There is no Lesson without Loss.
Life is full of Winners and Losers. Life is full of wins and losses. Nobody wins all the time. Nobody losses all the time. Winners learn to lose less often. Winners learn from each loss. Winners learn from losing in practice until they can win more often during game time when it matters most. Winners learn from losses. The only real loss in life is losing the lesson. There is no lesson without loss.
Imagine for a minute that life handed you everything you ever asked for. Imagine if no one ever told you “No!” What would you learn? What kind of person would you turn into? Maybe the most important lesson in life is learning to lose, and then learn and then try again.
Think for a minute about the greatest athletes and the greatest teams of all time. Did they win every match, every game, every point, every time all the time? No, win streaks are rare at the match and game levels. Great coaches and great players break matches and games down to halves and quarters and points and plays. Do great teams and great athletes win every point and ever play? No, they win each point and each play, more often than they lose. This adds up to more games and matches won. Great teams can string together wins more often, sometimes winning 3, 4 or 5 times in a row. Great teams can put together win streaks of even 10 games or more. Streaks at this level become more and more rare. Rarely do teams go undefeated for an entire season. The more games you play in a year, the harder this becomes. Becoming great does not mean you never lose. Becoming great means you lose less often.
Great coaches and great teams break down matches and games down to plays. They practice learning to win. The may fail in practice over and over until they learn to succeed. Great teams learn to string success one play at a time until it turns into a win. Coaches study player’s strengths and weakness; and how they match up against other players to figure out a way to win. Games are won one point at a time. Success is created one day at a time.
If you are not making mistakes, you are not learning. Learning to lose and try again is very important to continued success. How often have you heard a great coach say their team handled adversity well? Adversity is loss, adversity is a tough time; handling adversity is learning to win.
No one wins all the time. They learn to lose, adjust and succeed in practice so they can win more often when in counts. Does it matter if it is a game, or a meeting or a day at work? If you had a big presentation at work next week, would you practice and run it by a few people before you present it to the boss or even the boss’s boss? If you were a new hire or a trainee wouldn’t you practice and learn your new job in a safe environment before being turned loose in the so-called real world? In each case, wouldn’t you break things down into simple steps or plays and practice them until you got them perfect. And then, when everything was on the line, would be able to recover from slip-ups or expect everything to go perfectly all the time?
Winners don’t win all the time. They learn from defeat and break things down to string together more wins than losses step by step, play by play. The only real loss is not learning from the loss. There is no lesson if you win all the time. The lesson is in the preparation. The lesson is from learning from the loss. You cannot spell lesson without loss. There is no lesson without loss.
Welcome to 60 seconds of Motivational Mojo. I do not expect you to learn the game of chess to be successful. This is the acronym C.H.E.S.S. – Challenge, Help, Excite, Scare and Sustain; do something that challenges, helps, excites, scares and sustains you.
The game of chess is a classic game of strategy and skill. Learning to play chess can help you think many moves ahead. You will learn how to use each piece in different situations. The acronym C.H.E.S.S. is something different. Do something that “Challenges” you. Do something that “Helps” you. Do something that “Excites” you. Do something that “Scares” you. Do something that “Sustains” you.
Do you want to be successful? The first step in success is to step out of your comfort zone and find a challenge. Find something that challenges you to get better than where you are now. Find something that will demand that you become better than you are today. When you learn the game of chess, you do not become a Master overnight. IT takes years of study. Do not be afraid of something that just requires you to put in extra time to learn and grow. Take it one day at a time and keep getting better. This is the first step in success. Step up to a new challenge!
Do you want to be successful? The second step is to make sure you are doing something that will help you. If you cannot clearly see how you will benefit from this new challenge, you run the risk of losing your drive and giving up. Set a clear goal that will illustrate how learning a new skill or becoming better at what you do will help in the long run. Set a goal and keep an eye on it. It will help you through those frustrating times when nothing seems to be going right.
You want to be successful, correct? Do something that excites you. Learning something new and challenging will take some time. This new endeavor may not bring immediate returns. Part of learning is that learning is its own reward. Imagine if you want to learn to play guitar. Before you will get paid to play the guitar, you will have to learn how to play and perform. The thrill learning to play new songs will keep you going while you learn to play the guitar. The same can be said for many skills that you will learn to become a success. Do something that excites you, helps you and challenges you.
Do you want to be successful? Do something that scares you. Winston Churchill said, the only thing we have to fear is fear itself. For many of us, fear holds us back from doing what we always wanted to do. Sometimes we find things are easier than we thought they would be to learn. If knowing is half the battle, getting started may well be the other half. You never know until you try. Do not let fear keep you from trying.
Do you want to be successful? The final step is to do something that sustains you. Do something that will benefit you long term. Many successful people have stated, anything worth doing is worth doing for money. Another great quote is that if you a good at something never work for free. Maybe you agree with these statements, maybe you do not. I have discussed possible projects with very talented people who I respected and they said they loved what they were doing and did not want to turn it into work. They did not want it to feel like a job. So I asked them, do they love their job? Why not do what you love? Why do something you do not love for money so you can have the money to do what you love? What is the value of all of your time? Do something that sustains you!
