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The best is yet to come.

The best is yet to come.

It is more than a song.  It is a battle cry.  It is a way of life.

Where are you?  Can your life get better?  Of course, it can.  Do you have the attitude that your best days are behind you?  Well, let me tell you; you need new friends.  The best is yet to come and won’t it be fine?

It is more than a song; it is a battle cry!  You got to sing it to the top of your lungs if you have to!  Change your attitude.  Read a book or two.  Figure out a way to make things better.  Really, what do you have to lose?

Every day from today forward, when you look in the mirror say it.  The best is yet to come!  Forget about the good old days and focus on the good news days!  Look forward to today and look forward to tomorrow.

The best is yet to come.  It is more than a song, it is a battle cry; it is a way of life!  You have to change the way you think.  This is not about being high on anything other than life itself.  If you have to listen to every song with the title, “The best is yet to come!”  Put it on a CD or on a play list and listen to them over and over and over until you get this, then leave me a comment or two.

The best is yet to come.

It is more than a song.  It is a battle cry.  It is a way of life.

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What happens to us when we grow up?

What happens to us when we grow up?  When do we lose those childhood dreams?  When do we lose the drive and will to believe we can be heroes?  What happens to us when we grow up?

Welcome to 60 Seconds of Motivational Mojo.  I am here to challenge you to reach back and chase your childhood dreams.  I am here to challenge you to help motivate others to chase their dreams.  I am here to spread good news.  I am here to challenge you to spread good news also.

I have a bunch of nephews’ in-law.  One of them was born on my birthday / anniversary.  He had three little brothers.  All four of them are six years and under.  I get to see them on birthdays and holidays.  They all want to be super=heroes.  Except for the youngest one, he is too young to talk.  He just smiles at you, and blinks and grabs your hand; that is what infants do.  The six-year old loves to play and the four-year old wants to run and jump and cannot wait to be big; like his brother.  The two year old wants you to chase after him. They all want to be super-heroes, Spiderman, Batman, The Flash, The Green Arrow and of course they love the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles.

What happens to us when we grow up?  When do we lose the will to be superheroes?  I like asking kids what they want to be when they grow up.  Then I tell them to get good grades and work together so they can be superheroes together.  Being a hero is easy.  Dream like a child and help other people chase their dreams.  I try to be the grown up that will give the kid that one piece of advice that will stick with them so they do not give up on their dreams.

As we get older, we are told to stay in school, keep quiet and don’t draw attention to ourselves.  We are told to follow the rules and grow up and get a job.  We are told to work hard but; we are basically helping someone who sits on top of it all reach their dream.  What about our dreams?  What about our goals?  What a about being a superhero?  What happens to us when we grow up?

Do you want to be the grownup that kills a kid’s dreams; or do you want to be the grownup that helps a kid reach their dreams?  I want to build a secret lab for superhero training.  I want to be the adult that tells kids to run faster and jump higher and look out for each other while looking out for cars in the street.  I want to help people reach their childhood dreams and spread good news.  What happens to us when we grow up?  What makes us want to kill each other’s dreams?

My life philosophy is simple.  Spread good news.  Challenge others to do the same.  That only advice worth giving is the advice that you are living.  Tap into those childhood dreams.  Help others reach their dreams.  Really, how hard is that?  What happens to us when we grow up?

Are you waiting for everyone to love your ideas?

Are you waiting for everyone to love your ideas?

Welcome to 60 Seconds of Motivational Mojo.  Do you have an idea or a dream that you really want to chase, but you are waiting for something, anything?  Are you waiting for a sign or the approval of others?  Are you waiting for everyone to love your ideas?

Don’t wait, get to work.

Think about this for a minute.  The President of the United States is one of the most loved and most hated people on the planet.  Trump, Obama, Bush, Clinton; they have all been President.  Do you love them all?  Do you hate them all?  Do you love half and hate the other half?  Which side of the fence you are on makes no difference, each of these 4 men has reached the highest elected office in the United States and plenty of people did not like them.

So what are you waiting for?  Are you waiting for everyone to love your ideas?  No matter what you try to do, not everyone will love your idea.  Some people may hate it, some may love it – but that does not mean they will help you.  Others may love your idea so much they will try to steal it from you.  Some people will be jealous of you and some may be your friend.  Then there are those who will get close to you so they can stab you in the back.

Don’t wait, get to work.

