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Limit your focus, but not your options.

Think about this for a minute. We all need options. We sometimes think we need to widen our view to have more options. Not necessary true, I say we can find more options regardless if we widen or narrow our focus. You can have laser sharp focus and it may allow you to see farther down the road than if you are searching all over the map. Limit your focus, but not your options.

Don’t let anyone limit your options. If you want to be a scientist, would you try to study everything at once? No, you would have to declare your major or your specialty. You can be focused and find out you have even more options. Have you ever heard of a “Jack of All Trades, Master of None?” Wouldn’t you like to be known as a “Master?” Mastering any subject takes focus. Now you may be able to Master more than one subject, but for most of us, we only have so much time and so much energy. For us to explore our options to the fullest, we need to focus our attentions on what is the most important to us. Most of us can not afford to be all over the map. We need to be able to make a short list of the things that matter most and concentrate on those things. Once you do that, you may find out you have more time and more options than you thought.

How do I know this? How am I basing this? I listened to too many people who did not have the same goals as I did. I wasted too much time and energy believing I did not have options. I have also been able to step up when I needed to the most. I have tried to continue to learn from my mistakes, and I have made plenty mistakes. The biggest mistake I have ever made? Lack of focus!

So I say it is not too late for any of us. I say that I can limit my focus but I do not have to limit my options. If I make a schedule, if I schedule my time; I must stay focused in the time it takes to get any given task done. Remember, time and energy and the things that matter most are part of this equation. I have come to a place in my life where I cannot be all over the map. I have to stay focused on those things that matter the most. My list may not match your list. My options may not match your options; that does not mean you do not have options. Never let anyone convince that you options are limited, it just takes focus. Limit your focus to those things that matter the most, and you made find you have more options.

Think of a Flashlight versus a Lantern. With the same amount of power and the same size light bulb a flashlight will focus the brightness in a single direction; a lantern will shine light in all directions. You may be able to see in more directions with a lantern, but you can see farther in any one direction with a flashlight. If you do not know which way to go a lantern may be the best option; but once you have a direction wouldn’t you want a flashlight?

Figure out where you are headed first, what are the most important things to you? Then focus your time and your energy on those things. Once you do that you can explore the options that will help your reach your goals. Limit your focus, but not your options!

Why the easy way out is the hardest and worse option.

Don’t take the easy way out.  If your life is hard you must change.  Do not give in to the “stay the same” game.  Every time when confronted with the easy way out, you will find it is the worse option and it is the hardest way in the end.  WordPress readers, lend me your eyes and your imagination for a moment.   The easy way out is a trap.  I will attempt to show why the easy way out is the hardest and worse option.

Imagine for a moment you are confronted with a situation.  You can either take one of two choices, the easy way or the hard way out.  Whenever possible do not pick the easy way out.  Before you choose, stop for a moment and realize there are actually three choices; the easy way, the hard way and the smart way.  See who ever is giving you the choice is saving the best option for them self.  Don’t be fooled.  Look at all the facts and ask a few more questions.  The best way is not always the most apparent choice.

The easy way out is a trap.  You can’t learn and grow by doing things the easy way.  You have to learn what the value of a hard days work is… you also have to learn how to work smart.  Most people will try to take the easy way, and nothing will ever change for them.  No things will slowly get worse.  The easy way out is a crowded road with no reward.  You will sink deeper and deeper into debt.  Quick and easy never leads to quick or easy.  In the end, the easy way out is the worse option.

The hard road is a road less traveled   You will learn much more about your self and what you are made of when you travel the hard road, the road less traveled.  Now that being said; don’t be fool hardy.  Stay on a safe path.

The best option is the smart option. You see, if given a choice between the easy way and the hard way, the easy way is a trap.  The hard way is a challenge, and the smart way is invisible.  Maybe you should ask a few more questions and check the facts before you make your choice.

