Be careful whose advice you follow.
Welcome to 60 Seconds of Motivational Mojo. I hope this post finds you well. I basically try to pay forward good news and the best advice I can find. There is a topic that has been weighing on my brain. Everyone takes advice. Trust me on this one. You will find your results in life are directly in correlation to those whom you surround yourself. You family and friends and co-workers have a tremendous impact on your future. This is why I say, be very careful whose advice you follow.
Maybe my biggest failure in life has been taking advice from people who were not looking for the same results that I am looking for in my life. I let others determine my future, which means I had to learn that hard way that your family and friends may not have the same plans for you as you have for yourself. Be very careful whose advice you follow.
Let’s say you fall in love. Are your friends and family happy for you? Do they know anything about you and the person you love and your plans for each other? If they are not happy in their life and their life choices; they will not be happy for you. I have seen people make many choices between family, friends, career, faith and hobbies. Are you doing what you want to do or are you doing what others want you to do?
You see I try to look at people circumstances before I take their advice. Say you are looking for advice on marriage. The advice you get from single people will be different than the advice you get from newlyweds. The advice you get from people who have been married for a long time will be different than the advice you get from people who have been divorced. The advice you choose to follow will have a big impact on your marriage. Are people happy for you? Are they jealous of you? Are they trying to come between you and your spouse or are they trying to help you work together? The advice you follow will have a big impact on your future.
If you want to be a Doctor; then you should take the advice of Doctors. If you want to be a Lawyer; then you should take the advice of Lawyers. This does not mean that every Doctor or Lawyer you meet will have the same Moral Compass that you have, again; be careful of the advice you take. It seems everyone had advice for me for all of my life’s choices, but few people really wanted to follow the same path I was trying to follow for myself. When I wanted to follow a career in entertainment, I should have taken the advice of people who made a living in entertainment; when I did I was more successful than when I did not. When I was in college, I was more successful when I took the advice of those who were focused on the same classes I was taking; when I followed the advice of people who not focused on a college degree, I was easily led astray. We all have to live with our choices; I am trying to learn from mine. Take the advice of those who are further down the road than you are that have set an example that you can emulate. You have to live with yourself when it is all said and done.
Be careful who you take advice from. Hopefully you will surround yourself with people who are not trying to take advantage of you or distract you from your goals. The best way is to find common ground, common goals and the same moral compass. Be careful whose advice you follow.
Success is a Five Story Building.
Maybe I make things overly simple. Maybe I should try to make this more complicated, but it is just not my nature. Welcome to 60 Seconds Of Motivational Mojo where I see the same things in new and simple ways. I think Success is a Five Story Building. Stay around and let me explain.
I see success as having five levels or layers or like a Five Story Building. I wish I could say Five Steps, but I think each level or layer or story has simple steps, but I don’t want to make it complicated. I want to make this simple. Success has Five Layers, now how many steps each one takes is up to you.
Here are my Proposed Five Stories or Floors of Success. 1st Floor – Do what you love. 2nd Floor – Learn to make money at it. 3rd Floor – Save the money you make. 4th Floor – Teach others how to make money doing what you love. 5th Floor – Grow your Business. Now let me say it again, each Level, or layer, or Story or Floor of this Success Building may have many steps, or there may be just a few simple steps. Why make it more complicated than it needs to be? Let’s look at each Story of Building your success and keep it as simple as possible.
1st Floor – Do what you love. Everyone says this, but really how many of us are doing what we love to do? Most of the time we love our hobbies, but we have this job that takes up a lot of our time. We work the job to pay our bills and with the time and money left over we try to cram in our family, friends and hobbies. So imagine if we could spend more time on our hobbies? Now if you love doing something, hopefully you will get good at it, or at least decent at it; or at the very least, you love doing it. So do what you love, that is the 1st Story or the 1st Floor in building your success.