If you have never played chess, I would suggest you learn. You do not have to become great overnight. Good things take time. My formula for success is C.H.E.S.S. do something that challenges you, helps you, excites you, scares you and sustains you. Then teach that to someone else!
The Super Simple Super Treadmill Workout.
Welcome to 60 Seconds of Motivational Mojo. Spring is right around the corner. So to celebrate I am going to let you in on a Super Simple – Super Treadmill Workout.
Can you walk on a treadmill? Do not do this if you are clumsy or do not have good balance.
Can you lift basic weights, 1 pound, 2 pounds or 5 pounds?
OK, this is simple. Grab some small weights, 1 or 2 pounds. No more than 5 pounds. Trust me.
Now, up on the treadmill. Set the treadmill to a slow pace. Trust me.
No, while walking on the treadmill, give yourself room, do not get right up on the controls.
While walking on the treadmill, do basic curls and overhead lifts with the small weights.
Do sets of 20, 30, 50 alternating arms and lifts. Curls, then overhead lifts, and then curls into overhead lifts.
Remember, keep your balance and work at a nice comfortable pace.
You do not need heavy weights or a quick pace to be working up a sweat in 10 minutes.
You will know when you are done if you give it an honest effort.
Remember, easy pace and lightweights. Trust me.
Are you waiting for everyone to love your ideas?
Welcome to 60 Seconds of Motivational Mojo. Do you have an idea or a dream that you really want to chase, but you are waiting for something, anything? Are you waiting for a sign or the approval of others? Are you waiting for everyone to love your ideas?
Don’t wait, get to work.
Think about this for a minute. The President of the United States is one of the most loved and most hated people on the planet. Trump, Obama, Bush, Clinton; they have all been President. Do you love them all? Do you hate them all? Do you love half and hate the other half? Which side of the fence you are on makes no difference, each of these 4 men has reached the highest elected office in the United States and plenty of people did not like them.
So what are you waiting for? Are you waiting for everyone to love your ideas? No matter what you try to do, not everyone will love your idea. Some people may hate it, some may love it – but that does not mean they will help you. Others may love your idea so much they will try to steal it from you. Some people will be jealous of you and some may be your friend. Then there are those who will get close to you so they can stab you in the back.
Don’t wait, get to work.
Think about this for a moment. Elvis Presley, Frank Sinatra, Michael Jackson, Justin Timberlake. Some of the most popular American singers of all time. Do you love them all, do you love all their songs? Everyone has different tastes. Your taste may not appeal to everyone. Are you waiting for everyone to love your ideas? If you sell 30 Million copies of a song in the US, that means over 300 Million people did not buy your music. So think about it, you can be one of the most popular singers in the world with a less than 10% buy-in from the general public. Do not let the 90% who may not like you stop you from reaching the 10% who do.
Don’t wait, get to work.
The only thing I hope and pray you will consider is to not do harm to others to get where you want to go. Don’t sell fear or hate to reach your dreams. Walk in hope and love for others. Are you waiting for everyone to love your ideas?
Don’t wait, get to work.
One small step at a time.
Just do it.
Start today. One small step at a time. Take five minutes and double check the facts.
Just do it.
Take 15 minutes to practice or meditate or pray on it.
Take five minutes to double check the facts. Look at both sides of the story.
Just do it.
Set aside 15 minutes a day or an hour a week, but stick to it.
Start today. One step at a time and then build on it.
Just do it.
One small step at a time.
Take five minutes and double check the facts, look at both sides of the story.
Build on it, 15 minutes a day and then add a little at a time.
Just do it
It is OK to want to be great.
Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. No one made it to the top by accident. Sometimes people are born on top and if they are not careful, it can all be taken away. For the rest of us, we will need to figure out how far we want to get in this life and a strategy to get there. It is ok to want to be great.
Will you work for it? Again, getting to the top is not an accident. Will you do things the right way or will you look for short cuts. Remember, it can all be taken away. It takes an attitude, it takes focus, disciple and energy. There a lot’s of ways to get to the top, not all good and not all bad. Wanting to be great is not enough. Are you ready to keep getting better until everyone else says you are great?
You can tell yourself how great you are the livelong day but that does not make you great. Effort, disciple, focus, practice, coaching are elements that go into being great at anything. It is OK to want to be great, if you are willing to put in the time and keep getting better. Then when enough people say you are great; you won’t have to say how great you are, you can just say “Thank you.”
It is OK to want to be great.
Do you have something that you love to do and what to get better at it? Will you admit to yourself that you have something missing that you need to learn? Will you take active steps to find a mentor?
Many years ago, I set out to become a better DJ. I was a freelance DJ doing parties and a few wedding here and there. I was not able to grow my freelance business through word of mouth. I did not chase gigs. I figured if I were good, word would get out. I was stuck in a never-ending cycle of low paying and low quality gigs. Keeping up all the equipment was not cheap and decent paying gigs were few and far between. I swallowed my pride after reading a few books on leadership and looked for a booking agent.