Think about this for a moment.  Elvis Presley, Frank Sinatra, Michael Jackson, Justin Timberlake.  Some of the most popular American singers of all time.  Do you love them all, do you love all their songs?  Everyone has different tastes.  Your taste may not appeal to everyone.  Are you waiting for everyone to love your ideas?  If you sell 30 Million copies of a song in the US, that means over 300 Million people did not buy your music.  So think about it, you can be one of the most popular singers in the world with a less than 10% buy-in from the general public.  Do not let the 90% who may not like you stop you from reaching the 10% who do.

Don’t wait, get to work.

The only thing I hope and pray you will consider is to not do harm to others to get where you want to go.  Don’t sell fear or hate to reach your dreams.  Walk in hope and love for others.  Are you waiting for everyone to love your ideas?

Don’t wait, get to work.

Will you allow yourself to be coached?

Do you have something that you love to do and what to get better at it? Will you admit to yourself that you have something missing that you need to learn?  Will you take active steps to find a mentor?

Many years ago, I set out to become a better DJ. I was a freelance DJ doing parties and a few wedding here and there.  I was not able to grow my freelance business through word of mouth.  I did not chase gigs.  I figured if I were good, word would get out.  I was stuck in a never-ending cycle of low paying and low quality gigs.  Keeping up all the equipment was not cheap and decent paying gigs were few and far between.  I swallowed my pride after reading a few books on leadership and looked for a booking agent.

I called a bunch of DJ services and one got back to me in 24 hours; this was the place I wanted to join. The other guys, if you can’t be bothered to call me back in a timely manner, even if it is just to leave a message, well you won’t be my first choice.  After two interviews and an audition gig, I was told to upgrade my equipment.  After spending thousands of dollars on new equipment and doing a second audition gig I was handed a full calendar of bookings after my second week with the company.  Did I have to swallow my pride?  Yes!  Did I have to take notes after each gig?  Yes and that was the reason I was giving a full slate of bookings.  The owner told me pointblank; you did everything I asked you to do.

I had to learn to take coaching input and get better because of it.

Now many years later I have been getting out and doing some public speaking. Trying to motivate others and help people find jobs by volunteering and paying it forward to others.  Would I like to be a full time public speaker one day?  Well I would like the option.  Now because I have helped others find jobs, I have been very fortunate to keep my career moving forward.  Now I am in a position where I am expected to give presentations as part of my job function.  In prepping for presentations, I have been coached and mentored by others in the company.  I have had to swallow my pride yet again, and it has made me better because of it.

Sometimes being coached and mentored is not an easy process. The goal is to get better, so you may have to admit where you are weak.

Now read these lines very carefully. Do not compromise your morals, principals or ethics to be coached.  Sometimes people are put into comprising situations because of money, power or fame.  Do not be one of them.  In each case where I was being coached it was a win / win situation for both parties.  I got a better job, extra money or a better career path and not by selling myself or getting taken advantage of in the process.  Never get caught up in the hype or promise by shady characters.

Coaching and mentoring should be an open and honest process not something that is conducted in the shadows or behind closed doors. Allow yourself to be coached, allow yourself to be mentored; but do not become a target and be baited into a bad situation.

So listen to the inner voice. Allow yourself to become better at what you do.

Back to the grind

I was out there walking last night.  Lifting my 3 Pound Soft weights while walking and listening to my European Work Trip playlist.  I have learned that life is about transforming yourself while you travel to where you want to go.

I used to lift hundreds of pounds a few times.  Now I lift a few pounds hundreds of times.  I used to run, then because of injury I struggled to walk without pain.  Now I am walking pretty much pain free, but this took hours of rehab.  Thousands of reps with ankle weights and knee and ankle braces.  As I grew stronger I took the braces off but I still did the reps.

Back to the grind.

My wife and I were out walking a few days ago and saw a little old lady out running.  Running, she was running around the block at a nice steady pace.  I told my wife, that little old lady made up her mind a long time ago she would get out and do it.  She was not giving up.  She was still in the grind.  One step at a time.  One day at a time.

Back to the grind.

I went to Europe for a whirlwind work trip.  I grabbed a CD at each airport or gas station or corner shop in each country I visited.  Absolute Hits in Stockholm Sweden.  Disco Polo in Poznan Poland.  Underground tracks in Berlin Germany.  New Age classics in Prague Czech Republic. Alternative Pop newcomers in Paris France.  I then ripped the CD’s to my laptop and mixed up a playlist from my first impressions.  I then transferred the playlist to my trust MP3 player and I am out working out in the setting sun, trying to work up a sweat and lose a few pounds.  Lifting 3 pounds overhead while walking along listening to music from around the globe.