2nd Floor – Learn to make money doing what you love. If you love playing the guitar, can you make money performing or teaching the guitar? Can you make money selling guitars or hosting guitar clinics with other guitar players? If you can find a way to make money doing what you love it will make a transition from being your hobby to possibly being a business you can build. Now, I hesitate to call it a job, because for whatever reason people do not like to hear job and hobby in the same sentence. This seems to be a major stumbling point for many people. To be able to build a business out of a hobby but not call it a job? So let me say it again, learn to make money doing what you love. It may mean you have to get better at what you do, or you may have to study other people who are making money doing what you love to do; but it can be as simple or as complicated as you make it.
1st Floor – Do what you love; 2nd Floor – Learn to make money doing what you love:
3rd Floor – Save the money you make. I have been pretty good at doing what I love and I have been pretty good at learning to make money from what I love. Now I could be farther along the success ladder if I would have saved more of the money I made. You see, if you want to grow your business, it is better to do it without going into debt. You will see that business comes in waves and if you are saving the extra money during the busy times, it will help you get through the lean times. Save the money you make doing what you love. This way, when you want to expand your business, you can do it without going into debt.
4th Floor – Teach others how to make money doing what you love. This may seem crazy. Why would you teach others to make money doing the things you love to do? Teaching others will help you learn how to grow your business. And if you love doing something, and if you found a way to make money from your hobby and turn it into a business; don’t you think there will be others who want to learn to make money from their hobby also. Especially people who have the same hobby you have; they would want to learn how to make money doing what they love. This is a simple and easy step that a lot of people get backwards. They learn to grow their business before they learn to teach others at doing what they love to do. Learn to teach others as soon as you learn to save you money. 1st Floor – Do what you love. 2nd Floor – Learn to make money doing what you love. 3rd Floor – Save the money you make. 4th Floor – Teach others how to make money doing what they love, which just so happens to be what you love to do also.
5th Floor – Grow your business: There is an old saying that good help is hard to find. Do you know why? It is because people have a way they want things done. People who find success want things done a certain way, their way. Now this is why it is important to teach others before you expand your business. I have worked many jobs where they needed as much help as they could find, but the training systems they had in place were good on paper at best. Good Training, mentoring and coaching is an art and a skill that needs to be learned and developed. You can learn by doing, but you will learn even more by training others. This will help you find more ways to grow your business, because you will continue to learn as you go and learn as you grow. It is easier to grow your business if you have a pool of talent you can draw from that is already trained.
Now I will be the first to admit, each of these Floors, or Stories, or Layers or Levels of Success may have many steps. You can make them simple or complicated. I choose to keep them simple. Do what you love. Learn to make money at it. Save the money you make. Learn to teach others how to make money doing what you both love to do. Then grow your business. You see I believe in this system because I have lived both sides of this system. The people who I have seen and worked with who do what they love and then train others seem to be the most successful.
Success is a Five Story Building. 1st Floor – Do what you love. 2nd Floor – Learn to make money at it. 3rd Floor – Save the money you make. 4th Floor – Teach others how to make money doing what you love. 5th Floor – Grow your Business.
Intentionally Communicate Expectations. Dictionary Dot Com defines the words the following way.
an act or instance of determining mentally upon some action or result.
the imparting or interchange of thoughts, opinions, or information by speech, writing, or signs.
the act or state of looking forward or anticipating.
Intention, Communication and Expectations; these are almost always the keys to success in almost any business relationship. So why not just put them together into on key that forms a snazzy acronym. What are you Intentions? What are your expectations? How do you communicate each of these things? I am amazed at how bad it seems that I communicate my intentions and expectations to others. The reason I say that I am amazed at how bad I am at communicating is because I see how people react. I want the best for people. I want to challenge people to want the best for themselves. So why would people get mad at me for wanting the win – win for everyone. The only reason I can find is that I am not communicating my intentions and expectations in an effective way for others to receive them.
You see we all have different backgrounds and different experiences. We have different personalities and different ways of learning. So the people who are successful are the ones who can communicate the most efficiently and effectively with the most people. People who are successful clearly state their intentions and expectations. So to be more successful, learn to communicate clearly to the most people possible.
