Welcome to 60 Seconds of Motivational Mojo. Welcome to my little online diary of thoughts on Motivation and Leadership. Welcome to another post in my cyber world. So today, I have something on my mind. Something I have been thinking about for a while now. The best way to manage a department:
How many times have you seen a Manger who seems to use fear to keep people in line? How many times have you wondered exactly what leadership style is at work where you work? Do you wonder why you are being treated the way you are being treated? Have you wondered what your Managers Motivations was at the time? Does your Manager seem to treat you like you are afraid to lose your job? Well I believe the best way to Manage people is to treat them like they could find a better job at any minute.
Who am I to be giving Management advice? I am a guy who has worked a lot of jobs. No matter what level I was at, I have seen Managers who treated me like I was afraid to lose my job. Does this sound familiar? Has it happened to you? I bet it has happened to a lot of people. Am I right? I bet this could be my most popular post if everyone who feels this way will share this post. Enough, I will say again; I think the best way to manage a department is to treat people like they can find a better job at any given time. Why do I say this? Because you will not manage from a position of fear; if you believe the people you manage can find a better job, you will treat them with utmost respect. You will try to create an environment that is a positive learning experience for everyone involved. You may treat people better than you want to be treated.
When people accept being treated badly at their place of employment, they are working for the money. If people enjoy where they work, the experience will be worth more than money. Also, if you are a Manager who is building people up instead of tearing them down, you will be happy to see them get a chance to move on to bigger and better things. If you know you are helping people become successful, you will have a strong system of mentors training up the next wave of employees. No, I am not a manager, but I have seen many managers in action. Which ones do you think seemed to retain the best workers and which ones do you think were the best to work around? The Managers who treated people like they wanted to see them succeed and move up are always be far the best ones to work around.
Treat people like they could find a better job tomorrow, and you will not lose them today. You will find that you can give them more responsibility and you can grow your department with people who are excited to come to work. Manage from a place of fear and you will only retain people who truly believe they cannot do any better for themselves. If people are afraid to find something better, will you really be getting their best effort? If people are only in fear of losing their job, why would they do anything extra? Why would they give you their best effort? They will only give you enough to not get fired.
I believe the best way to Manage people is to treat them like they could find a better job at any minute. You will have a system in place where everyone is ready to take the lead, and you can be proud of the success stories you are creating. You will find people who want to make things better, if you treat them better than you want to be treated.
How far would you drive for a better job, or a better life? Is it worth an extra 15 minutes of your time every day? Is it worth it to look an extra Ten Miles down the road?
When I was young I did not have an automobile. My job choices were limited by how far I would walk everyday to get to work. Usually I needed to stay within a couple of mile to get back and forth to work. Later, I would ride a bicycle and I could travel a few miles farther. Because I had a strong network of friends, I usually was able to find a ride; and looking back maybe I should have appreciated those friends more. It made a big difference; being able to travel a few extra miles, it opened up more opportunities for me and my career.
After getting a car my options opened up even more. Being able to travel those few extra miles, the difference between 30 minutes on foot ( a couple of miles walking) or 30 minutes on a bicycle (10 miles if you are lucky) to 30 minutes in a car (up to 30 miles depending on traffic) opened up what seemed like a whole world of possibilities. When I first started driving 30 minutes a day to work, I thought that was my limit. I heard stories of people who would drive an hour or more to get to work. I never thought I could be that person who could drive an hour each way to work.
I really was pretty happy with my life. It seemed like I had freedom, everything was looking up. So why drive any farther than 30 minutes? I had a steady job and a steady life. So things changed, I got married, I moved and my drive dropped down to 5 minutes each way. Life continued to change and I had to go back to a 30 minute commute. New Job, new company; but not a better situation for me, I had to take a chance. I took a chance on driving an extra 10 miles down the road for a different job, a different situation.
Would you be willing to risk an extra 10 minutes a day, drive an extra 10 miles for a chance at a new and different opportunity? Sometimes everything you are looking for is just an extra mile away or an extra 5 miles away; maybe an extra 10 miles away. Find a map and draw a circle that is a 10 mile radius with where you live in the center. Then draw another circle that is a 20 mile radius with where you life in the center. Now look at the difference, there are more than twice as many options in the 2nd circle aren’t there? Twice as many choices just 10 mile farther down the road. Think of this when you say you can’t find what you are looking for, maybe you were just heading in the wrong direction or your circle is not big enough.
