Life will always get in the way
The world will always try to drag you down.
If you let it. So stand up and don’t let it!
Life will always get in the way. Work, Family, Friends, everyone has something they need from you or want you to do for them. But what are they doing for you? Is it a two-way street or a one-way street?
Life will always get in the way
The world will always try to drag you down.
I get it, honestly, I do. Think about a compass, if work is pulling North, Bills will pull you South, If family is pulling you East, friends will pull you West; and there you are caught in the middle getting streached to your limit. Wouldn’t life be great if work, bills, family and friends were all pulling you in the same direction?
Life will always get in the way
The world will always try to drag you down.
So are you waiting for the perfect time to chase your dreams? There will never be a perfect time. Are you waiting for the perfect idea? There will never be a perfect idea. Are you waiting for the perfect place? There will never be a perfect place! You will have to work at it; you have to start sometime, why not now? You will have to start somewhere, why not here?
Life will always get in the way
The world will always try to drag you down.
So stand up and don’t let it!
What happens to us when we grow up? When do we lose those childhood dreams? When do we lose the drive and will to believe we can be heroes? What happens to us when we grow up?
Welcome to 60 Seconds of Motivational Mojo. I am here to challenge you to reach back and chase your childhood dreams. I am here to challenge you to help motivate others to chase their dreams. I am here to spread good news. I am here to challenge you to spread good news also.
I have a bunch of nephews’ in-law. One of them was born on my birthday / anniversary. He had three little brothers. All four of them are six years and under. I get to see them on birthdays and holidays. They all want to be super=heroes. Except for the youngest one, he is too young to talk. He just smiles at you, and blinks and grabs your hand; that is what infants do. The six-year old loves to play and the four-year old wants to run and jump and cannot wait to be big; like his brother. The two year old wants you to chase after him. They all want to be super-heroes, Spiderman, Batman, The Flash, The Green Arrow and of course they love the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles.
What happens to us when we grow up? When do we lose the will to be superheroes? I like asking kids what they want to be when they grow up. Then I tell them to get good grades and work together so they can be superheroes together. Being a hero is easy. Dream like a child and help other people chase their dreams. I try to be the grown up that will give the kid that one piece of advice that will stick with them so they do not give up on their dreams.
As we get older, we are told to stay in school, keep quiet and don’t draw attention to ourselves. We are told to follow the rules and grow up and get a job. We are told to work hard but; we are basically helping someone who sits on top of it all reach their dream. What about our dreams? What about our goals? What a about being a superhero? What happens to us when we grow up?
Do you want to be the grownup that kills a kid’s dreams; or do you want to be the grownup that helps a kid reach their dreams? I want to build a secret lab for superhero training. I want to be the adult that tells kids to run faster and jump higher and look out for each other while looking out for cars in the street. I want to help people reach their childhood dreams and spread good news. What happens to us when we grow up? What makes us want to kill each other’s dreams?
My life philosophy is simple. Spread good news. Challenge others to do the same. That only advice worth giving is the advice that you are living. Tap into those childhood dreams. Help others reach their dreams. Really, how hard is that? What happens to us when we grow up?
Everyone loses when you play the blame game.
I didn’t do it. It was someone else’s fault. So and so should have this and so and so should have that. Everyone starts pointing fingers and pointing out what everyone did wrong and pointing out what everyone should have done. Nothing is solved, nothing new is learned and nothing is prevented. Only bad blood gets created. Playing the blame game means everyone loses.
Welcome to Sixty Seconds of Motivational Mojo. I try to find the positive in most situations. I try to find the silver lining in every cloud. I try to find the positive spin as often as possible. So here I am trying again. I am trying to find a way to put a positive spin on a basic human reaction when things go bad. We feel the need to find someone to blame, so people think if they blame someone else it somehow saves them from harm. The blame game does not make you safe from harm; it only delays what is going to happen. You blame someone else and then you will become a target for others to blame you in the future. See when people are known for blaming others when things go wrong, the minute you make a mistake others will line up to blame you. Blaming others makes enemies, helping others makes allies. Which kind of people do you want to be surrounded by when you need help?