You see, not everyone is going to agree with you. Not everyone is going to agree with me. That is why there are so many options at the Movies, On Television and on the Radio. That is why there are so many entertainment options because not everyone wants to do the same thing the same way at the same time. So, if you want to get things done it is to your benefit to clearly communicate your intentions and your expectations to as many people as possible. I.C.E. Success.
I have spent a lot of my life communicating static. I have made a lot of noise that really did do much more than get laughs or make people mad at me. I have come to realize what was the point I was trying to make? I have come to realize that we need to make a point that is worth making in the first place. I have come to realize that making noise for the sake or making noise is not much of a reason to make noise. I have come to realize we should be communicating something worthwhile, or we should get out of the way so the people who have something worth saying can be heard. So now I try to motivate others to want the very best out of this life we have been given.
So if you want to be successful as yourself, how effectively are you communicating your intentions and your expectations? I am learning by doing. I am learning by trying. I believe we should all try, learn and try again. Efficiency and Effectiveness are keys to measuring how well we are doing and what we are learning. I.C.E. Success! Intentionally Communicate Expectations.
Everyone loses when you play the blame game.
I didn’t do it. It was someone else’s fault. So and so should have this and so and so should have that. Everyone starts pointing fingers and pointing out what everyone did wrong and pointing out what everyone should have done. Nothing is solved, nothing new is learned and nothing is prevented. Only bad blood gets created. Playing the blame game means everyone loses.
Welcome to Sixty Seconds of Motivational Mojo. I try to find the positive in most situations. I try to find the silver lining in every cloud. I try to find the positive spin as often as possible. So here I am trying again. I am trying to find a way to put a positive spin on a basic human reaction when things go bad. We feel the need to find someone to blame, so people think if they blame someone else it somehow saves them from harm. The blame game does not make you safe from harm; it only delays what is going to happen. You blame someone else and then you will become a target for others to blame you in the future. See when people are known for blaming others when things go wrong, the minute you make a mistake others will line up to blame you. Blaming others makes enemies, helping others makes allies. Which kind of people do you want to be surrounded by when you need help?
You always have two choices faced with any situation; get out in front of it and help, or wait until things go wrong and blame others. You can be Proactive or Reactive. Fire Alarms are Reactive, Fire Prevention is Proactive. Which one is better? Is it better to put out fires or prevent them from happening in the first place? We should be able to agree that it is better to avoid a fire than to put a fire out and then have to clean up all the resulting damage. So blaming others after the fire is out just adds more fuel to the next fire. It does nothing to clean up the damage from the fire and it does nothing to prevent the next fire.
Learn to learn. Learn to teach others. Learn to listen and learn from others. Learn from people who have more experience and most of all, learn by doing. What do you learn by blaming others? What does anyone learn by blaming others? Be proactive. Get out in front of bad situations and do the best you can. Then if you don’t know something or if you mess up, admit it, fix it and move on. The blame game does none of these things.
It’s funny. I am watching a House MD DVD and he just made a great quote. We have three choices, Be Good, Get Good or Give Up. The blame game does not make you good and if you were already good you would not need to blame others. That means to me that the blame game is a sure sign of people who have gave up on being good but still want to take credit for something. What that something is, only God and the person placing the blame know the answer.
If you are reading this, and you know of what there is to gain by playing the blame game, please leave me a comment and let me know. Heck if you agree with me leave me a comment and let me know. You see if I am going to tell you to listen and learn, then I need to be ready to listen and learn from both sides of the fence. Not just the people who agree with me. I am supposed to look at both sides of the story and weigh the good and the bad of either side and then do the best I can with the information I am given. So, I am making a stand that I feel the blame game means that everyone loses.
So, I am just trying to draw a line in the sand and continue to get better at what I do. Thanks for your time. I hope to hear from you.
Don’t worry about how hard it will be to catch your dream!