Back to the grind.

No one can do it for me.  I have to make up my mind what kind of fitness level I will maintain for the rest of my life.  Just like that little old lady running around the block.  I have to make up my mind.  Just like you have to make up your mind.  What will keep you in the game, in the grind?  Will it be a mix of your favorite songs or a mix of new songs or will you find inspiration in a sunrise or a sunset?  What will keep you going?

 

Life In One Day

LIFE IN ONE DAY – HOWARD JONES 1985 hit – YouTube

Welcome to 60 Seconds of Motivational Mojo. Today I hijack the lyrics to Howard Jones’ hit song, “Life In One Day.” So today maybe it is Motivational Hojo-Mojo, I don’t know. I will include a link to the video on YouTube. Why this song? Well today I was going through quite a bit so I cued it up on my CD player and let it rip.

Howard Jones Lyrics in Bold

My Comments are in Italic

Howard Jones – Life In One Day

“The old man said to me
Said don’t always take life so seriously
Play the flute
And dance and sing your song”

Hey so no matter what I am going through I should not take it too seriously?

I need to sing my song!

Try and enjoy the here and now
The future will take care of itself somehow
The grass is never greener over there
Time will wear away the stone
Gets the hereditary bone

I need to remember the future will take care of itself somehow!

[Chorus]
Don’t try to live your life in one day
Don’t go speed your time away
Don’t try to live your life in one day
Don’t go speed your time away

Sometimes we need to slow down no matter what we are going through, good or bad!

The old man said to me
Said you can’t change the world single handedly
Raise a glass enjoy the scenery

I can’t do it all myself

Pretend the water is champagne
And fill my glass again and again
While the wolves are gathering round your door

OK so maybe the wolves will be after me, but I should enjoy what I have

Time will wear away the stone
Gets the hereditary bone

[Chorus]

The old man said to me
Said don’t always take life so seriously
Play the flute
And dance and sing your song

I need to sing my song!

Try and enjoy the here and now
The future will take care of itself somehow
The grass is never greener over there
Time will wear away the stone
Gets the hereditary bone

I need to remember the future will take care of itself somehow!

I tried to live my life in one day
Don’t go speed your time away

I bit off more than I can chew
Only so much you can do

Ok, I bit off more than I can chew so I need to learn from it!

Wolves are gathering round my door
Ask them in and invite some more

OK so maybe the wolves will be after me, but I should enjoy what I have

I tried to live my life in one day
Don’t go speed your time away

Don’t try to live your life in one day

Howard Jones – Life In One Day Lyrics

http://www.lyricsfreak.com/h/howard+jones/life+in+one+day_20066182.html

How to rank your day:

Never Give Up 3How to rank your day:

1: Did you wake up this morning?

                Give yourself 1 Point if you are still alive!

2: Did you wake up in a room that had a ceiling and four walls?

                Give yourself 1 Point if you had basic shelter

3: Are you able to eat today?

                Give yourself 1 Point and start planning for tomorrow.

4: Were you able to wash yourself / bath today.

                Give yourself 1 point if you were able, no discounting if you choose not to partake.

5: Do you have something to do today?

                Give yourself 1 point if you have anything on your to do list.

6: Do you have someone you can talk to if you need advice?

                Give yourself 1 point; you are not alone, even if it means calling a 1-800 number for help.

7: Is your life currently in immediate danger?

                If not:  Give yourself 1 point; you have today and a good chance at tomorrow.

8: Can you think for yourself?

                Give yourself 1 point; you have options

9: Can you communicate with others?

                Give yourself 1 point; you have even more options

10: Are you thankful for what you have?

                Give yourself 1 point; and never compare yourself to others!

OK, time for our scoring!

Never Give Up 1

8 to 10 Points: Given this perspective, things are not so bad.

You have options!  Now it is up to you to make the most of them.

5 to 7 points: You are still in the game.

Take it one day and one step at a time!

3 to 4 points: Don’t be afraid to ask for help. We all need help from time to time.

Be thankful for any help you receive and keep at it, tomorrow is a new day.

1 to 2 points: Hang in there.

Find a place where you can get a fresh start, you have today!  Every day we are given is a gift.

