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A few years ago I thought it would be a good ideal to start a Motivational Blog.

A few years ago I thought it would be a good ideal to start a Motivational Blog.

So I started blogging and I am still at it. I still think it is a good idea. I also thought it was a good idea to start a “Quote of the Day” Motivational Group. So I did. There have been some ups and some downs, but I still think it is a good idea. So I am still at it.

A few years ago I thought it would be a good idea to become a Motivational Speaker. So I started by blogging and inviting my friends and professional contacts to be a part of my Spread Good News “Quote of the Day” Motivational Group and I took every chance I could get to present on the topics that I have been studying and learning along the way. Am I rich and famous? No, not yet; but I still think it is a good idea. Do I have a book deal? No, not yet; but I still think it is a good idea. Have I helped a few people along the way? I have helped as many people as I could with no strings attached; and that is why I think it is a good idea.

No, I have not authored a book yet. No, I have not been on television or the radio yet. I have been invited / allowed to speak a few times on a podcast and at a couple of local events. Even though I have spoken before many crowds as a Master of Ceremonies and Event Host and even though I have performed onstage as a Musician and as a DJ; learning how to present as a Motivational Speaker or a Topic Expert still makes me a little nervous on the inside. But, I have learned by doing and I have learned by studying and I have learned by asking questions and listening for an answer.

Doors were opened for me because I knocked on them. Every time I walked through a door that was opened, I learned something new. Then I shared what I have learned and started the process all over again. Can I help someone learn what I have learned? Can someone help me learn what they have learned? I am convinced I will write a book one day, just not today. Today I rededicate myself to what I am doing and have done so far: Blogging, Speaking, Volunteering, Learning, Listening, Being Mentored, Being Coached, Mentoring and Coaching Others.

One day, when the time is right, I hope to write a book. Until then I will update my blog. One day, when the time is right, I will be interviewed on Television for what I have accomplished, until then I will continue to work to motivate others and give presentations about what I have learned. One day you may hear me speak on the radio, until then maybe you will catch me on You-Tube or another podcast. If I continue to learn and grow and help others, then the seeds I so today will grow into a harvest, until then I will continue to tend to the soil.

A few years ago I thought it would be a good ideal to start a Motivational Blog. I still think it is a good idea. A few years ago I thought it would be a good ideal to start a “Quote of the Day” group. I still think it is a good idea. A few years ago I thought it would be a good idea to become a Motivational Speaker. I still think it is a good idea. That is why I am still here. I am still at it. I am learning and growing by doing and asking others how I can help. If you have the same dreams I tell you today to get started. Take it one day, one post and one presentation at time. A few years from now you will be glad you did.

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Would have, Could have and Should have:

Would have, Could have and Should have:

How many times have you heard these before? How many times have you said these before? I would have, I could have, I should have; are they just excuses for what we wanted to do or needed to do but were maybe too afraid or too distracted or just too busy? These words are a trap, they maybe make us feel better for a little while, but nothing changes; we did not do the thing we wanted to do or even worse, we did not do the thing we needed to do.

Stop saying I would have, stop saying I could have and stop saying I should have; start saying I will, and then actually make time to try. It is better to say I tried and failed than to not try. It is even better to say I tried and failed and here is what I learned than to once again not try. It is better to say I tried, I failed, here is what I learned and I will try again than to not try.

Stop saying “Would have” “Could have” and “Should have” they are a trap to make you feel better about doing nothing new or different. If you do not try you will not learn. Start saying I will study, learn, try and learn more by doing. Find the time.

You could have, you should have; these words are piercing when they come from others. No one likes being told what they could have or should have done. How about Try this, or Try that? Why not offer positive advice and take away the negative overtures. You cannot do things for others, they have to learn for themselves. But you can be part of their learning experience through mentoring and coaching. Giving people suggestions is tough; you have to find the way they need to hear it to receive it. Could have and should have are too after the fact. Let’s try this and let’s try that are a more easily received and are before the fact. Time hunts us all, but as long as we are alive we have time. We have time to try something new. Study Learn, Try Learn More and Mentor to learn even more.

We could have, we should have stings a little less, but they are not as strong as we can and we will. We can and we will mean that we are in this together. Are you ready to Mentor, Coach and Team with someone for more than just your success? Are you ready to Try and Fail as a Team or are you only a Team when you Win? I am still looking for the magic formula. I have tried and failed at many things, I have tried and succeed at others. I am trying to learn from my failures and teach others my successes; again, I am still looking how to be a good mentor and a good coach and make sure I am lending a helping hand as often as I can.

Would have, Could have and Should have are weak compared to This is how you do it! Telling people to do something is not often received well, showing people how to do something is always better. Showing people, hands on mentoring and coaching is a win – win situation for everyone involved. The person being coached learns something new and the person coaching learns from another perspective. It may take a little more time than the “do it myself” approach, it may take a little more time in the beginning, but when two people can work together; they can get a lot more done than if they are working separately. Teamwork does not happen by accident, it happens because someone took the time to build the team in the first place. You see teamwork gets a bad reputation when people do not see the efforts of the mentors and coaching in a way they can understand.

Here is how you do it, let’s do this together, try this and I will you help you the best I can; these words are so much stronger than would have, could have and should have. We can and we will, I can and I will mean your will try again. It is ok to try and fail, but it is not ok to not try and it is even worse to not learn. Study, learn, try and learn more and then succeed; “Would have” “Could have” and “Should have” do not lead to success. Here let me help you, Let’s try this, We can and We will are the way to find the success you are looking for! I can and I will, you can and you will, we can and we will; Let’s try this together!

Six Cans of Soup.

Six Cans of Soup.

Six Cans of Soup.

Six Cans of Soup.

Give the gift you would want to receive this year.  This post may seem kind of strange, but it is just a thought.  Give the gift you would want to receive this year.  What does that have to do with Six Cans of Soup?

This is the giving season.  I think it is great.  People are digging into their cupboards and giving away food instead of throwing it away.  I stopped by the store and bought Six Cans of Soup for our Canned Soup Drive at work.  Six cans of soup.  Maybe a couple of families will have a warm meal this holiday season.  Six cans of soup will not change the world, but maybe they can give a little hope to a few people who are hungry.

See when I was at the store and I was trying to decide what soup to buy, my first impulse was to grab some soup that was on sale.  Grab some soup that was quick and easy and of course cheap. I then took a second and fought that first impulse.  I asked myself, if I were sick or hungry, what soup would I buy for myself.  Would I just grab the first soup that I saw or the cheapest soup I could find?  Of course not, I took a second a looked for the soup that was a little better tasting, a little more filling.  I grabbed Six Cans of soup I would want for myself.

If you want others to give you your best, do you give your best?  Do you give the gift you would want to receive?  I am not saying we should let food go to waste.  I am not saying don’t give to food banks and homeless shelters.  I am challenging myself to give the kind of gift that I would want to receive.  It can be as simple as Six Cans of Soup.  I can be as simple as spending an extra couple of dollars so that people can have a filling meal for the holidays.