Wonder and stay focused upon if it is worth it. Chasing your dream won’t be easy. Chasing your dream may mean you have to make some difficult choices. But if your dream is worth it, the effort will be worth it also. Welcome to 60 Seconds of Motivational Mojo. I hope somewhere in all of this my intention gets through, keep chasing your dreams.
So first and foremost; I hope your dream is to do something positive. That is just where I come from with this blog. Positive Motivational is my intention. I hope and pray your dream does no harm to others. So now, secondly; I hope your dream will stretch your imagination and your efforts; dream the big dream. It is OK to be working on small steps as long as the small steps lead to a Big Dream. Dreaming of lying in bed and watching television all day is ok for a day off or a weekend off, but don’t let it turn into a month off or a year off. Stay after that Big Positive Dream! Your Dream must be big enough to be worth it! Now if your dream is big and positive then you should share it with the people you love. At the very least, the people who love you should be supportive of your dream. Even if they cannot give you the money to make your dream come true, or even if they do not know how to help you make your dream come true; the people who love you should respect your dream enough to tell you to keep at it, keep learning and try to comfort you when you are discouraged. If they cannot do that much, do they love you as much as you love them?
Remember, I said you may have to make some tough choices. I am not here to break up any marriages or families. I would not want anyone tampering in my family life. I am saying be able to share your dream with your family, and if they cannot respect your dream, do not let them kill it. Your family and friends may not be able to understand your dream, or maybe they are not in a good enough place to be happy for you. Don’t let them drag you down with them if their dream has died. Keep your dream alive, and take the time and give yourself the space to keep chasing your dream. Again, if your family and friends love you, they will be happy for you. You may have to be happy for them and yourself before they are ready and able to be happy for you. Again, do not let your family or friends kill your dream. Keep your dreams and thoughts positive and big enough to be worth chasing.
Don’t worry about how hard it will be to catch your dream, keep dreaming the dream. Dream big enough to make it worth your while to keep dreaming. Now let’s say your dream is to climb Mount Everest. You may have to break that down into small steps. Find the biggest local hill that you can climb and climb that once or twice. Climb it 10 times and then climb it 10 times a day. You need to set little goals and reach them and then set bigger goals. After you are sure you still want to climb that mountain, maybe you need to find a club that goes on trips to bigger mountains than the ones that are near you. May be you need to work with a team and find out if you can handle the biggest hill or mountain in your state. Maybe you will need to find sponsors, maybe you will need to blog about it or keep a video diary or start and online group, but you have to find a way to keep your dream alive.
It is my dream to host a large scale motivational conference and be able to bring change into communities to help clean parks, feed and shelter the homeless and may even establish some scholarships. I am working with a few people and we have had to adjust our approach a few different times. People have come and gone, but the Big Dream remains. I am chasing the big dream! This blog and my online groups are each steps along the way. I am working on a Motivational Workshop that I want to turn into a series of events. This series of events will then help launch chapters to get people out and volunteering. These chapters will someday link together to host an annual conference that will rotate through the cities that are holding monthly workshops. I wish I could tell you that it has been easy, but it hasn’t. The more important thing is that the dream is worth it.
That is what keeps me going. The dream has to be worth it. Focus on that, focus on what the dream means not only to you, but others who can also benefit if your dream comes true. If your dream is big and positive, than do you see yourself alone or helping others? Don’t worry about how hard the dream will be to catch. Wonder about and focus on the fact that if your dream is big enough, than it will be worth it!
Selective Emotional Intelligence:
Emotional Intelligence, some people say it is the stuff that turns us into leaders. Emotional intelligence (EI) is the ability to monitor one’s own and other people’s emotions, to discriminate between different emotions and label them appropriately, and to use emotional information to guide thinking and behavior. So why did an article in Forbes recently report that EI decreases as Management levels Increase? If Leaders have a higher level of EI, why do some many of us seem to have to work hard to like our superiors?