I called a bunch of DJ services and one got back to me in 24 hours; this was the place I wanted to join. The other guys, if you can’t be bothered to call me back in a timely manner, even if it is just to leave a message, well you won’t be my first choice. After two interviews and an audition gig, I was told to upgrade my equipment. After spending thousands of dollars on new equipment and doing a second audition gig I was handed a full calendar of bookings after my second week with the company. Did I have to swallow my pride? Yes! Did I have to take notes after each gig? Yes and that was the reason I was giving a full slate of bookings. The owner told me pointblank; you did everything I asked you to do.
I had to learn to take coaching input and get better because of it.
Now many years later I have been getting out and doing some public speaking. Trying to motivate others and help people find jobs by volunteering and paying it forward to others. Would I like to be a full time public speaker one day? Well I would like the option. Now because I have helped others find jobs, I have been very fortunate to keep my career moving forward. Now I am in a position where I am expected to give presentations as part of my job function. In prepping for presentations, I have been coached and mentored by others in the company. I have had to swallow my pride yet again, and it has made me better because of it.
Sometimes being coached and mentored is not an easy process. The goal is to get better, so you may have to admit where you are weak.
Now read these lines very carefully. Do not compromise your morals, principals or ethics to be coached. Sometimes people are put into comprising situations because of money, power or fame. Do not be one of them. In each case where I was being coached it was a win / win situation for both parties. I got a better job, extra money or a better career path and not by selling myself or getting taken advantage of in the process. Never get caught up in the hype or promise by shady characters.
Coaching and mentoring should be an open and honest process not something that is conducted in the shadows or behind closed doors. Allow yourself to be coached, allow yourself to be mentored; but do not become a target and be baited into a bad situation.
So listen to the inner voice. Allow yourself to become better at what you do.
Learn from everything but focus on the good.
The world is full of good and bad. Learn from everything but focus on the good. The world is full of darkness and light, learn from everything but spread light. The world is full of choices, good news and bad news. Choose to spread good news.
It is simple really, change your focus. It will not change the world over night, but it will change what you are learning. What you are learning can change what you are doing. What you are doing can change your circumstances. What you are doing and what you are teaching others can lead to success or failure. If you are successful you may not change the whole world, but it can change your world.
It starts with leaning and where your focus lies. What you focus on affects what you will learn, what you will say, what you hear, what you do. Learn from everything but focus on the good. Spread good news, spread truth, spread light and teach others from what you have learned. Focus on success and not failure. Be the person you want others to be like. Be like the person you want to be. You are not your circumstance, you are what you learn and what you do and what you teach others. Learn from everything but focus on the good.
Spread good news. Spread truth. Spread light. Focus on the good and teach others from what you have learned.
Greetings from Cold and Snowy Michigan. I have a pretty long drive to work ever morning. I have driven all over Metro Detroit and South Eastern Michigan for work. I have noticed cars stranded on the road and from time to time. I have noticed enough to where instead of just driving by, I try to say a little prayer for every car I see on the side of the road. I can’t always stop and help, but I can take a minute to pray for there safe passage.
I think we can at least pray for each other. I have tried to keep my transportation running while traveling for work. I try to change the oil at the full service places to make sure they check all the little extras. So when my car acts up a little, I know it is not for lack of tender loving car. So when my car was wobbling a little during a snow fall, I thought it was more because I was not used to the 4 wheel drive more than anything else.
Again, I made it home and later that night, I took out the trash and noticed my rear driver side tire was completely flat. It was cold and dark and I had to take my wife’s car to get some fix-a-flat and then take the car up to the gas station for more air. The next day I had to wait in to get new tires and make up a little extra time, flex time. Yes, it was an inconvenience, but I had to stop myself and remember I was not stranded on the side of the road. I was safe and sound at home. Every cloud has a silver lining.
So when you pass a car on the side of the road, if you can not stop and help. Say a little prayer.
When less is more:
Welcome to 60 Seconds of Motivational Mojo. I have been blogging since 2011. It is now the start of 2017 and I have came off my best two years of views. The years seem to build on one another. In the beginning my goal was to blog everyday as much as possible. The last two years, I have to fight to find the time to post on a regular basis. But the views continue to grow. I am building on my past and I am thankful for everyone who has taken time out to check in with 60 Seconds of Motivational Mojo.
I do not have editors or writing coaches. I blog my thoughts and how I am feeling and try to encourage others to tell their stories also. What have I learned along the way? Sometimes we try to do too much. Sometimes we try to overdo it. Sometimes we get in such a hurry to put down a foundation and start building on it we do not let it set. Sometimes we forget that slow and steady wins the race.
This blog has grown into part of a Motivational Network. I have joined together with liked minded people across the internet on LinkedIn and Facebook and we are using social media to spread good news and to encourage others. We have worked very hard to grow and we have lost some people along the way. The first impression is to try to do more. More posting, more calls more encouragement, then today I look back and see that you have to sometimes slow down and let things take root. It takes time for people to come around and you have to make space so others can grow.
Sometimes we want to do too much. Sometimes we have to do a little less and help coach and mentor others so there is room for them to do more. Sometimes less is more.
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