You always have two choices faced with any situation; get out in front of it and help, or wait until things go wrong and blame others. You can be Proactive or Reactive. Fire Alarms are Reactive, Fire Prevention is Proactive. Which one is better? Is it better to put out fires or prevent them from happening in the first place? We should be able to agree that it is better to avoid a fire than to put a fire out and then have to clean up all the resulting damage. So blaming others after the fire is out just adds more fuel to the next fire. It does nothing to clean up the damage from the fire and it does nothing to prevent the next fire.
Learn to learn. Learn to teach others. Learn to listen and learn from others. Learn from people who have more experience and most of all, learn by doing. What do you learn by blaming others? What does anyone learn by blaming others? Be proactive. Get out in front of bad situations and do the best you can. Then if you don’t know something or if you mess up, admit it, fix it and move on. The blame game does none of these things.
It’s funny. I am watching a House MD DVD and he just made a great quote. We have three choices, Be Good, Get Good or Give Up. The blame game does not make you good and if you were already good you would not need to blame others. That means to me that the blame game is a sure sign of people who have gave up on being good but still want to take credit for something. What that something is, only God and the person placing the blame know the answer.
If you are reading this, and you know of what there is to gain by playing the blame game, please leave me a comment and let me know. Heck if you agree with me leave me a comment and let me know. You see if I am going to tell you to listen and learn, then I need to be ready to listen and learn from both sides of the fence. Not just the people who agree with me. I am supposed to look at both sides of the story and weigh the good and the bad of either side and then do the best I can with the information I am given. So, I am making a stand that I feel the blame game means that everyone loses.
So, I am just trying to draw a line in the sand and continue to get better at what I do. Thanks for your time. I hope to hear from you.
The people you need in your start up!
So you decided it is time to go out on your own. The dream of all dreams is to start your own business. It doesn’t matter if it is online or in a store front or in your basement or in your garage, these are the people you are going to need to be a success.
The Moral Coach: This is the most important person you can add to your startup. Hopefully it is you, if not find the person who always wants to do the right thing and keep close. I am not talking about a person who pays lips service with a wink and a nod; I am talking about the person who refuses to take the easy way out when it comes to ethical decisions. Set the highest possible standards and do it for the principal of it all. The first person to add to your start-up is the Moral Coach.
The person who is doing it for the love: This is the second most important person and they should walk hand in hand with the Moral Coach. This is the person who loves what they are doing enough to make you want to leave the comfort of your full-time job to go into business with them. It could be you. It could be the person who inspires you or amazes you. There will be good times and bad times, breakthroughs and setbacks. Every start-up needs someone to turn to in crunch time who truly loves doing the work.
The person who is doing it for the money: If you want to start a business and stay in business, you need someone who will make sure the bottom line adds up. Now doing it only for the money is a dangerous thing; that is why it is important not to go after the money person first; but it is also dangerous to get too far down the road and not know if there is any money to be made. Find a good accountant who wants a bigger piece of the action down the road, and not just getting paid up-front. This might be you, it might not be you, but you need this person in your startup.
The Morale Coach: Ever know someone who can seeming walk through hell while singing show tunes? You know the person who can make anything seem like fun? I am not talking about someone who says, “Let’s do some team building!” because they read it in a book. I am talking about the person who gets their work done and everyone still wants to be around them. This person actually likes making other people enjoy themselves without tearing down others or creating unsafe environments. The Morale Coach knows how to have pure and innocent fun and knows when everyone else needs to take a break. Great Morale Coaches can use a light touch to lighten the mood, but still make sure you reach your goals.
The Moral Coach, The For the Love Guy, The Money Guy, The Morale Coach; these are people you need to be in your start-up. The last person you need is the person who can transfer the vision. The person who can tie it all together so everyone stays on target. They will have a sense of balance so that you can work hard, make the hard choices, make money and still have fun without taking advantage of others or taking shortcuts or burning people out. Now if you are starting your own business, you need to be one of these people; and you also need to bring these other people to that table. Keep a good balance and you will be successful, lose your balance and your start-up up may come crashing down.