I believe there is such a thing as Selective Emotional Intelligence. Bear with me. Let me explain. Welcome to 60 Seconds of Motivational Mojo where I try to look at things from a slightly different angle. I have no empirical data to back my opinion in this post. I do not have any Double Blind Studies or Business Journal Case Studies: Walk with me and talk with me for a minute.
I have held a few jobs and I have had the honor and privilege to work for people I really respected. I have also been in situations where my Personality did not mesh with the Personalities of all my superiors. That is fine, I have seen many Leaders’ and Managers disagree. My point is not that they lack Emotional Intelligence, heck for most of my career and most of my life, I can say that I have lacked EI; what I am saying is that people have a knack for turning on and off areas of their personality depending on who is in the room at the time.
I have worked for Managers who were Super Duper Nice when their Superiors were around. They could turn on the charm for the crowd or for their Leadership and then turn it off when dealing with people one on one. Does this sound familiar to any of you? Sometimes it is simple a difference of opinion, other times it is a difference in personality or ideology. My point is not that the Managers or Leaders lacked Emotional Intelligence; it is just what we see of them depending on what they think of us. I think people can be Selective with what they will deal with and what they won’t deal with from others.
Now I also find this a two way-street, some Mangers treat their Superiors with like Gold and their Subordinates like lumps of coal. I have also seen some Worker Bees think it is wrong to get scammed by the people above them, but it ok for the guy next to them to be scamming people. Everyone has their tolerance levels. Each of us need to be aware of what we are dealing with, and at what levels. Are you equal, fair and try to treat everyone with the highest respect? Why does it seem that the people who have the Highest levels of being able to read people are the ones who are the most likely to scam people? Selective Emotional Intelligence is the reason; just because people know how to read other people does not make them a Trust Worthy Leader or a Non-Biased Manager.
Just as much as I am trying to harness the power of and increase the level of my Emotional Intelligence, I also try to apply it the same regardless of if you are above me or below me in the Proverbial Food Chain. At the end of the day we are all the same anyway, but how do you treat people from 9 to 5 vs all the rest of your day? Are you only nice when you stand to gain something? Are you sympathetic to those less fortunate than you and angry with those who have more? I think people turn on and off their Emotional Intelligence. This is how I think people can get ahead at a job even though no one likes them or would not follow them unless their job was on the line. Selective Emotional Intelligence: That’s how!
Would have, Could have and Should have:
How many times have you heard these before? How many times have you said these before? I would have, I could have, I should have; are they just excuses for what we wanted to do or needed to do but were maybe too afraid or too distracted or just too busy? These words are a trap, they maybe make us feel better for a little while, but nothing changes; we did not do the thing we wanted to do or even worse, we did not do the thing we needed to do.
Stop saying I would have, stop saying I could have and stop saying I should have; start saying I will, and then actually make time to try. It is better to say I tried and failed than to not try. It is even better to say I tried and failed and here is what I learned than to once again not try. It is better to say I tried, I failed, here is what I learned and I will try again than to not try.
Stop saying “Would have” “Could have” and “Should have” they are a trap to make you feel better about doing nothing new or different. If you do not try you will not learn. Start saying I will study, learn, try and learn more by doing. Find the time.
You could have, you should have; these words are piercing when they come from others. No one likes being told what they could have or should have done. How about Try this, or Try that? Why not offer positive advice and take away the negative overtures. You cannot do things for others, they have to learn for themselves. But you can be part of their learning experience through mentoring and coaching. Giving people suggestions is tough; you have to find the way they need to hear it to receive it. Could have and should have are too after the fact. Let’s try this and let’s try that are a more easily received and are before the fact. Time hunts us all, but as long as we are alive we have time. We have time to try something new. Study Learn, Try Learn More and Mentor to learn even more.
We could have, we should have stings a little less, but they are not as strong as we can and we will. We can and we will mean that we are in this together. Are you ready to Mentor, Coach and Team with someone for more than just your success? Are you ready to Try and Fail as a Team or are you only a Team when you Win? I am still looking for the magic formula. I have tried and failed at many things, I have tried and succeed at others. I am trying to learn from my failures and teach others my successes; again, I am still looking how to be a good mentor and a good coach and make sure I am lending a helping hand as often as I can.