Never Give Up 2Every day is a Gift! Make the most of your today and be thankful for everything you receive. Wake up thankful tomorrow for another day and another chance. No matter what you are going through, someone else out there has been through it. You can get through it also!

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Good things take time.

Good things take time.

You can’t rush quality. You can’t rush craftsmanship. You can’t rush art. Good things come through a series of inspiration, experimentation, training and time. Some people work hard, some people work smart. Talented people make work seem like fun. This is all part of the process. The process of figuring out what is worth doing and what is a waste of time. Anyway, good things take time. Welcome to 60 Seconds of Motivational Mojo, let me explain.

Year after year it seems Professional Athletes make more and more money to do things that started out as games that people played to have fun, pass the time and maybe get a little exercise. Kids play the games for fun. Parents teach the games to their children. Again, people play to have fun and maybe get a little exercise. Great players seem to make the game look easy. Just because they make it look easy does not mean they did not practice long hours to become great at it. The fact they make it look easy almost guarantees they practiced long hours to become great. The great players probably had fun while they were practicing, but they still put their time in to get great. Good things take time.

Nobody looks at Fine Wine and says, wow let me pay money for sour grape juice. No, people look at fine wine and say it was careful aged to perfection. I am sure if you go to any vineyard, the wine makers will tell you how much care was taken in growing the grapes, picking only the best grapes, and carefully extracting the grape juice and the type of woods that were used to store the grape juice until it became the finely crafted wine you are about to taste and pay your hard earned money to enjoy. The best wine is not thrown together overnight in a random manner. No, if you want the best you have to wait for the perfect time for each step in the process. Good things take time.

I have spent many hours of my life making music and entertaining others. It did not matter to me what instrument I was playing or what style of music that I was a part of performing; it did not matter if I was performing solo or as part of a group. All the mattered is that the music sounded good to me, and hopefully good to whomever was listening. Lots of hours were spent practicing the drums, or the bass or the guitar. Lots of time was spent behind a keyboard of a synthesizer or a computer to make the music sound just right. Even if I liked it, sometimes other people did not like it. Sometimes I did not like it and other people did. Either way, it just did not happen. It took time. Time spent practicing, time experimenting and time chasing inspiration that is not always caught. Not every song or performance worked out. But when they did, in that moment, it felt like magic.   Good things take time.

Take the time to get good. People who have never heard of you may think it comes naturally to you. Some if it does. Some of it is a gift. Respect the gift enough to be thankful and practice. Experiment and have fun until you get good. Experiment and have fun until it comes naturally. Experiment and have fun until you make it look easy. Take the time to get good. Good things take time.

To become a V.I.P. know your V.I.P.

Welcome to 60 Seconds of Motivational Mojo. You were meant for greatness. All of us were. Politicians tell us we are all equal. The last thing most politicians want is for us to be equal. Most of them are used to a life of privilege. Most politicians as used to be treated as and catering to V.I.P.s: Very Important People. I say you can be a V.I.P. (Very Important Person) but you have to know your V.I.P. (Value. Intention and Purpose)

Your Value, Your Intention and Your Purpose will decide how you face the day. How do you value yourself? Do you know your intention? Do you know your purpose? I may have to go about this in reverse order. These may seem like the same concepts over and over. Maybe that just means they are important to me. I think they are the keys to success? Do you see yourself as a Very Important Person? You must know Your Value, Your Intention and Your Purpose.

Your Purpose: Why are you here? Let’s go back to politicians. They are supposed to be public officials and public servants. They are supposed to serve a greater good. I think all of us are supposed to serve a greater good. The question is do we? We are not all equal. We are all uniquely made. We need to understand first how we fit into the greater good. It is hard if not impossible to do anything great without a sense of purpose. So understanding your purpose and how you fit into the greater good should be the first thing you figure out or at least the first thing you seek out. It may take a long time to really come to grips with your purpose, or it can take a day. What did you always want to do with your life, long ago when you were a kid, when you were innocent and did not know how hard life can be on people? What did you want to do? You were born with a purpose; you just need to reconnect with it.

You Intention: How do you go about what you do? Again, let’s go back to politicians. Their purpose is to serve the public and the greater good, but how many of them dress up their self service as public service? Why do we spend so much time and money electing people that we do not trust? Left vs. Right, Democrat vs. Republican; are they there to serve each other or the public that elected them in the first place? What is their intention? What is your intention? To many people believe to be successful they have to be deceitful. I do not believe this way. I think you should be honest and true about your intention and get around people who think the same way. Your purpose and your intention should be to the greater good. Maybe this is why I am not the most popular guy in the room at sometimes. That is ok, I would much rather be honest with you. What is my point? Take your purpose and intention seriously.