How do I know this? I have seen others start their own business and be successful. I have seen others try and fail. I have tried and been successful for short periods of time. I have tried and failed. So I have tried to learn and I am trying again. I am convinced these are the people you need to surround yourself with, the people who coach others at the things that come naturally to them. These are the people you need in your start-up!
Welcome to 60 Seconds of Motivational Mojo. I just basically relay my life lessons via this blog in hopes to motivate anyone who reads it and motivate myself to live the lessons I have learned. Today’s lesson: Don’t Hesitate.
I was recently in a situation where I was travelling home. I had a flight from a Small Town Wisconsin that connected into Chicago Illinois. We were late getting into Chicago because of bad weather, this was not a major problem because I had a three-hour lay-over before my connecting flight. When we landed in Chicago my flight was listed as On-Time and I had a chance to grab something to eat and make it to my gate. The flight before mine at the gate was delayed so I basically settled in for a short wait until my flight home was due to board.
Suddenly people at the terminal were scrambling to make phones calls. The gate showed the flight before mine was cancelled. Not to worry, I walked over to the Big Board that listed all the departure times and flights all over the country went from On Time to Cancelled; my flight was one of them. No problem I thought, I will walk back to the terminal, get on the phone and re-book my flight. Don’t Panic, but Don’t Hesitate either.
After a short time I hold I was able to re-book my flight for the next day. Now I had a new choice to make. Try to find a hotel, or maybe rent a car and drive home. This was not something I could take a lot of time trying to figure out. You see, there are only so many hotel rooms and only so many rental cars at the airport on any given day. I quickly made up my mind, I will try to rent a car and drive the rest of the way home. It was a short walk through the terminal and a ride on the rental car shuttle to get a car. Upon getting to the Car Rental Office I was informed they had no cars available to rent. I asked very politely if I could speak to a manager, and the rental car agent told me they could see if they could find me a car at a different rental company. While this was happening another customer walked in looking to rent a car, their flight was cancelled also. After about ten minutes and a short walk in the rain I was in line in another rental car agency with a confirmation number. So in less than an hour from the time my flight was cancelled, I had rebooked my flight and was about to get a rental car. I looked around and wondered how many other people in line had also decided to try to drive, try to re-book or try to get a hotel room. I did not panic, but I did not hesitate.
I was lucky, I was able to get in a car, get on the road and refund the last leg of my air travel for about the same cost as renting the car. I was able to get home in about Five Hours instead of trying to book a last-minute hotel room or having to spend the night in an airport terminal. I was one of the lucky ones. I was able to act quickly and get the help I needed. I did not panic but I did not hesitate either.
Life happens; sometimes storms change your plans. Panic clouds you from seeing your choices; but once you see your choice you should not wait around, you should not hesitate. If I would have waited I may not have been able to rent a car or find a hotel room close to the airport. As the saying goes, “He who hesitates is lost.” I say, don’t panic but don’t hesitate either.
This is 60 Seconds of Motivational Mojo. I am here to challenge you. I am here to ask you to stand up for what you believe. I am not telling you what to believe. Today I am challenging you to be the Real Deal.
Be the Real Deal. If you really believe in something stand up for it. If you are going to stand up for something, get your facts straight and be an inspiration to others. State the facts; tell the truth and make a stand for what you believe! That is what it takes to be the Real Deal! Have I messed up in the past? Yes, that is how I know what being the Real Deal is all about!
The first step in being the Real Deal is stating the facts. So to do this you must get your facts straight. To be the Real Deal you cannot send people off chasing rumors! You need to know the difference between people who are telling lies, people who are just guessing and people who are speaking with real information or based on solid experience. We live in a day and time when it is easy to get both sides of the story with just a simple search of the internet. If you are dealing with two people who do not get along, listen to both sides of the story. Then put them both in the same room and see who stands by their story. Then ask around a little bit before you make up your mind. Just because someone is popular does not make them right or wrong. Same goes for the unpopular person. Usually the truth cuts both ways not just one side or the other. If you are the Real Deal, you would not want to fall for a scam or lead others into a bad situation. Do what you can to find out the facts before you make up your mind. Usually people will have data or information to verify their story not just rumors and accusations.