Would have, Could have and Should have are weak compared to This is how you do it! Telling people to do something is not often received well, showing people how to do something is always better. Showing people, hands on mentoring and coaching is a win – win situation for everyone involved. The person being coached learns something new and the person coaching learns from another perspective. It may take a little more time than the “do it myself” approach, it may take a little more time in the beginning, but when two people can work together; they can get a lot more done than if they are working separately. Teamwork does not happen by accident, it happens because someone took the time to build the team in the first place. You see teamwork gets a bad reputation when people do not see the efforts of the mentors and coaching in a way they can understand.
Here is how you do it, let’s do this together, try this and I will you help you the best I can; these words are so much stronger than would have, could have and should have. We can and we will, I can and I will mean your will try again. It is ok to try and fail, but it is not ok to not try and it is even worse to not learn. Study, learn, try and learn more and then succeed; “Would have” “Could have” and “Should have” do not lead to success. Here let me help you, Let’s try this, We can and We will are the way to find the success you are looking for! I can and I will, you can and you will, we can and we will; Let’s try this together!
Which story do you want me to tell you?
Do you want to know of who I am and where I come from? Do you want to know what I have done or what I would like to do? Would you like to know of the good or the bad of my past or my intention for my future? Which story do you want me to tell you?
I am presently a guy who is searching for truth. I am a guy who believes he can make a difference in this life, in my community. I am a guy who is trying to learn from his past and work for a better future. I do not have all the answers, and I am not sure I want all the answers. I really just want to ask the right questions and learn.
I could tell you of all the things I did wrong and all the mistakes that I have made; or I can tell you that I am sorry for the things I did wrong and I am trying to learn from my mistakes. I cannot change the past, but I can do all I can in the present to change my future. I think each of us can do this; I think that you can change your future, you only have to try.
So I could tell you of all the things I did well when I was young. I could only tell you the good things as if I am a running for public office. I am not, I am politically neutral. I think people need to make up their own minds; I just think people should seek the truth. So I have done good and done bad. I have made mistakes and I have done some things well. I hope that I can learn from each of the things I have done in my past. The things more important than knowing my past is knowing my present and my future. I think that is true of all of us, what is your present and what is your future? What are you trying to do?
What am I trying to do? I am trying to learn by doing, learn by mentoring and learn by being mentored. I believe that first and foremost is the search for truth and purpose. I believe that everything we know and believe is based on faith in something, some system of some kind. What you believe is up to you, just know the truth about what you believe. I believe that God is greater than all of our problems, but I also believe that faith takes action. If we leave life to random chance things will get worse. Things get better because we intend them to get better and also act on our intentions. I believe we are here to teach each other; good, bad or indifferent. Don’t be indifferent, that leads to nothing. Don’t be bad, that only leads to evil. We should teach each other the good and do the best we can to leave the world a better place than we found it.
So how do believe I can achieve these things? To teach good things and make the world a better place? First I believe in searching for the truth. Second I believe that mentoring, coaching, team building and leadership development so be grounded in community service. All of us can help out cleaning parks or volunteering at a soup kitchen or a food bank. All of us can learn by teaching and tutoring even if it is helping kids learn the very basics. What do I want to accomplish? Searching for the truth and mentoring, coaching and team building based on community service. This is the very place to develop people to be the leaders they were meant to become. I want to help un leash the leader in all of us. You can be a leader, but you need to see yourself as a leader first. You need to know that you can make a difference and make your community a better place.
That is my intention and this is what I am trying to accomplish. Which story do you want to hear? Do you want to hear of my past or my future? Do you want to hear of the good or the bad that I have done, or what I have learned from my mistakes? Would you like to know where I have been or where I am going? Why not try to make the world a better place by working together to find the truth and serve the greater good in our community? You can do it if you try. That is what I am trying to do.
