be true. Now imagine someone replaced your window with a Movie Screen that looked so real that you thought you were looking out a window. From your perspective, it would appear to be true until you tried to open the window and found out it was a movie screen. Reality is real, perception is a false reality. Perceptions can change, reality does not change. This is a very simple example, I know; but this is why a Leader should always challenge people to find out the reality and not make decisions based on perception.

Perception versus Reality:

Are you familiar with the term “Keeping up Appearances?” Have you know people who are really nice to you depending on who is around, and then will not give you the time of day when it is just you and them one on one? Have you ever know someone who makes it look like they are working very hard when the boss is around, but is the first one to slack off when the boss is not around? Have you ever seen some work really hard and then others take credit for their ideas? Every office and factory has the stories. Gossip, rumors and appearances are all based on Perception. Shouldn’t a Leader want to know the truth or should they play into the hands of those who are feeding their Perceptions? Have you ever been burned by the buddy system?

Perception versus Reality:

Why do we call it “Reality Television” when it should be called “Perception Television?” Let me ask you a question, “Do people behave the same when they see they are on camera?” The answer is no, some people pose for the camera and some people run from it. Some people crave attention and some people hide from attention. So imagine if you went to the mall and had two or three security guards, two cameramen, a lighting crew and a boom microphone following you around everywhere you went. To the people at the shopping mall, you would appear to be famous, even if you are not; even if it was all staged. So how much have you heard about “Perception Television” being Reality? Are you trying to “Survive” or “Keep Up?”

Perception versus Reality:

The reason a Leader should not say “Perception is Reality” is because this allows people to appear to do one thing while they really intend to do something else. A Leader should say “Live the Reality” or “Be the Reality” or “Make Reality the Perception.” I say this because we should all be striving to do our best and our best effort is what should show through. People need to find out the facts before passing judgment on any circumstance or performance. A True Leader should understand this; Perception can be based on Lies, while Reality is based on the Truth. Seek the truth and find the facts to learn the reality of any situation. Make Reality the Perception!

The Not-So-Secret Secret to Success:

The Not-So-Secret Secret to Success:

There are so many books and classes and schools of thought for success.  Let me break it down for you.  The Super-Secret Formula for Success is not really all that Secret.  The whole Secret think seems to play like a sales pitch after you have read through enough Success Strategies.  It took me my whole life to get to this place and I am going to share it with you right here and right now for free.  The Super-Secret Success Strategy is not really a Secret.

The Not-So-Secret Secret to Success:

People are successful for one of three basic reasons.  1:  They built a successful system.  2:  They took over a successful system.  3:  They inherited a successful system.

The Not-So-Secret Secret to Success:

There it is; you either Build, Climb or Inherit a Ladder to the Stars.  So I am betting you were not born rich or you are not already rich, otherwise why would you be reading my free blog when I can sell you the same information dressed up like Super-Secret Insider Information that only my exclusive circle of friends can share?  Seriously, I have made this overly simple because it is that simple.  If you are not in line to inherit a successful system, then your choices are 1:  Build your own system or 2:  Work your way up through someone else’s system.

The Not-So-Secret Secret to Success:

So what is a System?  It is a Business that provides a good or service at a profit or some other benefit.  I am not here to define what good or service or profit point you want to be at, that would take a lot of books.  Maybe that is why there are so many books that basically say the same thing for every good, service and profit point.  My point is that you will either figure out your own way of doing something that you want to do, or you will move through the ranks of someone else’s way of doing something you may or may not want to do; and usually though not always, you will do it because you will get paid or you will get some other benefit.  Now if you come from a rich family the only thing you really have to do is stay in the good graces of your family and learn the family business; unless you want to do your own thing.  If you stand to inherit a successful system and you are reading this blog, the only advice I have for you is, try to do some good!

The Not-So-Secret Secret to Success:

In all honesty, my only advice to everyone is to try to do some good.  If you are trying to build your own system, try to do some good.  If you are in someone else’s system, again try to do some good.  Lastly, if you stand to inherit riches; I beg of you to try to do some good.  So basically a System is a Business and Businesses are Collections of people working toward a common goal.  So one way to build a system is to have a goal and train up people to help you reach your goal.  The best way to train people is to show them that you know how to do what you are going to train them to do, or something that fits into the big picture.  Another way to train people is to get them around people who know the things you don’t know, and also show them that you generally care for their well-being.  Another way to train people is to make them fear you; I am no fan of this type of training.  So my advice to you is to figure out what you want to do.  Learn from people who are doing what you want to do.  Figure out your own way of doing it.  Teach your way to others, and care for their general well-being along the way.  That and try to do some good along the way.

The Not-So-Secret Secret to Success:

See this Simple Secret, Not-So-Secret Model for Success works regardless of if you want to 1: Build your own system, 2:  Rise through the ranks of an existing system, or 3:  You are going to inherit a system.  Learn from people who are doing or have done something similar to what you want to do.  Put you own personal stamp on it.  Train other people.  Care for their well-being and lastly try to do some good.  If you will do those things, I am betting you will be a success.

The Not-So-Secret Secret to Success:

So try my Super-Secret-Not-So-Secret-Secret-To-Success and if it does not work for you, I will give you a full refund of the purchase price.  What a minute, it is free!

Don’t let your mistakes define your future.

Don’t let your mistakes define your future.