Don’t be afraid to expand your circle; don’t be afraid to look 10 miles down the road. In this digital age we live in, we can make unlimited connections all around the world, but we can still be afraid to look a little farther down the road for the new restaurant, that new shopping mall but most importantly that new job. I have been very happy with my choice of employment over the last 3 years, but now I am taking a chance on driving that extra 10 miles, and extra 10 minutes. Now I am that guy who is ready to drive an hour to work. I am that guy who has looked 10 miles down the road and I like what I see.
So I am challenging all of you to at least look 10 miles down the road. Drawn that circle; do not be afraid to expand your circle. I am not telling you to drop everything and change your life today, I am asking you to at least look that extra ten miles down the road and see what you find.
So here we are, another 60 Seconds of Motivational Mojo post. I try to post what I am thinking. I am trying to post the best advice that I hear. Then I try to make sure I am living that advice. Maybe this blog is more for me than for anyone else. I don’t know. So today, I tackle a topic that is so basic and so simple it should be easy. But simple is not always easy, sometimes the simple things can be the hardest things to accomplish. So today I say that people should simply communicate what they expect.
So we take to very simple topics, communication and expectations. All of us have expectations. All of us think in some way how we would like things to happen. All of us have opinions on how things should play out. All of us have things we hope will happen. We all have expectations. C.Y.E. – Communicate your expectations.
Now just because we have expectations does not mean we let people know what we are thinking. A lot of times we keep what we want to happen to ourselves. A lot of times we do not communicate with each other all that well. We say one thing and mean another; or we say one thing and we do another. Sometimes we do not communicate at all and other times we do not communicate all that well.
So let me say it again. We need to learn how to communicate our expectations. This is so basic and so simple and yet so hard to accomplish. Say what you mean, mean what you say, say what you are going to do and do it, say what you expect and make sure you are being understood. This is the real art to communicating your expectations. Make sure that people fully understand what you are saying. The easiest way to make sure you are being understood is to keep things simple. Keep things as basic as possible when you are explaining what you expect. Keep it simple. C.Y.E. – Communicate your expectations.
The next way to communicate your expectation is to put things in writing. Write down what you expect, they read what you have written back to yourself. Read your own writing. Also, it is good to wait a day or two and read it again. It is easy to think you know what you have written soon after you have it written it, but does it stand the test of time? Also, it is good to have someone else read what you have written; then have them read it back to you. Ask them what they think. Do you both come to the same conclusions? This is a way to find out if what you are communicating and what you think you are communicating are the similar, exactly the same or not even close to each other.
Listen, be careful taking advice from people who are not really paying attention and do not really care about what you are trying to communicate. Also, be careful taking advice from people who are just trying to butter you up or be overly nice to you. Some people will try to get on your good side, because they want to take advantage of you. If people are paying attention and not trying to butter you up, they may have some basic questions or basic suggestions. Take them with a grain of salt. If people are paying attention to you, you should pay attention to them. You see communication and expectations are a two-way street. Respect your part in that process. C.Y.E. – Communicate your expectations.
So again, the best way to communicate your expectations are to keep them simple, put them in writing, read your own writing, then have someone read it back to you to make sure your point is getting across. Don’t be afraid to have someone read them back to you. Respect that part of the process. Respect that communication is a two-way street and that expectations are a two-way street also. To effectively communicate your expectations you must respect both sides of the process.
C.Y.E. – Communicate your expectations.
Want to know a super secret way to be successful? How about a not so secrete way? How about a way that is so obvious it seems too simple to be true? Ok, here it is… if you want to be successful; share. Share your way to success.
Step One! Don’t not jump in and throw your money at anything, keep it in your pocket until you get to the end. Share your way to success, but do not share your wealth just yet. Please read all the way through this, take this one step at a time. Step One. Keep your money in your pocket.
Ok, this is supposed to be share your way to success, and the first thing I tell you to do is keep your money in your pocket. So what do you share? That leads us to Step Two, Share your dreams. It is ok to tell people your dreams, but keep your money in your pocket. Why do I tell you this, because I do not want you to get taken advantage of, I want you to learn who has similar dreams to your dream. Do not fall victim to a scam by declaring your dream and then parting with your money. Just declare and share your dream. Now some people may laugh at you, some people may ignore you and some people may praise you; the real question is who will help you? Who will give you sound advice? Who will practice with you? Who will introduce you to people who can help you? Step One: keep your money in your pocket. Step Two: share your dream and find out who will actually help you get in touch with people who can really help you.