Be the Real Deal, tell the truth! Step two in being the Real Deal is telling the truth! Once you know the facts, you should make up your mind and stand for the truth. Stand up for what is right. This is not just saying it, I mean standing up for what you believe in; even if means you have to admit you were wrong or you screwed up. If you messed up, fix it. If you believe in something stand up for it. Standing up for the truth is not only the right thing to do. Standing up for the truth can be its own reward. A lot of time, when the dust settles; the ones who stand up for the truth win in the end. Don’t fall for the quick fix, the fast money or the fool’s gold. Check your facts and stand up for the truth.
Stand up for what you believe. Being the Real Deal means your story does not change based on who is in the room or what direction the wind is blowing. I know a lot of people, and I mean a lot of people who will say one thing and then do another when you are not looking. They may think they are slick, but they are not the Real Deal. It is hard to make a line in the sand without getting your hands dirty at least once. Standing up for what you believe may mean you may lose a few friends. That is the price of being the Real Deal. It means your story does not change based on what you think is popular with the people who are in front of you at the time. Being the Real Deal means you keep your facts straight, you stand on the truth and your story does not change. Being the Real Deal means you may have to make a stand with your back against the wall. Might does not make right, the Real Deal believes the Truth is what makes you right!
Be the Real Deal! Get your facts straight. Be the Real Deal, tell the truth! Be the Real Deal and stand up for what you believe!
Welcome to 60 Seconds of Motivational Mojo. Yes I know what I titled this post. Please give me a minute to explain. I do hope a few of you know where I am headed with this; for the rest of you please give me a chance to explain. Show Up, Show Out, Show Off and try to remain humble.
Show Up: A quick search of Show Up leads to many definitions. In this case, in the case of chasing your dreams; showing up is step one. You must show up. You must arrive, you must learn, you must put your talents on display. Do you want to be just the opposite? Do you want to be a No Show? Listen, I watch a few talents shows on television, and many more talent shows I avoid watching. You can tell some performers are nervous and they crack under pressure. At least they showed up. At least they tried. That is more than you can say for the people who never showed up and never tried. Show Up, Show Out, Show Off and try to remain humble.
Show Out: Showing out, like the term “selling out” can be used in both a negative or positive light. I searched both terms and only found the negative side. Maybe this is a southern sports idiom, but showing out can mean putting on an incredible performance be it on the field or on the stage. Some people think showing out is bad, like when a child misbehaves. I of course like to focus on the positive. Selling out can be judged as bad in some circles in music, selling out and compromising your artistic integrity. Again, I like to focus on the good; I would rather play a sold out show than a half empty one. Show Up, Show Out, Show Off and try to remain humble.
Show Off: Again here is a term that can be taken two ways: (1) To exhibit or display so as to invite admiration or (2) a person who makes a vain display of himself. So remember since we are here to focus on the positive. It is ok to put your talents on display, as long as you are not vain about it. Do your best, set the bar high and then raise it. Set a new standard. Go ahead and show off, as long as you earn it. As long as you can avoid being vain. Show Up, Show Out, Show Off and try to remain humble.
Try to Remain Humble: Let’s look at Humility vs. Vanity: The quality or state of being humble; modest opinion of one’s own importance or rank; meekness vs. Excessive pride in one’s appearance or accomplishments; conceit. “True humility” is distinctly different from “false humility” which consists of deprecating one’s own sanctity, gifts, talents, and accomplishments for the sake of receiving praise or adulation from others. Notice how I have said try to remain humble. Who among us aspire to get up on stage and not hear applause from the crowd? Who among us want to get up on stage and not Show Off just a little? Come one, tell the truth, if you have a true talent and are chasing your dreams, do you not wish upon a star just a little?
Your talent is an honor and a privilege. Respect it, practice it, honor it and put it on display. Realizing that it is an honor and a privilege to reach high levels of success can keep you truly humble. Too much pride is a bad thing; a little pride will keep you practicing. Show Up, Show Out, Show Off and try to remain humble; do you get it now?
State your intentions. Leave your mark upon the world. Dare to dream big and then shout it from the top of the mountain, or the largest hill your can find; or even the top of the tallest building. Go boldly into today and tomorrow by declaring your dream with a loud and confident voice.