Your Value: How do you value yourself? Do you see yourself as nothing more than someone who makes minimum wage? Do you see yourself as nothing more than someone who receives welfare or social security? How I see you cannot override how you see yourself. The way that I value you cannot override how you value yourself. To be seen as an Important Person you have to Value yourself, your purpose, your intention and your talents. You see, the way you see yourself begins with being able to understand your purpose and your intention. Your story and your talents must mean more to you than accepting a life of minimum wage or welfare or any entitlement program that tells us we are all equal and only worth a fixed amount each month. Your own sense of value needs to be justified by your purpose and your intention. Your intention has to be greater than thinking that one day you will win the lottery. Your intention needs to drive you to hone your talents. Your sense of value needs to drive you to want to make a positive difference in pursuit of the greater good.

Now I know that I cannot force you to see it my way. I cannot force you to believe that you are worth more than minimum wage. I cannot force you to believe you are worth more than any government program will tell you to stand in line to receive. Take a moment and decide for yourself. Do you know your purpose? Find it first, or at least get on the path of looking for it. What is your intention? Is it for greater good or does it serve only yourself and a small circle of your friends at the cost of everyone else? How do you value yourself? I cannot convince you of these things, I can only hope to get you to stop and reflect on these things.

To be seen as a V.I.P. (Very Important Person) you need to see yourself as a V.I.P. and know your V.I.P: Know your Value, your Intention and your Purpose! Do you place a Value on yourself as just the bare minimum or something more? Do you know your Purpose and Intention? If your Intention and Purpose align with the greater good, why would you allow yourself to believe we are all equal and you should only receive the minimum amount of anything? I cannot override how you value yourself. I can only hope to get you to stop and reflect on how you value yourself.

Do you see yourself as a Very Important Person? You must know Your Value, Your Intention and Your Purpose.

So much to teach, so much to learn:

So I have been on a mission.  I am on a mission to learn to become a better leader.  I am also on a mission to become a better teacher.  I am on a mission to become a better servant.  Yes, I want to become a good coach, mentor, and instructor.  I basically want to learn.  I want to learn to become better at everything I do.  I have learned that teaching is learning.  I have also learned that you can learn Mastery which involves Teaching, Coaching and Mentoring.  So I am trying to do those things so I can master the things I want to be very good at doing.

People can learn by doing, and you can learn more be listening to experts and you can learn even more by coaching and sharing.  So I have done all I can to help others.  I have spent a lot of time on stage performing.  I have learned a lot about mixing sound, but I never took the time to be a sound man for someone else.  So for the past month, I have asked myself, can I set aside my ego and make sure everyone else can be heard?  Can I make sure the best possible sound is coming out of the sound system?  Can I help make everyone else and learn in the process?

So what I have learned.  People are more receptive to your teaching if you are receptive to learning from them.  So I began by having people teach me what they know first.  I have also learned that I have a lot to learn.  So you have to open yourself up to learning.  This may sound crazy, but you must admit that you have things you need to learn.  So simple and yet so hard; this may seem really basic, but it is still true.  I have also learned that coaching, mentoring and teaching is basically sharing.  Sharing is most effective when it is a two-way street.

Most people do not pay attention when things sound good, but they look around when things so bad.  By learning what others were doing behind the soundboard while running the sound system made it easier for me to compare notes and show the next person.  So once I learned what others were doing, I learned that some of the things I thought I knew we just not true.  It is better to know for sure than to think you know.  So always confirm what it is you think you know.  I have also learned that sometimes it is better to get out-of-the-way and let others do what they need to do than to hover over them and make things harder to get done.  This is a great big metaphor for making space for people.  This is also a lesson I was able to teach while running sound.  If everyone is fighting for the same space not everyone is getting heard.  Learning how to make space for everyone makes everything better.

Sometimes the best way to be a leader is to be a better servant.  I believe in learning by doing, by listening to experts; and then by coaching, mentoring and teaching others.  In my quest to learn to become a better leader, I have learned that I have more to learn.  For all the things we have made better, there are still lots of things we need to figure out.  I guess that is the final lesson of mastery; there is always more to learn and there is always more to teach.