Common Ground, Common Direction and Common Moral Compass
What is the meaning of life? What is my purpose? Why am I here? What is the truth? How can I find happiness? What is success? Life has a lot of questions. I am not sure I can lead you to or convince you of any of life’s answers. I think I do know a few things; I am convinced that there is a way to find what you are looking for in life. Find Common Ground, Common Direction and Common Moral Compass before you give you put your faith and trust in people that you meet.
Common Ground, Common Direction and Common Moral Compass: You may have to filter out some of your family and friends; you can still love them and respect them. Don’t let your family and friends keep you from finding what you are looking for in life. You may need to search out new people and find a mentor or coach, but I think if you take a minute and let this sink in you will be just fine. One step at a time let me explain and then see if this makes sense.
Common Ground: Your friends, your neighbors, your classmates, your co-workers, people who have the same likes and dislikes as you; it is easy to find common ground with people. It is the first thing used by marketing agents and politicians to get you to buy what they are selling. Common ground is a great start, but I ask you; is it enough. Should you believe and do what someone else is doing simply because they are from the same neighborhood as you are from, or attended the same school as you? Agai, common ground is a start, but it does not mean you should place your faith and trust in someone for only that reason.
Common Direction: Where do you want to go and what do you want to do with your life? Let’s use this simple example. I live and work in Metro Detroit. I go to work every day and people in my department are on the road on some days and in the office on others. Just because we all live and work in Metro Detroit does not mean we all heading in the same direction all the time. Some people are heading east and some are heading west; some are heading north and some are heading south. For this example I am literally talking about how we travel to and from home and work and when we need to go on the road for business.
Common ground does not equal common direction. Just because we all live and work in the same general area does not mean we are all heading in the same direction. Now if you use this as a metaphor, you will see we may all work in the same area but not live in the same area. Or we may live in the same area but no work in the same area. We can also have different opinions on how to approach our family, or friends, or profession and countless other areas of our lives. Also, just because we all live and work together does not mean we all went to the same school or were born in the same city. You see common ground and common direction are also dependent on what point in time you are referencing. Not only do you need to find common ground with people, you should also try to find common direction. Your family and friends may not want to go the same places you want to go and do the same things you want to do. This should respect your wishes and not hold you back, but hey more on that later. Hopefully between you family, your friends, your coworkers and acquaintances, you can find some people where you not only have common ground, but you also have common direction.
Now common ground and common direction are a great start, two out of three ain’t bad; but it is not the complete puzzle. To really find what you are looking for in this life; you need a moral compass. There is a constant battle between good and evil, order and chaos, or right and wrong. You may find that some people are willing to take shortcuts that go against your moral fiber. Finding common ground and common direction are important; but finding common moral compass is the most important thing. One bad move, one bad call by you or the people who are with you can change everything. A series of good deeds by a group of people can be ruined by the bad deeds by a few people in that group. You may find yourself guilty by association because of the moral compass of those around you. Is it fair? No it is not, but if everyone around has their moral compass set lower than yours; you are in danger of them dragging you down.
Common Ground and Common Direction are great, but if you are surrounded by people whose Morall Compass is lower than your yours, you are in danger of them dragging you down with them. Now, if you surround yourself with people work hard, work smart, know the difference between right and wrong and choose to the right thing, you will find they can help raise your moral compass. Isn’t this or at least should this be where we all want to be at the end of the day? Don’t we want to be successful for doing all the right things for all the right reasons? Who is to say, but I think we know the difference between right and wrong, but we may not choose to do right all the time. What if your family and friends choose to do wrong, does that mean you have to choose to do wrong also? What if your coworkers are taking shortcuts, does that mean you also need to take shortcuts? Be very careful when gaging moral compass. Stand back and watch people’s habits and patterns.
I can’t tell you what to choose. I can only hope to help you spot the patterns. Stand back and watch people before you put a lot of faith and trust in them. Watch their habits and patterns. Do they deliver or do they take shortcuts? Do they lie cheat and steal to get what they want, or are they true to their word? Common Ground and Common Direction are not enough. Your future can be made or broken by your Moral Compass and the Moral Compass of those around you. Choose Wisely.