Step Three: Once you know who you can trust with your dreams, Share your ideas. Again, keep your money in your pocket. Know if people will not help you with the very basics, getting you in touch with people who can help you chase your dream, they do not need to know your ideas. Do not be afraid of stating you dreams to everyone, but only tell your ideas to people you can trust. How do you know if you can trust someone? Deep down inside there is a little voice that tells you when things seem right and things seem wrong. This little voice should also tell you when you are trying to force things and when things seem too good to be true. Trust takes time, do not rush into trusting people with your ideas; make sure they are who they say they are before you trust them. If people say they will help you and they follow through, trust them with a little more information; but again keep your money in your pocket!
Now, as you learn more and more about the people who are helping you chase your dream, you will notice they have a similar dream or will fit into your dream based on some kind of common ground. It is OK for people who trust each other and have similar dreams to work together. It is not ok to be taken advantage of by scam artists. So, again keep your money in your pocket and follow up on your plans. Now you will notice there are three kinds of people in the world, givers, takers and give & takers. Life is give and take. Success is give and take. Do not surround your self with givers or takers. Givers can be victims; takers are just that they take. People who understand give & take understand how important it is to work together. Share your ideas with people who will work with you, not just take from you or play the victim. Share your ideas with people who will work with you and once again, keep your money in your pocket.
Step One: Keep your money in your pocket. Step Two: Share your Dreams and find out who you can trust, but keep your money in your pocket. Step Three: Share your ideas with people you can trust, but remember to keep your money in your pocket. Step Four: Share your time and learn to work together without throwing a bunch of money at your idea. Now do you see why I continued to say keep your money in your pocket? Find people who will work together before money is on the line. Listen money changes everything, sometimes for the better and sometimes for the worse. Learn to work together and work out your ideas before the money starts going out or coming in. Work out all the details before people start putting money on the table. Learn who you can trust and learn who you can work with as a team!
Step Five: Agree on how to divide up the money before you put any money in and before you start making any money. Again, money changes everything, so it is better to have a detailed plan on what to do about and with the money before it starts flowing in and out of your pocket. No one wants to invest in a scam. No one likes getting taken advantage of be a scam artist. Take your time. Share your dreams, your ideas and you time with your team and find out who you can trust. Work out the details on how the money is going to work. Make sure there is balance when the money begins to flow. Are you equal partners? Do everything you can to make things fair and equal for everyone. Surround yourself with people who think and act the same.
Step Six: Share the wealth. When you start making money; share it with those people who have helped you along the way. Listen, no one get’s there alone, and no one gets anywhere by taking advantage of people. So set a great example for others to follow. Once you have a strong team around you and you start reaching your goals, share the wealth. Don’t throw you money in too early, but don’t be stingy when things start to work. Be the person who everyone wants to do business with and people will work hard for you.
Share you way to success. Remember you can not and should not throw your money in early. Share your Dreams and find out who will help you and who you can trust. Share your ideas with people who actually help you. Remember keep your money in you pocket and listen to that inner voice. Do not chase wild ideas or things that seem too good to be true. Get the facts. Share your time and learn to work together as a team before you take any money out of your pocket. You will thank me one day. Work out the details of how to split up the money before the money flows in or out. When the money starts to flow, share the wealth with those who have earned it. It is great to set something aside for charity and random acts of kindness, but you are trying to build something. Work out the money details and then share with those who are putting in the time and effort.
I got 60 Seconds to convince you of this fact. Love and Truth go hand in hand. Now 60 Seconds may not be enough time to work this level of Motivational Mojo, but I will give it a try. People have been lied to about Love and Truth. Love and Truth go hand in hand. They have to, they must. To have one you must have the other.
Define Love: I am not talking about lust. I am talking about true and unconditional love. Now Define Truth: No wishy-washy conditional truth, I am talking about absolute absence of all doubt truth!
Now search out God is Love: Then search out God is Truth: So how can God be only Love or only Truth when God is both Love and Truth. So how can you have Love without Truth and how can you have Truth without Love? You see I only have 60 Seconds to convince you of something you may battle in your mind with for the rest of your life, or you can realize there is no battle.