Why_MeIt is pretty simple.  A lot of us are victims of our own past.  We are victims of our past mistakes.  But that is not the way we should be looking at our future.  We need a new perspective.  We need a new take on our lives.  We need to understand that our past mistakes are lessons to learn from, not prisons for us to find shelter in.  We need to challenge ourselves to not let our mistakes define our future.  So; don’t let your mistakes define your future.

Last lessonHere is a simple little way to start on your new path, if you are ready to accept this challenge.  If you are ready to accept this challenge then memorize this verse.  “If you mess up then ‘fess up.  If you make a mistake then fix what you break.”

Can you remember that?  It is simple but that does not make it easy.  It is simple to say but hard to accomplish.  It starts with “If you mess up then ‘fess up.”  Or if you want proper English, “Confess your mistakes.”  If you mess up than confess your mistake.  It may sound simple, but a lot of people are afraid to face their mistakes.  Lots of people would rather blame their problems on others and live in denial.  The problem with this is you will never learn how to avoid making the same mistakes over and over.  It is something you have to practice.  Just like getting good at a sport or a musical instrument or a new software package.  Practice makes you better.  You must learn to face your mistakes and confess what you did wrong.  That is the first step in learning to get better at anything you want to accomplish in life.

Repair“If you make a mistake then fix what you break.”  I wish I would have learned this early in life.  I wish I would have, could have and probably should have listened better when I was growing up.  If you break something, do what you can to fix it.  Have you ever been in a store with a “You break it, you buy it” policy?  I have.  Well we live in a world where people who break things seem to be able to cover them up and blame someone else.  Let me ask you a question?  How does that make any of us better at what we do?  How does letting other people fix your problems teach you how to not make the same mistakes over and over again.  If you break something, it is best if you are part of the process that fixes what you have broken.  That may seem like a very complicated explanation, but it is that easy.  It is that simple, “If you make a mistake then fix what you break.”

“If you mess up then ‘fess up.  If you make a mistake then fix what you break.”

We all need a new way of looking at a very old problem.  We let our egos get in our way of learning.  Sometimes people are too afraid to admit they don’t know how to do something.  Other times people are convinced they can never learn and worry too much.  Making mistakes is part of learning.  Making mistakes is part of life.  If you are able to admit that you have more to learn, then maybe you will not be afraid of making a mistake here and there.  Now if you are willing to admit you have things you need to learn, maybe you can learn from people how know what you want to learn.  Maybe you can learn from people who can safely teach you how to avoid mistakes.  Maybe you can learn from people who can help you fix the mistakes you make.

Second ChanceDon’t let your mistakes define your future.  Your future is not been written yet.  I believe there are still a lot of days for us to learn and grow before our time here is over.  Let’s learn and grow together.  The mistakes you made yesterday are the lessons you cannot lose today if you want to change your future.  You must take an active part in learning from your mistakes and fixing what you break.  This is how you can learn and grow and then maybe help those who come after you.

“If you mess up then ‘fess up.  If you make a mistake then fix what you break.”

Simple does not mean easy.

Do you have a nice simple dream?  Do you have a simple little project you want to undertake?  Do you have that thing you have always wanted to get done?  The best way to get started is to get started, but do not confuse simple with easy.  Simple does not mean easy.  A simple idea does not mean you get a free pass to snap your fingers and wait for magic to happen.  Simple means simple; but if living your dream was easy everyone would do it.

Don’t get me wrong, I am not telling you to make this complicated just to make this complicated.  Anything worth doing is worth doing well and to the best of your ability.  You can keep your ideas simple, but do not mistake that with meaning they will be easy to attain.  Most of the time you still need to be able to build on your dreams, you need to build on your goals and you need to build on your talents.  You may have to get around people who have done the things you want to do and reached the goals you want to reach.  Don’t be afraid to ask for help even though you may have a simple idea.

You see simple and easy are not the same thing.  Surfing the Internet is easy.  Creating the internet was very complicated.  Also the first versions of the internet and web service and computer hardware and web browsers were complicated.  It took a long time for the internet to become as simple as going to any coffee-house and logging into the “Facebook” or checking “Twitter.”  Simple does not mean easy.  The first mistake people make in thinking simple means easy is not respecting all the work it takes to make things look easy.

Exercising and lifting weights is simple.  Becoming a champion athlete is hard.  Playing guitar is simple, but learning to play a guitar well is hard.  Basic Electronics are simple.  Coming up with a new invention is hard.  Simple means simple, but to get good at something it still takes practice and patience and persistence.  It will get easier over time, but it does not mean it will be easy all the time.

Lots of times the people who make things look easy have practiced and planned and rehearsed until it seemed easy to the untrained eye.  Case in point, the most basic simple idea is getting people to work together.  Now, is that easy?  Have you tried?  Getting people to work together can be very rewarding, but it is not always an easy thing to do.  Again, have you tried it?  People sometimes have a tendency to make things harder than necessary.  Sometime people complicate things for any number of reasons.  Sometimes people make things complicated just to prove themselves right.

One of the basic ways to keep things simple is to just keep things simple.  Do not make things more complicated than they need to become.  Find one thing that people can agree on and give it a try.  Keep it simple.  Keep it basic.  Staying on track and reaching your goals is hard enough.  Why make things harder than needed?  Just remember, simple does not guarantee things will be easy.

What is my point?  Don’t think that because your idea may be simple that it will be easy.  Also don’t make things complicated, just keep things simple.  Give your ideas and dreams the respect they deserve and if they are worth it, they are worth working towards.  If your ideas, goals and dreams are worth doing, it is worth it to keep learning and practicing and getting better to reach your goals.  Keep them simple, but do not assume they will be easy.