Why do people want things to stay the same?  Listen, time changes all things.  So you better get used to change.  Things and people come and go.  Jobs, bosses, opportunities are always coming and going.  Times are changing.  Technology is evolving and you have to be able to ask the right questions.  The smart way is the best way, but the hard way proves to be better than the easy way.  If you take the easy way, you learn nothing, you do not change and you get left behind.  If you take the hard way, you will learn, you will be rewarded and you will be able to catch up.  But if you wait, and ask the right questions and learn the right lessons, you can learn that knowledge and truth will become apparent in time.  You will then know when to work hard and when to work smart and when to wait.  You will learn and grow and you can make the changes it takes to be successful.

The easy way is the worse way.  Have you ever noticed how people how complain the most, never seem to want to do the work.  They want things to stay the same, and they want someone else to do the work.  Listen, things are going to change over time, everything does.  You have to work hard enough to just keep up with the times.  Don’t you want to get ahead?  Well, you may have to work a little harder, and learn a few things along the way.  The easy way, the hard way and the smart way; the hard way can lead to the smart way, the easy way never does.

Learn to work hard, and then learn to work smart.  Working smart is knowing how to face your fears, it is learning from those who have put their time in and mastered what you are chasing.  Chase your dreams, they don’t chase you.  People who work smart seem lucky, but it is because they learned the hard lessons first.  People who take the easy way out, never learn anything; then when times change, they get left behind.  Don’t get left behind.  Learn to ask the right questions.  Ask the extra questions before you make your choice.

If the only choices you have is the easy way out, or the hard way; say, I am waiting for a better way.  If there is a third option you will find out soon enough.  See it all for what it is worth. If you can’t ask an extra question or two, can you really trust the person giving you the options?

Maybe this all seemed better in my head before I started typing this, or maybe my intended meaning is coming through.  Learn that you have more than one or two options before you make your choice.  When presented with the easy way and the hard way; look for third option, the best way.  Ask extra questions.  Get extra answers.  Take a minute to find out the truth.  If everyone seems to be going one way, ask yourself; is that the way you want to go.  Are you just going with the flow?  It may seem hard to blaze your own trail, but that might be the best thing for you.

Success is not about what you want to own, success is about what you want to do!

Success is not about what you want to own, success is about what you want to do!

I have heard it said that being successful means you have options.  When you wake up in the morning, how many options do you have?  Me, my options are go to work or don’t get paid.  My options are limited to the free time I have after work when I am not on the road for work.  Successful people get up in the morning and are able to pursue their passion.  If they want to take a hike, they take a hike… If they want to fly a kite, they fly a kite.

Success is not about what you want to own, success is about what you want to do!

Funny thing is people sometimes believe that success is about the stuff that you own, but it is not.  To quote a favorite movie of mine, “The things you own end up owning you!”  No I am not telling people that I want to become an anarchist, I am saying chasing possessions, and more importantly going into to debt to own things will end up limiting your options.  The more debt you have, the more time you have to work to pay off the debt, and the less time you have to enjoy the things you went into debt to buy in the first place.  Sounds like a trap, and most of us are caught in this trap.

Success is not about what you want to own, success is about what you want to do!

Success creates options, and people begin to imitate the options of the successful people.  How may people go out and sing Karaoke? Lot’s of people imitate other people for their fleeting five minutes of highly localized fame.  But how many people sing their own song?  Not as many, but they are still out their chasing the dream.  If I were the chairmen of the board of a major company and was making tons of money, and did an interview and said every morning I go fly a kite to clear my head before work; I bet a weeks pay more people would get up in the morning and fly kites to be like me, instead of chasing their own dreams.

Success is not about what you want to own, success is about what you want to do!

When you were a kid, you dreamed of doing things before you understood things like money, work, bills and debt.  Then we were told, time and time again not to chase our dream but to doing something more realistic… and we began to substitute the things we wanted to do with the things we wanted to have to be like the people who we think are successful.  Don’t believe me?  Watch your Television commercials a little more closely, most luxury items are sold under the guise of this is what all the successful people own.  The power suit, the big house, the imported car, the boat, the private club… I say make your own way, and learn how to become a leader and when the time is right you will have the things you want to have, but first learn how to do the things you want to do.

Success is not about what you want to own, success is about what you want to do!