Love on the most honest and innocent level can be seen in the way a mother loves a newborn baby. Truth on the most absolute level is without waiver, doubt or malice intent. If you truly love someone you will tell the truth. And to tell the truth you must know true love. Now you can leave me 100 replies on why you disagree with my, but you can not change my mind. I am stubborn that way.
So let’s go to the other side of the fence, let me try my best to argue against the fact that Love and Truth must go hand in hand. Can you Love a Lie? Let me ask you, if you gave everything you have to someone because you love them, and you found out that they were lying to you at every turn, would you be happy? Would you? Can you truly Love a Lie? Stop playing the Unconditional, Forgive and Forget Love Card. Can you Love someone with all your might if you know they are lying to you?
Let’s try this: Can you tell the Absolute Truth, without any doubt or malice intent without having Love? What if I told you I knew the secret to a long happy life free from sickness and you could spend eternity in paradise? Could I tell you this secret if I did not truly believe it? Could I tell you this secret with no malice intent and not love you without condition? None of us deserve that level of truth or love, none of us have earned it; that is why it has to be freely shared. It can not be hoarded, it can not be fenced in, and it can be stopped. If you believe in Absolute Truth then you must have Love for everyone you share it with; they must go hand in hand.
How do I know this? Why am I so convinced? I have been fighting this battle in my own mind my entire life. Then I figured it out, then it was shown to me; the battle is already won. There is no battle between darkness and light, light always wins. So why do we fight these same battles between Love and hate, and between Truth and lies? Love is not lust, Love never fails. Once you know the Truth, why would you spread rumors or lies? Once you know the Truth, you will only give people the best possible advice you can.
Search God is Light: No you do not have to believe anything that I have posted here? I chose to believe. Your beliefs are your choice. The things I tell you should not be a secret. The things I post here are what I believe. It does not mean that I do not have my own battles to get through, it just means I am doing the best I can to spread the best news and best advice I can find.
Love and Truth go hand in hand. Love and Truth are the Light and the Way. God is Love and God is Truth. If you Love someone you will tell them the Truth, and if you know the Truth you will do all you can to walk in Love. You can not love a lie, and you can not live in fear and doubt. Love and Truth must go hand in hand.
Everyone has heard that famous quote: “It’s my way or the highway!” Can anyone tell me who said it first? I can’t find a definite answer. As far as this post goes, I am using it to illustrate my point, “My Way is the Highway!”
My Way is the “Information Super Highway.” The Internet will either help us come together or it may tear us apart. Either way, I choose it as a tool to help spread the word. My online diary of posts etches out where I stand on searching for the truth, finding your purpose and chasing your dreams. I choose to ride this Highway as My Way!
“My Way is the Highway” is also my stance when ever I am faced with Tyrannical Leadership. Some people can follow the “All Knowing” and “All Powerful” Leaders, Managers, Owners, etc. I can’t. I respond best to those who are open to new ideas, and lead by example. I respond best to those who coach and mentor and continue to evolve and grow as they lead. I respond best to those who are still searching, still learning, so if someone gives me the “My way or the highway” speech, it sends up a lot of warning signs in my mind. The only “All Knowing and Powerful” I know of is up in Heaven! Given the choice, “My Way is the Highway!”
Again, “My Way is the Highway!” What answer helps the most people get to where they are going as safely and quickly as possible? Highways are meant to help people get from where they are to where they are going. I could take the side roads to work every day, it would just take a lot longer to get there. Most of us choose the highway to get to where we need to go, don’t we?
“The Highway is My Way!” I would love to be able to get in my car and drive from town to town, making friends, raising money for charities, getting block clubs together to clean up parks and fix up neighborhoods. I would love to be able to start a great big convoy that brings positive change everywhere we go, and empowering people to sustain the new levels the change brings. I know the Highway can be seen as a dangerous place, or it can be seen as a tool and how it is used is up to each person.
“So My Way is the Highway!” I am coming to you thanks to the Information Super Highway, the Internet. I am making my stand that I want to continue to learn and grow and my input matters. I think your input matters too, I think that like-minded people are better off together; and that if we can link up enough people who want to make a difference, one day we can make a difference. One day we can ride on both the “Brick and Mortar” and the “Click without Borders” Highways at the same time. Going from town to town training up the leaders of the future, and fixing some of the mistakes of the past. I think we can do it together.
My Way Is The Highway!