Now that should be enough for you readers of 60 Seconds of Motivational Mojo. That should be enough for those of you whom have read my blog before. So this is for the new people, and the readers who can’t get enough. Greatness will not chase you, you must chase it. Your dreams will not fall from the sky; you have to build upon your ideas with actions and goals. First and foremost you must believe in your dreams. Second you must have the guts to declare your dream to the world.
How many times have you had a great idea and then found out some one else has made your idea a reality? Now you may think someone is stealing your idea so you have to keep them secret. In fact it is just the opposite. You have to declare your idea to the world, and you will find out you are surrounded by 4 types of people. People who will steal your ideas, people who will try to kill your dreams, people who will help you and people who will do nothing. You will never know who is who if you never speak up and then act. Notice I said speak up and act.
If you declare your dream, someone might try to steal it. Someone may agree with you. Someone may disagree with you and someone may say nothing at all. Now if you act on your idea, forget about what people have said, watch their actions very closely. Some people who claimed they would help you won’t help you. Some people who say they will steal your idea, actually will steal your idea. There is an old saying, talk is cheap. People flip-flop on what they say all the time. Watch what people do. Learn to attract the people you can trust, and the people who will actually help you.
Now by stating you idea to the world, you may just become known for having good ideas. By acting on your ideas, you may become known as the person who made it happen. Either way, it is your idea, it is your dream. Declare your dream to the world!
Jaco Pastorius was an influential jazz bass player. He burst on the jazz music scene stating he was the best in the world. By the time he died, many agreed with him. Jaco did not shy around, he declared his dream to the world. It is OK to brag if you can back it up. Jaco said it long before Kid Rock ever did.
I am telling you it is OK to brag, but you have to act to back it up! Declare your dream to the world. You will find out more about the people around you when you act upon your dream. Some people will support you, some will take credit for your work, some will try to use you and some will do nothing to help you. Do not listen to what people say, watch very closely what they do. You may be surprised to find some of the people your thought you can trust will not help you; and some people who say almost nothing will help you once they see your actions back up your words.
Get out there and make it happen!
Thank you for another Season of 60 Seconds Of Motivational Mojo. Sometimes it is good to look back and see which posts are connecting: Here is my countdown to the Ten Most Found Motivational Mojo Posts of the Spring of 2013:
This post may be the story of my life summed up. But I believe if you are chasing your dreams; someone, somewhere may call you crazy. Don’t let that stop you!
Number 9: We are all different.
So let’s celebrate our diversity. If we were all the same, this world would be a boring place. If you are not hurting other people, live your life and chase your dreams!
Number 8: Maximum Awesomeness!
Do you have what it takes to be awesome? Let me help you find your way to Maximum Awesomeness.
Number 7: Runners Log – June 14th 2012
Life is full of surprises. This one surprises me. Hey it continues to connect with the people out there who are trying to get their Motivational Mojo On!
Number 6: The Five E-s of Leadership:
I am trying to become a better Leader in many areas of my life. I am happen this post has is in the Top Ten. This is what I believe a Leader should strive to do.
Number 5: The Selfless Leader:
Two Leadership Posts back to back. Maybe one day I will write a book on Leadership. Until then I am trying to Right My Ship on being a Leader.
Number 4: Why Teamwork sometimes doesn’t work.
We all have been lead to believe that teamwork is the “Be All” answer. So why does teamwork sometimes not work? I try to answer that question.
Number 3: Maximum Muscle Madness
This post was a fun post that really took on a life of it own. Maybe one day I will also be a fitness guru. This is my Superstar Muscle Up Workout Plan.
This is one of my favorite posts. I am going to trademark the phrase Proactive Slacker, so no one out there should try to steal it from me. This may be expanded into the first book of that series. In all seriousness, it is the reasons we should tackle the big hills first.
This post is a surprise number one for me. I think people should stand up for what they believe in, and it seems a lot of people agree. Don’t let people tell you what you should be doing, if they are not standing up for what they believe.
There you have it. The Top Ten Found 60 Seconds of Motivational Mojo Posts for the Spring of 2013. I will stay at it. I hope you will stay tuned for more.