Welcome to 60 Seconds of Motivational Mojo. You were meant for greatness. All of us were. Politicians tell us we are all equal. The last thing most politicians want is for us to be equal. Most of them are used to a life of privilege. Most politicians as used to be treated as and catering to V.I.P.s: Very Important People. I say you can be a V.I.P. (Very Important Person) but you have to know your V.I.P. (Value. Intention and Purpose)
Your Value, Your Intention and Your Purpose will decide how you face the day. How do you value yourself? Do you know your intention? Do you know your purpose? I may have to go about this in reverse order. These may seem like the same concepts over and over. Maybe that just means they are important to me. I think they are the keys to success? Do you see yourself as a Very Important Person? You must know Your Value, Your Intention and Your Purpose.
Your Purpose: Why are you here? Let’s go back to politicians. They are supposed to be public officials and public servants. They are supposed to serve a greater good. I think all of us are supposed to serve a greater good. The question is do we? We are not all equal. We are all uniquely made. We need to understand first how we fit into the greater good. It is hard if not impossible to do anything great without a sense of purpose. So understanding your purpose and how you fit into the greater good should be the first thing you figure out or at least the first thing you seek out. It may take a long time to really come to grips with your purpose, or it can take a day. What did you always want to do with your life, long ago when you were a kid, when you were innocent and did not know how hard life can be on people? What did you want to do? You were born with a purpose; you just need to reconnect with it.
You Intention: How do you go about what you do? Again, let’s go back to politicians. Their purpose is to serve the public and the greater good, but how many of them dress up their self service as public service? Why do we spend so much time and money electing people that we do not trust? Left vs. Right, Democrat vs. Republican; are they there to serve each other or the public that elected them in the first place? What is their intention? What is your intention? To many people believe to be successful they have to be deceitful. I do not believe this way. I think you should be honest and true about your intention and get around people who think the same way. Your purpose and your intention should be to the greater good. Maybe this is why I am not the most popular guy in the room at sometimes. That is ok, I would much rather be honest with you. What is my point? Take your purpose and intention seriously.
Your Value: How do you value yourself? Do you see yourself as nothing more than someone who makes minimum wage? Do you see yourself as nothing more than someone who receives welfare or social security? How I see you cannot override how you see yourself. The way that I value you cannot override how you value yourself. To be seen as an Important Person you have to Value yourself, your purpose, your intention and your talents. You see, the way you see yourself begins with being able to understand your purpose and your intention. Your story and your talents must mean more to you than accepting a life of minimum wage or welfare or any entitlement program that tells us we are all equal and only worth a fixed amount each month. Your own sense of value needs to be justified by your purpose and your intention. Your intention has to be greater than thinking that one day you will win the lottery. Your intention needs to drive you to hone your talents. Your sense of value needs to drive you to want to make a positive difference in pursuit of the greater good.
Now I know that I cannot force you to see it my way. I cannot force you to believe that you are worth more than minimum wage. I cannot force you to believe you are worth more than any government program will tell you to stand in line to receive. Take a moment and decide for yourself. Do you know your purpose? Find it first, or at least get on the path of looking for it. What is your intention? Is it for greater good or does it serve only yourself and a small circle of your friends at the cost of everyone else? How do you value yourself? I cannot convince you of these things, I can only hope to get you to stop and reflect on these things.
To be seen as a V.I.P. (Very Important Person) you need to see yourself as a V.I.P. and know your V.I.P: Know your Value, your Intention and your Purpose! Do you place a Value on yourself as just the bare minimum or something more? Do you know your Purpose and Intention? If your Intention and Purpose align with the greater good, why would you allow yourself to believe we are all equal and you should only receive the minimum amount of anything? I cannot override how you value yourself. I can only hope to get you to stop and reflect on how you value yourself.
Do you see yourself as a Very Important Person? You must know Your Value, Your Intention and Your Purpose.